If you found out that you're a rebound, what will you feel?

Angry... Used... Worthless. Being a rebound isn't fair. Especially if you have feelings for that person. Luckily, i haven't experienced this kind of situation but i know its totally unfair even if the other person if ready to move on or something.

I will get hurt and for sure i will leave him right after i knew that i am just a rebound.

I'd be playing second fiddle to a memory, so I would part company.

hi, for me its not fair when he always compare his previous relationship in his recent relationship with me because for me its an awkward or can offend me,if i he always do that maybe i need to have a cool off because we might have an always misunderstanding.

I always believe that a mistake cannot be corrected by another mistake. Being a rebound as the "reason" for being in the relationship is not only painful and unfair, but a big mistake. I may not be the greatest person on earth nor the best lover, but I sure know that I deserve more than that. So despite my feelings, I would listen to the dictates of my higher self, which is to end the relationship and not allow myself be hurt in that manner again.

I would feel like screaming and also I would blame myself a bit at first for falling into the same trap again. I would try to change the way things are and if it doesn't work, I would give up on this kind of affair that would only bring me more pain than before.

I haven't been in that kind of experience, but I am well aware that I had done that to other exes at one point. I realized it was not good to get into a relationship or entertain someone's hopes as more than a friend if I was still confused about my feelings regarding my recent ex. It is a defense mechanism, you want to numb the pain the other person caused and also because you think that you are running out of time and you've got to live in the now, there are many fishes in the ocean, so why refuse other dates. That kind of mentality. But sometimes the haste of trying to forget quickly isn't really working the way we want it to.

I was once in love with one guy for four years, and I didn't think that he felt the same way about me. But then one day he told me that he loved me, and it was just after he split up with his girlfriend. He said lots of things about how he had always liked me and had hoped that we would get together, but he never got the chance to tell me. It turned out that he just wanted to be with somebody so he chose me because he thought I would be the easiest seeing as I already liked him. I have to admit that it made me feel pretty rubbish, and I will be much more careful about who I fall in love with next time.

I've never personally had a rebound relationship. However, I was the girlfriend of a man that was on the rebound when I was a lot younger. The way that I felt about it when I realized what was going on, I was really hurt. The main reason that I was as hurt as I was was because of the fact that I was giving my all to what I thought could have been a great relationship. Instead, I later learned that I was nothing more than a pawn in a game that he was playing trying to get his old girlfriend to come back to him.

I don't think that i would feel good about myself if I were a rebound choice in a relationship. a rebound is the next choice that comes along. I would not feelthat the relationshio was real after that.

We don't have that problem in our marriage so I am one of the lucky ones. I hope someone else can give you a answer to the question because I am out of ideas. Good luck and let us know if you get any good ideas.

I would feel bad if I figured out that I was just a rebound. Besides I don't like being compared to other people. But I don't think that comparing would be a defense mechanism to consider it as a rebound. May be its just really in his/her attitude comparing people. :)

At first i will try to talk to my partner but if he doesn't want to stop or change, it means he's not love me that much. And i will leave him. I don't want to enter to a relationship that i might get look stupid or rebound. Just my thought! :)

hey, according to me if somebody is comparing you too much, you better step back. This is not fair that a partner keep comparing. If someone has an affair after a heartbreak he/she should move on rather than comparing the two because then it hurts to others and everyone tries to do best for their partners by means of comparing someone actually destroy the ehart of happiness behind it.

If I found out I am a rebound, I will ask him once and for all to choose between me and her and to stop comparing me with anyone. I will give him one last chance to change and to love me for who I really am. If he really changes and I have seen that he truly loves me, the relationship will continue. If not, we will break up.

I don't think I would, if it doesn't grow out of love then its only a fling and those aren't supposed to last, hence the name. I would be with somebody who loved me for me, not for what I might be compared to. Life is too short to stay with somebody who doesn't love you and want to be with you.

This is one of the reasons that people who are virgins on their wedding night, have the lowest rates of divorce, and the highest levels of satisfaction in marriage. For those who sleep with people they are not married to, and get with someone who also has slept with someone before them.... Well that honest truth is, you are going to have to fight through being compared to the previous relationship. And it won't be easy, and it won't be fun. It *Can* be done however, but it will harder for you, than those who lived a moral life. You'll just have to work at it. Good luck.

I think that being on the rebound is the start of something beautiful in the future if the new partner will show him the difference between him and the ex. if you love your partner, you will do anything to win his love. But if your partner is hust using you to show his ex that he has a new "trophy", better leave than get deeply in love and be hurt.