why we dont value what we have?

Hello Kat, Actually men are not showy like women does. I also felt that way, I felt ignored and treated second priority, when in fact it's not. Women assumes too fast. When her man/lover is not sweet, she assumes she was neglected/rejected. Anyway, that depends on each situation. Every relationship/s are not the same.

You have a very good question here and it made me think as well why. My guess would be, people think there is no need to value their other half because they already knew that they own or they already have those unvalued people. They think that when they already have it, there is no longer a need to value it more because they know they will never lose them at the moment. And when they feel they no longer need or want that person, the value would then be gone and eventually the relationship fails. This happens to my relationship sometimes, the need to be valued is gone at some point. What I do when that happens is, I tell my bf frankly why he doesn't value me anymore. I sometimes would understand his answers but other answers are really not fair reasons enough. But anyway, when you love the person, you can feel it when he still values you. And when that value no longer is present, I think it's time for you to move on.

I think it is very normal for the people. People all like something that they have make efforts to get. But once they achieve their goals, then they lose the interest as time goes by. And they will pursue another new thing.

I think you may be too sensitive to how they act . Girls always think more than boys. At least I always do like that. And that can just make ourselves upset. He is like before.

Hi,there,it's a very common phenomenon,at least for me it is. At frist,we don't care much about them,even they are nothing to us,so they need to do their best to know us and to get our acceptation.Once we admit theirs existence,we start to caring them,missing them,and do whatever we can to cater them,then they are proud of themselves. And they may feel though they are careless,there is nothing will be changed,yours relationship has been confirmed.Well,just for your information. Have a nice day.

we don't value the people until we loss them,i often do that,sometimes i will regret it,but when the time is passed,we will meet new people,we will forget it, we think there is nobody who we can't replaced,so we often ignore the people .there is no reasons why we like to stay with some people but forget,i think.good luck!

I think we just get too comfortable in our lives and start to take things for granted, and this then means that you think that you no longer have to put the same amount of effort into things to get things back for yourself. I know that when my Dad lost his job we really struggled to see it through because of the fact that we had got so used to having a huge wage in the family. We had to cut back on all kinds of things which we would have never thought twice about buying in the past, but once we got into the habit of it we wondered why on Earth we had bothered to spend that kind of money on certain things in the first place when it would be much better to save it for other things that we would all enjoy.

I think one major set back that happens is a lack of communication really. You can have general conversation with a loved one but unless you talk about your feelings towards that other person then they really don't know how you feel. If your sad that day, let them know so they can hold you. If you are happy, tell them, so they can be there with you. And etc. I've run across the same issue before though. I have come to a point in relationships where it just seems like "there is nothing to do" or "we have run out of fun time".

As you already know, i have more male friends than female friends. Most of them told me that girlfriends that are too sweet are scaring them away. They kind of lose interest when it's the girl who shows too much affection to them. They like it when the girl is not too sweet and seemed a little bit uninterested. They like challenges. I think that's why at first they value you because at first they think you're a challenge, but the moment you showed them your sweetness, they just tend to stay away. Dont' worry though because those guys who do that to you means they are not meant for you. Because a person who will really value you is someone who's serious in marrying you.

I know what you mean and we dont know their value and when they leave and lost them we know