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When i start a discussion i dont even know that someone responds until i get it in my email and mst of the time i barely even wright comments to the people that respond to my discussion i started. I do look at my interests discussions more than i look at any other discussions. I do try to look at as many discussions aas possibe. But for instance this response has probably taken me about 30 minutes. Im the only one at work and super busy with stuff. So to me if i dont write back oh well its not the end of the world and i think thats that.

I have noticed that too. And there are some not so new members who typically comment on everyone else's response except mine. It would seem that my opinion doesn't count as far as they are concerned. It's very obvious. I don't bother to respond to their discussions anymore. This type of behavior is rude and childish. I don't believe I have ever posted anything that could be construed as argumentative or inflammatory. There are plenty of other discussions to respond to. There's no point in getting upset about it, LMB. It won't make you feel any better, in the long run. But I understand exactly what you're saying. Rant away if you like. There are quite a few others who feel as you do. I've seen it talked about lately in other places.

Theres a lot of reasons I dont respond to everyone all at once. Sometimes I cannot come up with a response for every person right away and will go back a few days later and see if I can come up with a response at that time. Personally I do like to read responses people have left to my comments on their discussions but I dont expect everyone to respond back to me or get mad if they comment back to otgers and not me.

I don't respond to every one because if I have nothing to say, then what can I say? I can't just say, "thank you" because that is against the guidelines. Plus some people make comments that is best I don't reply to because it could start a flaming war.

I don't think you have responded to any of my discussions. Admittedly I haven't created many, but it still holds true. Equally we are not 'friends', so why would you? I think, by nature, you are a caring soul and that is why you expect others to reply back to you. Personally, some responses are difficult to reply back to and others impossible, so I can understand why not all are. I also see that many people reply direct from email and if they don't get an email then they will never respond. Rude? Maybe, but maybe not.

Well thanks for putting up this discussion. i am also of the same opinion as yours and would completely support your thoughts. Yes i too have observed many people neglecting the discussions being posted and selecting very few to leave their responses. If this continues then it would be difficult for us to know about the valuable opinion of the other people. I am sure people will take notice of this thing and will try to leave their comments. Yes it is true that it is not possible to leave comments on all of them as hundreds of discussions are being posted and there are also some posts that are not easily understood by all. What say?

I can understand if someone responds to only a percentage of the replies, providing that they choose to replay to the responses that make valuable and worthwhile contributions to the discussion. After all, many discussions receive a fair number of half hearted responses. However, I agree with you in the cases whereby only the responses in agreement with the person who started the discussion receive a decent reply. I have started numerous discussions in the past and have had responses disagreeing completely with me, but if they are valid points then I would always be grateful for the input. Without valid points made both for and against a topic we would not really have a worthwhile discussion.

I love your title and I absolutely agree with it too! I can't tell you why other people do what they do but I can tell you why I do what I do, which is not what the people that you are referring to, do. If I start a discussion, I leave a comment, sometimes more than one, to everyone who responds, eventually. sometimes, like right now, I get myself in a muddle and start too many and then I get behind with all of them but I start at the beginning and go through them until eventually I finish them all. Only occasionally do I comment to a leter response, maybe because it has something important in it or because I know that the person has just posted it and therefore is still online. I know that there are some users, one in particular (and he has said this many times) who does not comment to everyone but he does read all of the responses. That is his choice and we should respect it I guess. If I land on a topic where there are responses which have been overlooked, and I am in the right mood (because sometimes the topic starters believe that the discussion is their property and no-one else should comment) I will go and leave comments to those who didn't receive any. Nothing wrong with that in my books as discussions here are open to one and all. What we can do, if we know who those users are who decide to skip some responses and only respond to their friends, is not to participate in their topics at all, no matter how interesting they might appear. It will save us from tummy-ache later on

I have also noticed the members who comment on their friends responses and ignore the responses from people who aren't part of their friendlist, and I often wonder why they do it. Are they only interested in their friends' opinions? I think that they miss out on a lot of things that way. When I start a discussion I am happy to receive every response and I don't care if people are on my friend list on not. The only responses that I (sometimes) skip are the ones that are extremely short like one line or a few words. It is always nice to talk to my friends, but I also love to hear the opinions of other members.

