I was really rude.
By Amber
@AmbiePam (93882)
United States
September 16, 2012 4:47pm CST
I was at my parent's house today and the young man they have been letting stay in their spare room was getting ready to head home for good. He brought his cousin with him to help pack up his things (home for them is Texas, we're in Oklahoma). For a while they sat and chatted with my dad (because there is no chatting with my mom, just random words). The cousin started saying some things I didn't like, including dog fighting. Then he challenged a couple things I said. Which normally doesn't bother me except he was being a jerk about it. He and the guy staying with my parents (the guy staying with my parens is an asbolute sweetheart) are from the country (as in boondocks), and you can tell this guy has tried to "cityfy" himself. And there is nothing wrong with trying to better yourself, but he was acting very condescending to the nice one (who does not mind being "country").
So I was rude. I started mouthing off when he was being condescending to his cousin. I looked up on the internet what he argued with me about to prove I was right (normally wouldn't do it, but this time I did). In fact when I left I bid goodbye to the nice one and told him I hope he'd come back and visit. And then I turned to his cousin and said, "And you...Well, I don't care what you do."
My dad thought it was hilarious. I guess I'm able to come off as humorous because the nice one was laughing at what I was saying to his cousin as well.
When I left I felt momentarily bad. But then I shook it off. That guy deserved it.
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19 responses
@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Sep 12
It does sound like the guy deserved it. Sometimes people are just wanting to be cute and they don't care or aren't thinking about what they are doing. I think what you said was well put and I applaude you for standing up to this guy. Too bad you had to be alittle rude in your parent's house but things happen.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
19 Sep 12
well if everyone thought it was funny then it couldn't have been all that rude. Sometimes we just have to say what is on our mind. Maybe that experience will teach the cousin a lesson.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Sep 12
Why? If the guy was acting as an a$4hole , then he gave up the right to be respected.So why feel bad? You said your piece, he knows not to be that stupid around you so it was a good thing.
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@AmbiePam (93882)
• United States
18 Sep 12
It was more that I said it in my dad's house. It's kind of an unwritten thing that we respected anyone who happens to be under his roof. Even if they didn't really deserve it, we've always been taught to be polite (in HIS house, he doesn't care when we step outside it). I was very pleased to note he didn't seem to mind. He's very good friends with both of these guy's parents I kind of wondered...
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@AmbiePam (93882)
• United States
18 Sep 12
Yeah, I spoke to him today. Well, I spoke to him on the phone yesterday but did not see him. This morning I went over to their house. I said something that reminded him of the incident Sunday and he exclaimed, boy you were really mean! I told him I thought I was rude, not mean. For some reason I didn't want to come off as mean. Go figure. Anyway, I asked if it bothered him or Luke (the nice one). He said no, they both thought it was funny. But he was really surprised because he's never seen me talk to someone like that before.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
18 Sep 12
If Dad didn't yell at you, then it was ok.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Sep 12
hi ambiepam I am still laughing and love it.I think the jerk deserved it and you gave it to him. I am glad the nice one who stayed with your dad laughed too.I grew up in the country and
never thought about cityfiying myself but I know some go over board,. when he started talking dog fights that would really get
to me."And for you well I don' care what you do"
oh I must remember that as a great line for a jerk., lol
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@41CombedaleRoad (5954)
• Greece
18 Sep 12
I was rude to a man sitting next to me on a plane once. It was a long time ago so I guess as I still remember it that I felt bad aboutthe incident afterwards. He told me he had been visiting my country to hunt deer. I hate bloodsports and I told him he should do it in his own country if he must, but not in mine. We didn't talk much after that.
Sometimes politeness is hypocritical and we do need to speak up and if it comes out a little rude well that is just showing some passion isn't it?
@AmbiePam (93882)
• United States
18 Sep 12
Oh no! That does sound bad. But hey, I can understand. Animals need people to speak up for them. I know people who hunt deer because they use it for food and make things out of it for other items. Nothing goes to waste. And they do it because they are poor. But it bothers me when people hunt and kill a deer and consider it fun. Fun. Killing a creature is fun?!
@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
19 Sep 12
A condescending attitude is one thing that is sure to bug me! I debate a bit, online, and when I run into that, which is usually displayed as what I call 'snarky answers' I like to bring them down a peg or two if at all possible! Usually in a nice manner but I think I am good at debating.
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
18 Sep 12
Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do and hope for the best from there. There always will be those people who push your buttons and try to get back at you always thinking they are right. Just hope the other one can see right thru him and let him know you are still interested in being friends and hope for the best.
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@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
17 Sep 12
Maybe he will learn a lesson from you that will save him learning it a harder way from someone who would like to knock his block off.Some people just make you fume, but I am glad you came off as humorous.
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@AmbiePam (93882)
• United States
18 Sep 12
I saw my dad today. I talked to him yesterday, but didn't see him because it was the day her babysitter comes and he is gone most of the day. So on the phone yesterday he didn't mention it. Today I said something that reminded him of Sunday because all of a sudden he goes, OH, you were really mean! Mean to that kid. I said I didn't think I was mean, I thought I was rude. I asked him if it bothered him and he said no. I asked if it bothered Luke (the nice one). He said no, Luke thought it was hilarious.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
17 Sep 12
Good for you Ambie 
I love it when someone gets what he or she deserves because of being rude or has an attitude and I am sure you told him what for..
I love it when someone gets what he or she deserves because of being rude or has an attitude and I am sure you told him what for..1 person likes this
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
18 Sep 12
Sometimes you just have to be. Definitely sounds like he deserved it.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
17 Sep 12
He was definitely rude. He was a guest in your father's house and should have been wellmannered nt acting like a jerk or being provocative or arguementative in conversation. That kind of behaviour is not impressive. You did well. proud of you my friend And I am so glad that your father found it funny too
And I am so glad that your father found it funny too1 person likes this
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
17 Sep 12
Lol! I wish I was there to see the look on the cousins face when u told him that!
I really didnt understand what cityfy or boondocks is so...
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
17 Sep 12
i love it. i really wish i could come up with something good like that when i need to. but iam one of those that always thinks of a good comeback later on
i dont blame you, i would have been against anything about him as soon as he said anything about dog fights
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Some people really get into our nerves and even though how much we would want to be nice to them, you just wanna blow at him the real feelings you have about his personality. You shouldn't feel bad about it. He just needs some "enlightening".
@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
Hell he deserves it! I hate those kind of people. Like you said, there's nothing wrong with trying to better yourself, but to pretend like you are somebody and to be arrogant is really a turn off for me.
There are people like that from the countryside, who once they have stepped foot in the city, thinks they know everything more than anybody else.
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@NailTech (6874)
• United States
17 Sep 12
Well the nice ones seem to always get the bad ones to bully them around or be condescending, etc so I'm glad you stuck up for him and not the bad one. He deserved every word you said, don't feel bad, I might have said that to him as well.
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@Traycee (34)
• United States
8 Oct 12
Good Job!!! I wouldn't have felt bad at all and I also would have probably said worse things than you did. Don't abuse animals! I live in Illinois right across the river from St. Louis, Missouri. There are so many puppy mills in St. Louis. I feel SO bad for the pups that have never had their feet touch grass because they have been in a cage their whole lives. Again, Good Job!!
