"some people just like to express what they are feeling"

prashu yes. i understand. Ask her to read the book "Born to Win" by Dr. Eric Berne-- she will understand. -- Transactional Analysis and its uses. please see my another reply comment.

For some people getting a success takes a lot of time. I got introduced to five or six boys and girls last year online. One got employment in one month, another in three months like that . And just now got a mail from this Andhra girl stating that she got employment in andhra Bank. great. She is an MCA she was struggling for quite some time. her parents were not allowing her to go for software company jobs. and now her problem is solved, so one has to be patient,

she is like that from childhood, she cant get married now, she have elder sisters. they should get married first. here its not the question of marriage at all. she is very straight forward.

prashu It is because girls get married at 25/26 years nowadays. They live in the house only girl or only child. Then lot of pampering for them. This makes them feel that they can get anything they want. That increases their confidence and they do not react properly to people especially inlaws.

jaiho you are on the other side of the table -- you are in inlaws position-- and you are a clever woman indeed. ahahah today also you changed your avatar? what is this? I cannot identify jaiho in a crowd !!

yes, this is the problem, over frankness, doesn't help us, instead makes us mad, people cant be polite all the time, she must realize it

yes, she realize it, but after sometime she again goes to the same line, but thinks alot ,as to where she is wrong and what can she do to over come , she is still working on that , hope she will succeed

Hatley aunty: I am sure you are aware of Transactional analysis by Dr,. Eric Berne http://www.businessballs.com/transact.htm Most importantly avoid anger, be good to people, be good to bad people also to an extent, be kind to others-- these points will help any one.

now her problem is the same ,she cant just "hi" to the people who are bad or done something bad to her, she just cant act,(which is not at all harmful to others) at least which is very much required now a days.

yes, she is already facing the consequences, lost her job recently,

Online life? Interesting.

Losing a job is not a big issue. How to retain the next job is relevant. please read the following links: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transactional_Analysis http://www.businessballs.com/transact.htm very very useful materials. they may be useful in online life also. good day.

its the best, but people just don't understand it, they think otherwise, straight forwardness also leads to some problems, few people may understand it but many cant resist.

This is explained in a theory known as Transactional analysis - Each of our personalities is made up of various parts: the Parent, the Adult, and the Child ego states. Parent ego state is based on what is taught to us. --being strict, lenient, kind child ego state is based on feelings--happy, sorrow. Adult ego state is what is to be used in day to day operations - in office - act based on here and now situation -- supposing some person asks why did you come late? One can answer as follows: You are also one among myself -- you have no right to ask You also came late yesterday. I am an important person, nobody can ask me. Sorry. I got up late due to tiredness. I got delayed. All are responses but the last the response may avoid further problems.

she is like that from childhood, but things doesn't work that way, even she lost her job recently, because of this.

yes, she is just thinking that ,she is frank, but that frankness is creating problems to her, i advised her few times not to be like that, but.. may be she will learn the things slowly.