I don't wanna be others burden

Hi friend, your attitude is good, there is nothing wrong in it. I think your family members don't understand you, so only they are thinking in this sort. Be independent and earn for your needs, don't worry about the person who don't understand you. May be you are selfish in their views, but you are not responsible for their thoughts, do you activities and enjoy with it.

I think that there is nothing wrong with that. I guess that most of us do not really want to be someone else's burden. I do not know why they would tag you as selfish and proud for being like that. I just want to ask you something - how do you manage when someone from your family is asking for help or favor from you? Because not all people are like us who would shoulder everything instead of asking help from others. How do you react to that?

Good for you you are an independent person. I myself is also an independent person and I love being independent. I mean it's when I am able to concentrate with my life and the things that I want to do in the future. I want to make plenty of money for myself and help others too. Do not think that you are a burden to some I mean dont feel sorry for others if you didnt do anything really bad to them. Life is too short so enjoy your days my friend and also do not be guilty or paranoid about these things. Everything is going to be fine, be positive. And here is something I want to tell you to prove that what you are doing is correct, do you know that you are a person who thinks like a rich person? Why? Rich people know that selfishness is a virtue, in order for a person to help others he/she should help him/her self first. And that's what you are doing, you are being selfish now so that you can help other people in the future. Mediocre people feel that they need to save the world right now so they help others first before they help themselves. Little do they know that the time will come they will not be successful in helping others if they will not start with their own lives first. goodluck and continue being great. Happy mylotting!

I totally get what you're saying, and to be honest, I admire people like you who are self-reliant and so independent that your own parents practically don't have to worry about you and how you're doing. On the other hand, I can understand why some people can see this the wrong way. Maybe because they haven't met someone like you before and they're still going to take some getting used to to how you are. A little advise though, it is okay to ask for help once in a while. But if you're doing fine and you're not hurting anybody, then who cares, right? You're living your life, you're not relying to anyone, your family loves you, bugger the haters! :)

i don't know how you feel exactly but being a person like what you describe earlier is not very good in my opinion.. because we are social being and we need each other to live. so how come you say you don't want to ask help from another when maybe another just see you exhausting or tired and want to help you.. just by helping a little its not called a burden and i think that if somebody really want to help you they will not think you as their burden. help each other is a good act. do you ever help other too ? how do you feel ? do you happy if the person you help is happy too ? please think back about being another's burden.. anyway, i also admire you because you can do work while studying in college. i also want to be like that. but still in my opinion, thinking that you will only become another's burden is not good for yourself and you social life..

I think I understand how you feel. I have received a lot of favor from my family and friends and it somehow hurt my pride. I always ask myself why I need others help. If only I could solve everything on my own. But no! There's a saying that; "No man is an island." There will come a time that you'll be needing the help of other people. If they help you out of love, then you will never be a burden to them. Unless... you habitually ask for people's help. Then I guess, that could be wrong. Being independent is good but being alone is lonely. Why don't you try to open up your heart to others?

Personally, I think there are a lot of people out there who are like this, and I would not always consider it a Bad thing. I know a lot of times I feel like this as well so sometimes I will be cautious with what I am sharing with someone, and many times will keep something more to myself. Because in general in this day and age I feel you never know what a person's intent is, and if they are not really helping it could be harmful sometimes to share too much.

I think it is always good to be independent person in life and also tries to help others. I think at the same time we should mix these things with being dependent on others also. I think we should try to respect others and love others and also try to ask for help for others in our lives. Most times we do not consider burden when someone ask for help to us and at the same time others also will not consider us as burden to them.

I have always been independent also. Now though I have a disability and need more help than I did before. I still try to do things myself and not ask for help unless I need it, but some of my friends think I am just being stubborn. I realize though that they have their own problems and try not to ask for help if I don't need it.

I see what you mean and I feel the same way about myself. Out attitude are sometimes misinterpreted as being snobbish, selfish and proud. Only if they knew what we really have in our hearts and minds that we wouldn't want to bother anyone if we can do something about certain things.

That's a good attitude you have there. Maybe those people who criticizes your attitude just wanna be needed by you. People want to be needed by others because they think that that is part of the reason why they exist in this world. Maybe once in a while ask them something maybe they're happy that way if you let them know that you want them to do something for you too.

i can underatand your feeling,but you should know helpping others will let people feel them to be needed,if you have never asked the help from them,they maybe think you can't trust and love them,if you have s little things which you can do ,you can ask help,it will not be burden for them,on the contrary,they will love you,i think,good luck!

We're actually the same. Some people just don't understand and they became irritated that I always depend on myself and don't expect more from them. They misunderstood the fact that I am being independent. And the sad thing is that sometimes they think of me as a bad person, boastful, and the like. We just need to be open with them so they would know that it is our real attitude, being independent at all times.

There comes an age when you have to live on your own. You can be dependent on your parents till the completion of your education. After that, it's your life and you have to deal with it. People who still sit at home and depend on other even after 20s and 30s are huge burden to any one and they are like parasites, just fit for nothing.

I don't understand your question. It seems to me that not wanting burden your friends is pretty much the same as not wanting to be a burden to them. I think you are doing good to work, go to school and not burden any one. My hat's off to you. I wish my grandson thought like you .

Generally, if you are standing out from the crowd in a good way, I consider this a positive. Especially when most people are poor and broke. It doesn't surprise me this irritates people. When good people are really good, it bothers bad people, because it reminds them they are bad. Because you are taking care of yourself, and advancing yourself, it's possible that you are reminding them of how they are not advancing themselves. If I have to ask people for help, and get borrow money from everyone, then you should too. When you don't, that bothers me, because I want you to be as needy as I am. It makes me feel better for not being as responsible. Then again, it could be simply a family thing. Sometimes people just think that if you don't ask them for things, you are saying they are not needed. I'm not sure how you deal with that. But usually loving and talking, and just hanging out with family members is a good way to fix most family problems.

ya for sure ,no one wants to be either it all depends on the way we take it and carry forward with favoring others and without troubling others much

Yes true happiness lies in being independence. There is no probability of being humiliated in being independent. Im agree with you as because we have lots of potentials in us of being independent. So why will we seek for help or favor from others. We are not jackass. We have no time to hi and hello them in excess as we are to give concentration for our plans. Apart from these we dont like favor as because it will desdruct our creativity. Stay well

I totally agree with you, except I think it's pride that makes we not want to ask people for help. I figure if I can't do it myself, I won't ask someone to do it for me. I brainstorm and find a way I can do it myself. Sometimes people will ask if I need help and it's hard for me to swallow my pride and accept help, but there comes a time when someone will help you that you can help them back. But, in the mean time your pride and ego have to be allowed to be put aside for getting some help. I think that is why I've worked in nursing homes and places that work with the mentally challenged individuals to help them and one day to ask for help when I'm down and out.

I think the key of this problem is not the burden issue,it happen because you have less interaction with your family and your friends.We live in this planet can not without the communication with our society,so I think when you communicate more with your family and friends then those issue will be solved sooner or later.