would you be jealous if your bf had a best friend that wasnt you?

I'll get jealous but if they are friends years before our relationship,then it will be fine.I hate it when we already have a relationship then suddenly he'll meet a girl and they will become best friends. If that's the case, there'll be definitely arguments about that girl. I know I should trust my partner but I won't feel comfy knowing that as friends they will spend time together going somewhere, etc. I guess it's better if he'll no longer communicate with her or just minimize it. Happy mylotting. :)

Nah. I wouldn't. I have a lot of guy friends who I'm really close with, but we don't have "hidden romance" or anything. Actually, you should be jealous when things are getting weird between the 2. There are normal things, and there are warning flags that you have to watch out for. For example, my bf is really close with this girl at work. I won't get jealous until my boyfriend starts talking about her a lot (warning flag 1. Severity:low). If he does, I'll want to meet this girl. When my bf doesn't want me to meet her then start getting angry and be as green with envy as you want. Something's up! (Warning flag 2. severity: extremely high) So when I meet her, you can feel tension between them if they have something going on. Of course it'll be a little awkward because the girl (even if she really is just a friend) would try really hard to please you and put your mind at ease. But still, if they have something you'll feel it (like your bf is aggitated, or seems finicky - warning flag 3. Severity: medium). If they go out a lot (like they hang out often outside of work), then you should be concerned (warning flag 4. Severity: high). Especially when he doesn't want you to come along with their dates (Warning flag 5. Severity: high). When they go out and he comes home really late or rather early in the morning (warning flag 6. Severity: Extremely high). If they go out a lot

I'm one of those who fell for my best friend. Or should I say my guy became my best friend. So I can't talk about my experience but I can tell you about a friend of mine. She has a best friend who is a guy and her husband has a best friend who is a girl! They love each other and there isn't a issue. I say if you meet a guy with a female best friend , stop before you get in too deep. He may stop seeing her for you but in time he will resent you.

When my ex-boyfriend and I were together I was in that situation. He had a female friend that he had known for many years and when my ex-boyfriend and I became a couple he continued to spend time with her. I was jealous when he wanted to spend the evenings with her instead of spending the time with me. I don't think that they were ever in love with eachother, that wasn't my impression, but I never got a good relationship to that girl. She didn't like me and when the 3 of us were together she didn't say one word to me. Today I am married to another man and he doesn't have any female friends.

Hello there Sweetlove. In my case, I would really be jealous if my boyfriend would have a girl best friend. I think he isn't communicating anymore with his high school girl best friend when he started seeing me. I think he really needed to do that because they were really too close. When his best friend went abroad before, they didn't communicate with each other anymore. I am a bit afraid that if they would add each other in their Facebook accounts, they might be too close and sweet with each other again just like the old times. They might have constant communication again. I think I don't like that to happen. It's not that I'm too selfish but it's because I think they really liked each other before. I don't want my lover to fall for another woman because I really love him and I don't want to lose him. I couldn't imagine living my life without him as my partner. If they would talk to each other again, the old feelings might come back. I just don't want my guy to be sweet with another woman. I think his sweet and caring words belong to me. If he would utter them to another lady, my heart would really cry. I would really feel broken-hearted. That already happened many times. I really had some trouble with some of my guy's friends who are girls before. Especially those who really said "luv yah" and "I miss you more" to him. I think those sweet expressions are inappropriate to say to a guy who's already taken. Those girls should've known their limitations too. So what if they were really close to my boyfriend? So what if the other one was claiming to be my boyfriend's best friend? The big question was, how come I didn't know about them? I would only read some sweet messages from them without me having any idea that they were already so close to my boyfriend. I think from the start, they already knew about me because they could see my guy's relationship status in Facebook. That was really visible so how come they could afford to act like that. To make it shorter, I think I would be jealous if my bf would have a girl best friend that isn't me. I would really feel uncomfortable and bad about it especially when I would feel that he's becoming colder to me because of that other girl. I really wouldn't like him to have a new girl best friend. He could be friends with other girls, I'm just okay with that. Though, I don't want him to be very close with any of them anymore. I just want him to be friends with them. They should just have plain friendship. I just want them to talk casually with each other. They don't need to be so sweet each other. I won't allow anyone to make me look and feel like a fool again. Never again. Anyway, I hope you are having a good time right now. Happy myLotting to you. :)

I'd honestly be jealous too.. Even if my bf reasons that that girl is just a close friend, I will ask him, "can I not be the friend you need than her"?:D Haha :D they said couples should be a package of lovers & friends..