Lovindmybabies: Yes. I do pick and choose. Many others do pick and choose. Why? Some members are posting five or six discussions per day. I want to respond for my friends discussions initially. This one I picked up from the top column. So out of five or six I take one or two for responding and leave the rest. Out of the two discussions I select I respond for an interesting one and if both are not to my ability/field I omit. This is not rudeness to friends but is an indication that friends should start discussions on interesting topics. There is another angle to what you have said -- Among the responses for one's discussions -- you may see a few of them are replied whereas a few others are not. One it may be due to want of time , two it may be because some questions is raised in the response and replied. In my discussions I try to see that I reply all the responses without fail because I know I earn only when I type that is when I reply.

Personally, I would try my best to answer every response that my original post had received. From the first down to the last but there are times that because I could not understand the reply and it would need me to further read it, I would leave it for the meantime so I could come back later.

hi lovingmybabies, I do pick and choose, but it isn't only my friends I respond too. I sometimes do not have a comment for the person because there is really nothing to comment on. I do try to reply to as many as I can but it is difficult. My daughter broke my laptop and I have to use my little netbook. It is a pain in the butt because it only has a 7" screen and I cannot always read what I post. I do not hope people think I am being rude. If they are I apologize. Maybe when I get a computer I will comment back because it takes forever for me to do it on the netbook.

Am I one of them? My computer has been a pain in my royal *&(*)()_ anywho. I open a discussion to respond and either my computer shuts down, or screws up, then I loose it and then the page wont open, they I say scr*w it. This has been happening the past week to me, and I think its my useless cheap Futureshop computer. I've been trying to catch up and it wont show up half the time.

I understand what you are saying. For me, when I do respond to a discussion and I get an answer back I will try my best to keep the discussion going. At times I am busy and do not have that much time so before I go to a new discussion I will check the old ones that I have participated in. It may take a few days or even a week, but I will show up!

On very rare occasions I will skip a response if I cannot connect it in any way to my thought. I will not say "Thank you for replying". Otherwise, what people need to realize is not only does it further the discussion, it improves their earnings when they converse back and forth with other members.

It is impossible to respond to everyone, remember some people have all day to be on mylot and some just a few precious minutes. I respond to people who respond to me. For example you respond but you don't always respond to everything I write. Everyone has to find their own system to make mylot work for them.

Unfortunately there is nothing we can do about it. That is not a guidelines violation either. I just had that taste yesterday when this user commented on all the responses except mine. I will never respond to that user's topics again. This discrimination is going on with gay abandon.

Hi LovingMyBabies Happened with me a while back - when a couple of lotters will NOT respond to any of my responses on their discussions. I realize that they are politely telling me to stay out and my opinion is not needed. You know, MyLot is a public forum where you cannot explicitly ask anyone not to post or appear on your discussions. It is as simple as that... rules are made... to be broken. Personally, I have never wanted anyone out or away from my discussions. But yes, I admit, there have been times when I have not responded back - but it is not to any one lotter, it is like, I lost interest in the discussion I made or never got the time to return back to respond.

I've seen this on a few as well. They're choosing to not participate in key parts of their own discussion so I am thinking - perhaps, they're being seen by the admin as well so they probably won't earn as much as we will. That's just my opinion though so I don't know. I typically respond to everyone on my discussions. there might be one or two comments I didn't respond to on my first discussions but the reason... I think was just that it was a similar comment to the others and I expressed my thoughts to it before or something.

I can understand why you would feel bad about this, because I agree myself. In real life, it's rude to skip someone who's talking to you and talk over that person to someone else! I think the same rule applies here. I don't know about anyone else or what their reasons/excuses are, but my parents raised me up to be polite and respectful, and when someone talks to me, then I should respond, even if there's only time for a smile of acknowledgement. I don't intend to lecture, just point out that it is rude actually to ignore others. Peace :)