Does not take much energy to smile!
By richnai2
@richnai2 (104)
Thailand
September 18, 2012 9:15pm CST
With all of the problems in life, personal as well as worldly, I am surprised that so many people seem to be afraid to say hello or give a person a friendly smile while taking a leisurely walk or even shopping. It takes such a little bit of energy - in fact it takes more energy to frown! When somebody you do not know says hello to you with a smile it is a nice feeling. I don't know why we all can not do this.
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12 responses
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Sep 12
Well, right in the middle of selling and buying a house, I got my 60 day notice. Life has been interesting.
Of course I'm not behaving!
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
Smiling does not only do your recipient good. Even you yourself benefit when you smile. It keeps you young ang hopeful and gives you a positive energy to face the day. I live in a very poor country, and so the living conditions are really terrible in some places. But people do cope because they are a happy people. It would seem like they're not living in poverty judging by their smiles. I think that they are able to persevere in their condition because of a positive attitude, and it shows in their smile.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
I'm not sure, but, it's probably Silahis. I guess that it's the only way we could cope. And if you've noticed, my people grin like stupid when meeting foreigners, especially white people. I don't know why that is. It's just an automatic reaction. It's our only weapon against the harshness of life, I guess.
@richnai2 (104)
• Thailand
20 Sep 12
Hi gloryacam!
I am in full agreement with you. I have been in your country and it just did not matter where I was, in the old Silashas (not sure of the spelling or even if it still exists) Hotel on Roxas Blvd. or in the villages in Mandanow. Everybody, rich or poor seem happy and positive!
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@allknowing (137600)
• India
19 Sep 12
I read somewhere that it takes 43 muscles to frown and 17 to smile. But I suppose it takes more than just muscles to decide whether to smile or frown.
Here is a smile for you -
Oh no!! That is an evil grin. OK is this better?
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
19 Sep 12
It takes more muscles but it might be more willpower if you're not in the right mindset for a genuine smile.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
20 Sep 12
Hiwelcome back to this virtual world where we met
because of health issues i goout much less these days, but once i am on street on my scooter, i have to stop almost every 200 meters,
i am here in this city since birth, though i taught in different colleges for long 44 years, i used to come here on week ends, i have my class mates, friends, relatives here; so i stop welcome them, hug them, handshake with some too
life is short, am 69 now, so let's smile and be happy...
@richnai2 (104)
• Thailand
20 Sep 12
Thank you my friend. I am sad for your continued health problems but your spirit is still fine and that is what to me is most important. Life may be short ~ I am only a few years younger ~ but I don't mind as it just tells me soon it will be time to rest and take a new life and hopefully I will be a better person in that one...and full of smiles too!
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@jricky1 (6800)
• China
19 Sep 12
To smile really nice to do when people are meet. So i think this is like make it enjoyable to both people. And meanwhile make conversations great. So why not do this and this is how i wonder some people always like angry or hard to get near.Plus we also feel good if just being nice.
@Sandra1952 (6047)
• Spain
19 Sep 12
My mother used to say, 'A smile is something you give for free, but you're almost always well paid for it in return, in ways you can't imagine.' I used to wonder about that, and being a kid, I took it to mean that if I smiled at somebody, they'd give me something back, so I tried it out.
Very often, it would bring material rewards, such as some sweets or a few coppers from somebody who was charmed by my gappy, six or seven-year-old smile. It's only since I've been an adult that I've realised the true meaning of my mother's words, and I'm thankful that she got me into the habit of smiling so early in life - it's second nature to me now.
@richnai2 (104)
• Thailand
20 Sep 12
LOL...you can always toss me a few coppers...but not the ones with uniforms! LOL
Your mother was a wise lady. Smiles are just good to have. I could imagine some television commercials promoting a product and the actors are frowning! So much for sales on that one!
@babyanna (1216)
• China
19 Sep 12
Hi,richnai2~
Yes, you're exactly right. It doesn't take much energy to smile. For me, unless I am genuinely happy, I usually won't smile at strangers. I'm afraid that people may think I am crazy. But if somebody is looking at me, I would usually give them a smile even if we are strangers. I'm good at starting conversations though. So say if a stranger is sitting next to me, I would sometimes start a conversation with a smile.
For my friends, I do smile a lot. Smiles make me feel better, I would say.
@jellsiguenza (147)
• Philippines
19 Sep 12
Yes it is true that if a person smile at you it gives you a nice feeling. But some people are too busy or occupied with their problems that is why they forgot to smile. I am not a smiley person and I really wish I can be one. Well, im trying but I think still not successful about it because my kids sometimes tease me that my nickname should be "frown". Hahaha. have a nice day. :)
@richnai2 (104)
• Thailand
19 Sep 12
That is funny! It reminded me of when my kids were young and one of them was frowning about something or other and I would take the other one and we would look and say, "Oh, you look so beautiful now!" or something silly like that. Before we knew it we were all just laughing our butts off.
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
19 Sep 12
i think it's part culture, part personality. in some cultures, you're expected to smile and greet everyone you pass by, even the people you share the elevator with, and make small talk. so you strive to be pleasant even when you're in a hurry, not feeling well, worried about something, etc. other cultures are more reserved and mistaken as ill-mannered or unfriendly, but not really because once they warm up, they're actually helpful, generous, and trusting.
it can be frustrating when our personality clashes with our environment so we either adapt to it or seek the culture that agrees with us. or we can be the change we want to be and eventually become a positive influence to the people around us, like what you're doing.
@richnai2 (104)
• Thailand
19 Sep 12
I remember being in your country a long time ago and it also was full of smiles and good gestures. Not only because I was a foreign visitor but it was evident it was coming from their hearts.
It is the same in the country where I am presently living. Smiles are just part of the culture and way of life.
I have also been in countries such as my own where the "outside crust" is hard as a brick but one accepted it melts like sugar.
But I will remain me and no matter where I am you get a smile!
Thank you for a nice response!