You have to promise me...

I don't think I'd keep the promise. Her family has the right to know unless she has a very crucial reason for it. But, in the very first place, I wouldn't promise. I'd just say, "I'll try my best."

hi, if that will happen or or encounter like a situation like that,i can't promise to my friends that,because i love my friends i will tell his/her condition to his/her family so the family will know that and to cure my friend with the help of family.

I won't hesitate and will just break my promise rather than see him/her suffer. Of course, before doing that, I would tell him/her about my decision and let him/her understand.

There would be no way that I would be able to promise a friend of mine that I would not tell anyone about them having such a condition. The reason that I would not be able to make that promise is because of the fact that I firmly believe that the more support that you have when you are going through something like that in your life, the better you are going to be able to cope with it in the long run. I know it might make my friend mad at me, but to me I think that would be something that was worth it.

I think I would keep it a secret if they asked me too. Also, if it was vice versa I would expect it as well.

That is indeed a very difficult situation, if you really promise to her then you should fulfill your promise but you have to convince her to tell the situation to her family but if she doesn't really want to then you have to let her doctor tell it to her family at least you are not breaking your promise of not telling her family about her condition.If she already told you her situation and then she said promise me you should not tell it to anyone, then I guess you can say that I can promise that I will not tell it to other people but to your family I can't. I will think about it first if I should keep this secret towards your family.

Asking someone to keepmthatnsecret places an unfair demand on you. You are likely to be shocked, saddened and also flattered that you are trusted sufficiently to have such a secret entrusted to you. I think that I would want to discuss this at some length with my friend and discover why it needed to be kept a secret. Eventually the truth will out and everybody will see that they are very ill anyway.

That would be tough since you know what they are going through. I guess if you kept their secret it might hurt others who would want to help. If they only have a few months to live then their wish would be to go in peace, nobody wants to see somebody pass and this might be their way of unburdening others. I could keep the promise if they needed me to.

WHen I think of 'friend' I think of my BFF and she is so close with her family that they would just know something was different and she wouldn't want to keep it from them. If she came to me and told me this I would question her and tell her how important it is for her to have her familie's support throughout the episode. Why wouldn't she want her family to know? Crazy!

I would respect her wishes, because it is not my place to go around telling people, but I would try to encourage her that she should at least tell her family, because that is something that her family should at least know about so that they can help her adjust to what is going on with her and so she wouldn't have to go through it alone, besides me knowing about it.

I would honor their wishes. I know how different people treat you when you are sick and some people do not want to live that way. It is the person's choice of life style and therefore no one Else's business.

I would have to honor my promise to my friend. It is not my life, my choice or my secret to tell, so it would not be right for me to go against my friend's wishes and tell the secret. I am sure that my friend would have reasons for hiding such a thing from his or her family, and I would try to talk with my friend about those reasons to try to understand them and help in any way that I could. I definitely know that keeping such a secret would be almost unbearable, and the pain of being the family that it was being kept from would also be unbearable when they finally found out. However, in the end it would still have to be my friend's decision, especially since that is the best way that I could honor my friend in whatever time he or she had left - by standing by my friend and not betraying his or her trust.

For me, I would keep my promise not to tell his/her family about it. His/her family would know that soon in case but not coming from me. Many cases that the ill person doesn't want to inform the situation to his/her family on the first stage but as soon as it became terminal, the family will notice it until the person would ask help from them. Patients suffering from cancer needs emotional support. So being a friend, I will give my full support for him/her. I would not tell it to anyone.

i think i can't promise her,when she id terminally ill,i think she need her family's support, if you promise,her family will feel terrible and it is not helpful for your friend,good luck!

That would be a tough decision to make. I think I would encourage my friend that she needs to be fair with his/her family because his/her family also deserves to know the truth and should be able to give her more time to be with them. I mean, yes, it is very painful to now that a family member has terminal cancer, but wouldn't you want to let her feel happy on her remaining days?

wow this one is real tough. I would not like to have a situation like this in my life and I pray for good health for all my family and friends. If I have have to face it, I would keep the promise not to tell anyone and we know what cancer is and what is the end result of it. So, I would not want to make my friend unhappy by not promising him or her, so i will promise . Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

Tsk tsk tsk. This is very tough. Maybe I would give her an allowance first and give myself a time limit until when will I keep my mouth shut. Even if I don't want myself to involve in this kind of problem, I don't have a choice because my friend told me and as if begging not to tell about her/ his condition. But I won't stick to her/his decision. I don't want to be selfish. And if there is one person who needs to be by her/his side, it's not me but his/ her family. I would just encourage her to tell her family about her condition. Keeping it a secret will give her an extra burden. I would just tell him/her honestly that for now, I would keep the secret, but I am not assure him/her to keep it for a long time. I could also tell her that I will help him/her to tell his/her family. But I hope I won't be put in this kind of position. And not my friend having cancer.

I won't promise coz I really believe the family is rightful to know of her condition. They way I care & love my friend, I am sure the family cares & love her double or triple or something I can't even measure since they are family. I will let them know- so that whatever may happen eventually, the family at least would be able to spend enough time caring for my friend. Whether my friend hates me for doing so- I will be at ease that the family's feeling were not forsaken :(

i think that the difficult decision for me.maybe that the promise i can,t keep it.cause if they family doesn,t know it would be bad for her condition and her family.i think i should must tell her family about the condition.