If you trusted me you wouldn't need an explaination

I find the title of your discussion very interesting..."If you trusted me, you wouldn't need an explanation." Very interesting indeed. Is this what you told her? If I am understanding you, even though you have not said this, she asked you a question about something, and you told her that she did not need an explanation if she trusts you?? That, to me, is a recipe for disaster, why? because communication is the life of a relationship. If one does not communicate, then that leaves their behavior open to interpretation. It is nice that YOU feel that you two have known one another so long that you should not need to explain yourself, however everyone does not think like YOU. People are different. YOU may be a totally trusting soul, you believe what is said to you, and that is fine, you have FAITH in a person. But there are people out there that have been burned, hurt by their parents, or their best friends, or by co-workers, and so they are NOT as trusting. These people need more communication to happen in their relationships. If you love a person, you should be willing to tell them things to EASE their jealousies, because if they care about you, they are GOING to be jealous!!! I don't think it is a good thing to do, to play with someone's fragile emotions by telling them "you should trust me." If you love them, communicate what you did, where you were...that is what love is all about.

I think she is just upset, i think this is a misunderstanding. It's common upon friends, don't get carried away by your emotions. Give her time and space to think it well. I know she will soon realize what she did is not something she had done. Seven years is so long, i know you are familiar with each other behavior and attitude. I am praying for your conflict to be resolved and blooming of your friendship until the end of years.

Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo. As my friend 'ryanong' says, "Sometimes that's how life goes." I mean, we try to be 'nice'; but each-and-every-one of us are pirates and thieving animals at heart. We want to help our friends, but not at the expense of our own comforts. (And if you're willing to suffer a little discomfort for a friend, they'll start to expect it of you and may start to take you for "granted"; so people learn not to inconvenience themselves.) Your friend is just learning something about people ... probably something like 'nobody cares what all you do for them; they all would rather leave you "condemned" than go out of their way to save you.' And in my experience, learning that about one group-type makes you suspect almost-all group-types of the same thing. Example: I grew up with a sort of Entitlement Philosophy (i.e. a 'rich kid,' or (if you ask my parents, who had 'making ends meet'-jobs) a 'rich kid'-wannabe ). In my early twenties, I was convinced that I "deserved" a help-mate (like Adam 'deserved' Eve); even though I'm unemployably disabled and so can't AFFORD to woo a wife! 'To get a wife' was the ONLY reason I went to church, and--as I have no other means of "pitching woo"--I somehow reasoned that the appropriate way for me to "court" a lady was to 'practically stalk her' (i.e. not to actually stalk her--which would involve 'following her home' & 'staking-out her home' etc--but rather just 'finding out where she would be' and 'meeting her wherever she went' ... ALL IN PUBLIC!) That, &--whenever I did see her--the only thing I could do to 'show my intention' was 'hug her.' And sometimes the hugs got a little too deep, and--Well--the new church I went to didn't like that at all. I thought I had explained my situation to the church-leaders; but they were raised with the same Philosophy I was, and had learned that guys have to EARN that Entitlement by "working hard" to earn a "large income" (not 'millions,' but an income several times larger than mine) & -by "carrying a sizable force monetarily (or credit-wise). And--as I can't do all that--they were not interested in helping me find a help-mate! Doing so--it seemed--would take too much time away from their precious hours sleeping or -eating or -preaching or -working or -'watching TV/movies/whatever' or whatever else it is that they think they need to do. And--from that place of 'thinking that nobody wants to help me fulfill my place in Our Father's Kingdom'--I was almost convinced that nobody else was going to care either.

Everyone has a different perspective. There are people who do not need an explanation to trust a friend he had known for years. There are people who need clarification before making a decision to trust a friend or not. Your friendship has lasted long enough, he knows you but maybe you ever do something that makes him upset that he can not trust you if you do not explain in detail or without evidence.

a friend of 7 years and did that is not a friend.you chose him wrongly.the mask was reveled and his real face is now here.

Trust is the most important in a relationship either love or friendship but once it broken it's hard for us to trust again unless he's doing a way to gain your trust again. I think your friend misunderstood the situation or she's affected to it. If she ignore your explanation, email her and explain everything and I suggest you to give her time to heal the pain.

I suppose this is really unreasonable.You've known for so many years and i think friend know you. The reason why he told this maybe due to there are some misunderstandings between you.Have a nice conversation maybe works and don't feel worry about that.

Do you know why she doesn't trust you? I only have close friends that I trust, and I hang out with other people as well, but I don't share personal stuff with them because they haven't showed me that I can trust them! I believe that trust should be earned, it's not something that should be taken for granted. You should ask her what happened and why she doesn't trust you, maybe it's just a misunderstanding and you can explain everything. Additionally, as a woman I have insecurities sometimes without any particular reason, and I expect from my friend to prove that he is here for me! Maybe it's just a phase that you'll get over soon if you show her that everything is ok and she shouldn't be worried :)