A Time Frame After Break-up

I agree that there should be some sort of "break" between love affairs. The problem is that peoples' relationships fail then they jump right into another one--which also fails. They continue the pattern because they never stop and reflect why the affair failed. Why do they keep choosing the wrong person? Why do they fight about the same things with different people? Why do they choose people who abuse them or take advantage of them or cheat on them? Until they discover why their relationships fail they will keep repeating the same mistakes. Having affair after affair without examining why they fail is a sure guarantee of a miserable love life and never meeting Mr. or Miss Right. If your friend doe meet the right person right after a break up, he'll be there in a few months after she does some self-exploration and contemplation. If not, he wasn't Mr. Right but another bad choice.

I don't think it's for us to judge whether some one needs to have a time for the break up, just remembered when the ex of our president suddenly fell in love with another politician who is more handsome than he is. not long after that they got married and live happily ever after while the President is in cahoots doing his usual job

We cannot tell if it is really Mr. and Ms. Right, when jumping into another relationship from break ups. But it is also depend on the purpose of the person why she/he decide to commit another relationship. At first we can see that it heals fast when you found someone so fast but I don't think it will result in a long last since she/he only uses it for ease the heart break. But they are instances that if it is the Right one love will always find a way to make it last.

A lot of stats do say the short between relationships especially long term relationships usually dont last. Now I know some who have defined this, and others who havent. I know one girl a week after breaking up with her boyfriend she was with a new guy, then the next month with another guy. I know so many who say this is the right man, and then they break up. Maybe, its just me and I dont throw all my cards into one hand.

Hi friend, it is based on the individual wish. Some persons are not interested in finding another person after their break up and wait for a long to renew their relationship with the ex, on the other hand some persons will find their new pair soon. There is no rules are time frames are existing in finding a new pair, if we are interested with a person, and he is apt for us then we may start our new relationship, if both of the side is ok

I believe there's no fixed time frame, whether 6 months,less or more.. But I think, the only confusing part in your friend's situation is being able to find a new apple of her eyes..the reason why your other close friends are doubtful about this too, is because they may be worried that your friend is just in the tendency of using the new guy as cover up,, or past time to be able to forget easily. Your friends are just concern that she may be hurting herself by her own actions.. But who knows- true.. then give her time to deal with this new guy.. As what the popular song says.. "we found love in the hopeless place".. then if it's love-it's love! :) haha :D

This is absurd. If they want to follow a stupid rule, let them follow it. I think it's rubbish.

It all depends on the maturity and stability of the people involved.

If your friend is happy, I'd say she didn't have any problem with the breakup. Why wait?

Hi shavkat, personally I don't believe that there is a rule as to when should we enter another relationship after we broke up. I think it depends on the kind of relationship we have with our boyfriend.Some people while in a relationship realize that they are not really happy or just mistaken being into that relationship and just wait for the proper timing to call it quits. Its a case to case basis maybe.

Well, I'm not very knowledgeable on the subject, because I have never been involved in a romantic relationship yet. However, I would emphasize that it is often said that love is blind. I do not think much to the discourse of the rule of the time. When it's over, it's over! A note for you: Why do you write a lot of discussion but no answer ever to comments?

She seems to be just jumping from one to another. Six months is good but I prefer to wait a year. Waiting a year gives a person time to get rid of any excess emotional baggage from previous relationships. It takes months to get over a failed relationship. Two weeks seems like a foolish jump from the frying pan into the fire. That new relationship will not likely last either.

Good evening my dear friend shavkat , i am not the type of person to judge based on not knowing the persons involved , but i have also have a verry close friend that was involved with someone for over three years , but in the last year the relationship started to get verry cold between them , him becoming agressive with her , and she found comfort in someone she met just a few months before the relationship ended , and they only hooked up after the relationship ended between the two of them , and she found comfort in her friend. I wish you to have a great evening , and i wish alot of courage for your friend.

Hello Shavkat. While I agree that there should be some time allowed for one to do some reflection and self evaluation- if one is 'afflicted' with a failed relationship- I do not agree to setting a specific timeframe ought to be expended between the end of one's old relationship, and the beginning of another. I think that, having done one's interspection, one should be free to enjoy the search for another partner.

I think that there should be a time frame when you are going from one relationship to the other. I mean, yeah you may be over the person recently that you broke up with, but I think there should time one should take to be a lone and actually weight out the options of what they are looking for in a relationship. Let them have time to just figure out what it is like to be single for a while. So, I think that yes there should at least be a time frame maybe 6 months yes and I think that if they find someone that they are interested in there is no harm in at least starting it off in a friendship and let it grow from there. The best relationship I think always starts from a good friendship. I had a friend who would break up with one guy one day and like literally she would be with someone else the very next day. Then she always wound up hurt later on down the line. I always tell her, just don't jump right in to another relationship, give yourself a break. But she never listen. This last relationship she is in, I hope that it works out for her. I really do, because it is sad to see her get her heart broken and she just jumps to the next guy that claims to like her when he is only in it for one thing.

I think that three weeks is too short to move on unless she broke up with her boyfriend because she has someone else already. I just can't figure it out how could she and this new guy can possibly work out with their 'new' relationship in just very short period of time. Is this new guy the reason why she broke up with her previous boyfriend?

hi, for me there is no time frame to have a new relationship after break up,it is not that bad to have another relationship even the break up is a week ago,and aside from that there is no bad for that as long as we never use that way to move one.

Right. I mean, it's not like she came out of a 20+ year marriage and is marrying the next guy tomorrow! And the "commitment" takes time to build anyway; that is, her 'choosing' the guy is only 'being aware that she MIGHT be committed to him.' There's the whole 'wooing' process; 'becoming lovers' is only 'STARTING to climb the mountain.' Maybe 'mountain-climbing' is a good way to understand 'relationship-building.' If you can easily make your way down from the past 'relationship mountain,' you can start the next one as soon as you find it!

Usually after the break-up, you only need to give yourself time to breathe,relieve the stress from the pain it has caused you.Pause and ponder why the break-up happened, what was learned from it so that it will not follow the same track again instead an improvement or adjustment to character. And so,the time frame depends on the adjustment of the person,if he/she is able to cope up at an early time or wants to heal earlier with a start up of getting to know a knew relationship then let the time frame ends.

Yes, you are right. There is no need to hold back if you had found Mr./Ms Right. I was on the edge of heart ache when I found my husband. But I did not use him just to forget my ex-boyfriend. I waited for the pain to ease while he was courting me. He knows my situation. And when I am ready we get married. And now we are okay.