Big family or just one child?

I think I'd like to build a family with two kids only. One boy and one girl. I do not want a very huge family because it gets difficult to manage. IF there are plenty of kids in a house, a kid may complain that they are not given much attention and may also feel jealous about the other sibling so I want to be able to balance as much as I can.

I would not imagine having more than 2 kids. It is already difficult to cope because I tend to be really stressed out. Besides I think that if there are more kids in the family I would not be able to give a sufficient amount of attention to each kid. So personally I prefer to limit myself to 2.

I think this is a very personal chose and one of the things two people have to discuss before marriage. Children are time consuming but very rewarding too. Some people say they are a lifetime commentment. Others are glad when they are out of the house. It is up to the individual. I have chosen to help my daughter raise her son and it is an everyday adventure.

Actually,I have the same opinion with you. Being the only child in the family,I always imagine that if I had an elder brother,how much care I would get during my childhood!I would be stronger since I had a conscientious couch.I would be brighter since I had a wise guide. However,because of the one-child policy applied by the Chinese government,my parents have no chance to give birth to my poor elder brother.Thus,like most children in China,I just own a samll family. How about you?Is there a similar policy in your country? What's your comment on this kind of policy? I'm looking forward to your viewpoint.Thanks.

I have a 17 month old and we probably will not be having more due to finances.

I have 5 siblings, and if this is considered big family, then I say 'go big!' Seriously, giving your kids siblings might be the best thing you can do for them. They get instant friends and confidants in life, as well as loyal supporters. I'm speaking only from my own experience and point of view of course. All the families I know and are close to have a minimum of three children. The general consensus is, "the more, the merrier."

I have natural and active labors at home without any pain relief. I have one or two midwives attend to me at home. I had my first son born when I was 22 years old and thought he would be an only child due to my studies and then career plans. I wanted to study to become a teacher. That is exactly what I did. When my course ended I began working as a primary school teacher. My marriage lasted six years before we got divorced. He went back to Australia where he came home. Years after my divorce I had a relationship. When my son was 12 years old I wanted to announce my pregnancy to my son and said I had a surprise him. He guessed that I was getting another dog. No I had told him I was pregnant. He was very surprised indeed. I was at that time 34 years old. I had a gender scan at 16 to 17 weeks pregnancy and found out I was expecting a baby boy. I had a strong feeling that something was wrong and I had tears on the journey back home. At 20 weeks pregnancy I had a detailed scan and it put my mind at rest. At 36 weeks pregnancy it was upsetting when I found out that my baby had spina bifida and hydrocephalus. My baby son was born at home that then he went off to hospital to their special care baby unit. He had two operations and then came home at 3 weeks old. He is now aged 5 and in a wheelchair. My older son is now 17 years old. When I was 36 years old I got pregnant again. It was my daughter and now she is 3 years old. I think having 3 children is my maximum. I have to pay for the flights and these are pricey after the child passes their second birthday. I am very keen on traveling to different countries.

I only have one child so far and he's already 8. I want to have one more but I'm worried about our financial status. I guess, one child is enough. If there will be a twist in our fate, then I'd love to have another child in the future. I want to secure their future. Happy mylotting.

I would absolutely have loved to have been able to have a big family, however, that wasn't something that was financially feasible for us. So, instead we have just two children, my daughter is going to be ten in December and my son just turned six over the weekend. I wouldn't trade my children for anything in the world, but I wish that I would have been able to have had the six children that I always dreamed of having.

When I was younger, I only wished for 2 kids but God has given me 4 boys. It is really better to have a smaller family so that we, as parents would be able to provide the needs of each child without sacrificing some things that might be important to us.

hi, yes,its true that is why before you start or build a family you should have income or stable work to sustain all the needs of your family,and also parents decide to have one or two child so that they can support the needs of his child and this was started long ago in Asia to reduce poverty and population.for me i am happy to have three siblings.

I have two children a 20 month old and a 5 week old. Either of them where planned and we still want to have two more kids. We never saved money up before having either of our two kids. Since like I said both where unplanned we were very broke at the time. We where dirt poor living with family and not eating very much at all. After I got pregnant with my first child even though we had no money we found a way with the help of government assitance to get all the medical and food needs that was need. this helped my husband save up money for us to get our own apartment and to buy food on our own. He has gotten a better job before we found out that I was pregnant again and we where doing better by then. so I know to have children you don't need much money and to children money is nothing. There is way to buy everything you need and get what you need you just need to look. Of course for some things you need to qualify for its not just going to be given to you.

I would go for a large family, maybe 4 to 5 kids will do. 2 girls and 2 boys. i agree with you, as I look forward to the future, that could be promising and rewarding. Money spent could be possibly the other way around, I think, it could be slightly descending. Though the value of money now is different 10 years from no.The spending will be huge amount now on - necessities,incidentals, premiums etc. And as time goes by where my family will be reaping all those savings and investments. Less expense on them for they will be working, they can spend their own money and help me in any way. Sounds ideal, but I will do my best to make things settled and organized. Thanks

When I think of big families, I think of like a family of 6 or more; 4 kids and both parents. Even that is a bit much for me. I plan on getting my Doctorate's Degree so financially, I'll be fine & I know my husband will be too. It's just.. why have all of those kids?? Lol. I don't think I can do it. I was raised as an only child. I had plenty of friends and god-sisters/brothers so I never was lonely or anything. However, I always said I would have at least 2 kids because I want my children to grow up with someone close to their age. The max I would have is 3. I also want to adopt so I'll more than likely have 2 biologically and adopt 1. That's just me. Everyone is different. You do have to plan for EVERYTHING though. If your career is pretty steady and there isn't a chance where you'll be out of a job about 5 years later or going out of business, then by all means have the kids you want. However, if you're not so sure about your future/career, I would hold off. That way, it won't be such a hassle for you and the family as well.