Benefits of being a listener

This I would agree with for the most part. I've found it better in most cases, if possible, to let go of your own anger so the situation will just diffuse.

I do agree there with you.I feel that it is better to listen than to be heard.I do tend to listen to all that people are trying to say to me, but sometimes it is also better for our health if we just switch off, as that way we do not get to the point that our bp go up, or that we may say something that we later regret.

'Listen to someone' is something that has to be learned. Many people one 'hear' somebody speaking and he or she thinks already to be listening to the otherone. And there start many missunderstandings. Usually, we learn it with the age (unfortunately not everyone), so that's why your grandfather was able to share with you this great wisdom. I you know to listen and apply it, you prevent many problems and will see that some problems will disappear instead of growing more and more.

It is really an important skill to listen. Most people nowadays failed to listen to other people due to their bloated personalities and awkward principles. However, merely listening is not beneficial either. We should balance listening to talking in order to have an efficient communication with other people.

You have a good point. If you let someone rant and rave without reply they will ultimately look ridiculous and,if they have any sense of self-awareness, will realise this too. Let them run their course and get it off their chest.The old maxim holds true "If you have nothing worthwhile to say, then don't say anything!"

I have a father who is like that.He does not urgue at all he just listens and looks at you in the eyes.This makes him one of a kind

I agree. There is no point in trying to have a conversation with someone who is upset, wait until they cool off. They will be calmer and you can discuss rationally why they are so upset.

Less talk, less error, so it's better to listen especially at times when someone is talking to you in anger. Your grandfather's wisdom to speak only as needed is a great way to anticipate such tendency towards an argument or misunderstanding as to always keeping an open mind.