Well, told your BF that you are jealous ask him to share everything just with you so both of you can be more closer Thus she will take you as his best best friend

Would I be Jealous if my girl friend had a best friend that wasn't me? No, I would be looking for another girl. Jealousy is the demand for something that isn't yours. My girlfriend is just a 'girl' 'friend'. She's not mine. I don't own her. Thus, if she wants someone else, that's perfectly her right. Second, I would only marry someone who is my best friend. So if that other person isn't my best friend, and I'm not her best friend, than that's a key indicator that I need to move on and find someone else. Now if I am married, then this is a very bad sign. My wife should be dedicated to me, and me to her. If she has someone else that's her primary relationship, that's a red flag. Marriage counseling is needed.

That's gonna be a big NO no to me. I want him to consider me as his best "girl" friend. I would understand if that best friend was male, but a girl, no way. He'd better choose between me or the other girl, I'm sorry if it sounds mean, but I really agree with what you said about best friends falling in love. I have read, heard and knew some best friends who falls in love. I'm glad my bf doesn't have a best friend in his current location, he has his bike as a friend though and even though it doesn't have a life, I still get jealous..lol!

No i wouldn't feel bad and i would respect their friendship. Most of my friends were men and i felt bad when their girlfriends were jealous of what we had. It was really selfish of the girlfriends to try and take the friendship from me. Good thing i didn't lose any of my friends because of their girlfriends. That was why they always introduced their girlfriends to me first. So, i do understand when my lover has a female best friend that isn't me. In fact my husband has lots of female friends and i'm not jealous to any one of them and nor is he jealous of my male friends.

yes. certainly one will be jealous. You select a person as boy friend because you depend on him too much and you want him to shower affection on you only. you are right in feeling jealous when your boy friend moves very closely with another person treating him as best friend.

I think that any one will be jealous in such a thing.I saw that before and have experience about it

No, I'm not comfortable if my boyfriend has a girl bestfriend because same with you I feel also insecure with her. Comparison also between us may exist.My boyfriend can also be my bestfriend so he doesn't need a girl bestfriend anymore.

I might as well get jealous if my bf has a best friend that is not me. But I don't mind though if he has close friends some people he can trust his secrets to, yet the thought of it just not quite right with me. Well my husband has always tells me that I am his best friend that I replied with a grin or a sarcastic smile. Of course being married.. our other half should be our best friend. I actually saw this soap on television where a boy and a girl has became friends even in their toddler years and eventually became best friends when they grow up. They were okay and really close when no one was not in any relationship yet. But... problems arises when they finally find their love ones their friendship falls apart as well. :(

I won't feel jealous if they are already friends for a long time before I meet them both. See, there are friendships that stronger than true blood (brothers/sisters) so, if my boyfriend and his bestfriends are friends for many years already- there is no reason for me to get jealous.

I would be jealous. And if I knew it the first time before the guy becomes my bf, I will definitely not make him my boyfriend. Just imagine your bf talking to his bestfriend about the other things that he cannot say to you. That is totally sad for me.

hi sweet, Maybe I will be jealous but in a relationship trust is important so maybe just maybe I am just human who can feel something but if they both can prove that they are only best of friends then that will be fine with me. happy mylotting

Yes it would bother me also. I don't stop him to make friends with anyone as long as those "girl" friends knows thier limitations. Maybe some would say its ok but deep inside its hurting and crying. So ithink there must be a limitations to whaterver thier friendship is meaning for. Or else better choose as early as possible that no one hurt much.

I would be jealous if his best friend is a girl. The same way, perhaps the he will be jealous if my best friend is a guy. I think I will advise my boyfriend to limit their contacts and every thing with each other. X| I get jealous easily, that's what I think I will do.

Hi sweetlove! If I am in your situation, I would be jealous, having best friend with other girl is normal but being close to each other and he left for that girl is not normal unless he has a valid reason. Maybe you should talk to your bf what actually their relationship and speak out your thoughts to him in a nice way. You should also prepare yourself on the answer of your bf. Good Day!