do you get married with him,or his family?

Yes,the moment we get married we consider the thought how the family will accept us. But it's a fact. So, just be yourself and think that, they are your family too.

I think of it like His family happy = him happy him happy= me happy Same way My family happy= I am happy I am happy = He is happy So we can not avoid family :), it has to be there and it has to be dealt with

love him with all your heart and mind, as they say. in different cultures, getting married to a person is like marrying the whole family. love goes beyond that cultural characteristic. it does matter whether or not you get to live with his/her family, what matters is that both of you will live together for the rest of your lives. how is that for the future? it sounds really nice.

I guess his family comes with the deal of marrying him.. though we really do not have to live with them as it is a lot more practical and ideal to live in a separate home. but being able to live well with his family particularly his mother is also nice, no animosity..no hatred or something like that. I do have a good relationship with my husband's family, though we rarely see each other, i believe we are good and i do treat them well like my own parents too.

Well thank u for posting this discussion. I can say that marriages are all about sacrifices and compromises. There are some things in life after marriage that we have to adjust with and if that thing is the person's family then we have to handle them with lots of love, care and affection. After all after our marriage their family also become our family too. What say?

Hi quanquanzhang, before i got married i know the fact that i need to love his family, friends and relatives like my own. I am glad that my husband family are very kind and love me too the same way i do. My father in law is a very strict yet lovable person and two brother in law are very supportive and understanding person. I am lucky to have a kind in laws who always there for us in times of happiness and troubles.

Though we say "I do" to the person we are marrying for better or worse we get the family too. The family is a part of the person you are marrying. They are important to him so will be in your lives for the duration. When you marry you don't live in a bubble or on an island. Too many time people don't realize this fact. We think that any thing we do only affect us but the truth is every thing we do affect those around us too.

Welcome to mylot here our marriages are arranged marriages, most of the families are combined families, where you can find 3 to 4 generations live in same house together peacefully, so we are married not only to spouse but the whole family, this makes a home, happy sweet home