How Bad Is It?

Jodee, I do understand where you are coming from, but over the years I have decided that the person who said "most people are about as happy as they make up their mind to be" was right. I look at things more from the "yes, and. . . " point of view rather than the "yes but. . . " point of view. I have a dilapidated old house, yes, and it is nearly paid for, and the payments are low and it has been a place to give shelter when others were in need." When I find one user too negative, I skip a few discussions. The world is a wonderful place and we have lots of opportunity. I will admit some of my discussions have been negative, but I try for more positive and unique discussions. I am sure many of us have it good compared to others.

Actually I do not believe that things are bad currently. The nature of on-line discussions does allow people to air their problems and when bad things happen they can almost scream out on the web. Social sites like Facebook are the perfect outlet here for some people, as is MyLot in a way. Yet there are plenty of ongoing discussions on the site that are not problem related. Also I am sure these things go in waves, and next week will see discussions of a different nature. Don't worry, be happy.

hi Stoutjodee well since my lot is for everyone to discuss whatever they choose as long as they do not break ru les they can say anyting. You are right that first lets consider do we have food in the fridge, a roof over our head, power water and gas? Are we healthy? see so many times we are so sucked into what is missing we do not appreciate what we have.someone in another country might not have half the things we have and still be gratedful. but there are people whom life just seems to have dumped on them all at once.And Iannot but help feeling sorry for them as they did not cause any of their problems. Mylot is a place to share, and care, to help if we can or just sometimes listen.I don not really see it like you do as they are not my problems. we each have our own ideas as to how much to share here and I repect us all here., I will not judge another as I have not walked in their shoes., some complain our discussions are too short, too long,too revealing, not interesting and on and on blah blah blah. But mylot does not say they must be x length or x revealing or x not revealing. so we should all accept each other for what ARE,

Sometimes people find it easier to open up to people they don't know personally. Perhaps that's what is happening here.

I guess this is a topic aimed at me cause I guess half or more of my discussions are depressing. But I have always lived a depressing life anyways, was born into it so thats all I know. I try to think of non-depressing things as much as I can, it isn't like my life revolves around drama all the time though. I can't always express my feelings where I'm at now so this is a place that helps me get things "out" and not keep the, bottled in. I'm happy to see all kinds of discussion topics, I don't care if someone has to be depressing, they are getting things off their chest at least. It helps to get advice about it on here as well, that is how I see it sometimes. Right now I have some very depressing other things to talk about but will just keep the, to myself cause I don't want to go on about the bills again.

I have seen it too but i would just respond with a positive attitude. I know we all have problems and some people do not find it easy to share it to the people around them. So, the easiest way to pour the heart out is writing it out here on mylot and it feels good to get the positive comments. Transforms lives at times. So all is welcome. Pour it out and be relieved. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

I like the anonymity of myLot. None of my family and friends will see what I write here so if I am having problems with a particular person they won't see it here. I wrote a dismal post recently and I don't take it back. Heck, there are heck of a lot more problems going on in my life besides that. Getting advice and encouragement here is good, and so is prayer. If you can't offer anything else you can at least pray for these people and their troubles.

One that bothered me was someone who just got a job, but is already complaining about not making enough money. I'm sorry, did you just expect a raise after working a month? Be thankful!

I know some do go overboard, but others occasionally mention what they are going through hoping to get some advice on what to do. I know I have done that in the past before.

NO, I don't think it's just you. I get tired of all that whining some folks do constantly. If we all would look around we could see alot of people that are alot worse off than we are.

How is this discussion so different form the ones you cite where people are airing their problems or "bad" experiences? Just because someone shares something you consider to be other than positive, it doesn't mean they have lost hope. They may have no other outlet for dealing with the difficulties of their life other than sharing it anonymously on myLot. If you're so positive, why aren't you posting something to uplift those people?

I feel this group is a better place to say what is on your mind, rather than facebook. I choose mylot freinds mostly by age and life style, where my facebook friends are family and close friends. I just had surgery and am very depressed. Only my children and very close friends know this, not my family or in-laws, so nothing has been said on facebook.

STOUTjodee In a group like this it's hard to know if peole are exaggerating or even making things up. I give people the benefit of the doubt ..to a point. We never know what words of encouragement might help and if we are being snookered, that is no shame for us for trying to help.

I get that it can be a downer to always have depressing discussion but this is a site where people feel like they can talk and discuss what is going on in their world. Whether that is depressing or not. For me, if the conversation is too heavy and I don't have anything to add, I just keep it moving. Sometimes, I like to read other responses and find that there are a lot of people on this site that are very insightful with their advices and I like and appreciate it.

then don't read those discussions, they could very well have just as hard a life as yours or more. They do need to talk about it instead of holding in inside and getting sick. There are a lot of people on mylot who are there and willing to listen and help them out. Mylot is a place where all kinds of people join for various reasons. It is a blessing that people can find solace in mylot and perhaps get some happiness from the fact that there are a few people with a listening ear.

Here you do not have to physically see the person you are writing to and unless you give your real name, they do not know where you live, and what street you are on. And just because they have a roof over their heads, and food in their bellies, does not mean everything is h0nky dory. I can think of myself who even though I was married and now a widow, I longed to give birth after marriage and wanted a large family, but did not get it. Then there are those who are wealthy but suffering from an incurable illness, those who have bad luck even though they do not live evil lives. I could go on and on. Here we can tell our troubles and also give encouragement to those who are down and depressed. And in this life, there is always gong to be trouble.

I have noticed that too...probably because it's a place to vent..and get some answers from people that aren't involved in the situation. Sometimes hearing it from others or just writing it down helps to either solve the problem...or get them some good advice. It really doesn't bother me...but I am alot like you ....I have a bad leg that causes me alot of pain somedays....but I always figure...at least I am still walking.

I dont mind depressing posts at all. Its nice to see everyone is human and has feelings. I like to be that ear for them to have to vent to. Perhaps in real life they have no one to talk to when they are sad. Everyone has different situations in their lives that upset them but it doesnt mean just because they have a roof over their head and things they are thankful for doesnt mean they dont have the right to complain. But hey lol your venting now about them venting in a way you dont like. There are others who will not like what you have wrote either. Mylot is for people to write what they want and people will agree and disagree.

Because, as you say, you just had to vent, it seems you might need someone to talk to. It is true that we all have problems of one degree or another. Sometimes we can handle them on our own and sometimes we are blessed with family or friends that are willing and able to provide a shoulder to lean on. Those of us who are not so blessed have to pay psychologists to listen to our problems because it is easier to unburden ourselves to someone we don't know. That is probably why a lot of people air their troubles here online. It is easier to talk about our mistakes with someone we have never seen and probably never will. Sometimes the advice that we receive from people online is very good and when applied to the problem actually helps. If you find that this type of discussion just makes you more depressed by all means avoid them. There are just as many upbeat and funny discussions as there are drepressive ones so you can choose those to read and interact with. By the way. do you also refrain from watching soap operas and reality TV?

For whatever you say like you don't like venting your problems with others you are still doing here. Also most of them who are here are jobless or joined under recession as this is the best way to have some earning. May be the easy way from home. Well mylot is all about sharing about themselves and their experince in life with themselves or what they have seen in their life.