when the friend forget your money

hi adhyz, About a month ago I am asking this friend of mine to return the money she borrowed from me it's been year and it seems she always have excuses not to pay me. But as I can see on her facebook account she eats at middle class restaurant, have a splendid vacation and not to mention new gadgets. I fed up and told her no need to make excuses cause from now on I will not ask her to pay me back at least in small amount she puts price on our friendship and on her whole being. well you can take it legally or simply forget it. happy mylotting

If I send my friend a message to pay me back that friend can NOT say he forgot he ever borrowed money from me. If people refuse to pay back this should be a lesson to you. Do NOT borrow money if you can not afford it! Many people will not pay you back, they will only come up with lame excuses. The fact you borrowed the money means to them you have plenty of money. They will also say it was your own free choice. Friendships will die if you borrow money. Many friends find it normal too to see it as a gift. So learn your lesson. Do NOT borrow money to anyone if you might need it yourself sooner or later! The only thing you can do is go over and confront. Tell when you want your money back. If not the friendship is over. A friend should not treat a friend who helped him out this way!

I hate when friends do that kinda make you look like a liar , I dont like the feeling . My friend did that and I just let her have it but that was the last time she get money from my hands .

I will ask my friend, to sell their goods which can be sold, to pay debts to me.

I already have confronted such situation and it feels bad when you meet such friends again. I hate it when someone don't keep their promises and especially if they call them as our friends. I have landed money to three people and had not a very good experience with them because non of them was able to keep their promises. I think I will stop giving the money anymore to anybody because I am already tired of all this drama. You should tell the friend that it is a bad behavior and ask if for the payment as soon as possible and never give the money to him again ever.

I have too many bad experiences loaning money to a friend, so for more than 3 years now I have stopped and always reasons out to them that the time is hard for me too. Some will evade your path whenever you will see them in the street, some will hide, some are ungrateful and will talk behind your back, others will invent all excuses they can think off, and some will just ignore you. Most of them borrow money with no intention to pay you. And only a handful are glad to pay you back.

Hi adhyz82, I did come across such helpless situation. My friend didn't return the money she had borrowed a few years after the date she had promised. It's not a small amount. I worried that she might forget and I went to her and asked her finally. She apologized and said that she still couldn't clear the debt yet. I suggested her to make payment by installments. Of course she would pay the amount that was in her price range. Yeah, in this way I could get back my money gradually. Really it took a few years for her to clear the debt. Anyway I'm glad that she paid the installment punctually though it took quite a long time yet it's the best way for her to pay back the money without any pain Happy posting

This person is not your friend. You are his/her patsy. Never lend more than you can afford to lose. If you still want to be friends with this person, write the loan off as a bad debt an never loan any thing to him/her again, ever.

Some people are like that. When they need something from you, they are so good. When you lend them money, they promise you to pay them as quickly as they can. However, when you handed them the money, it will be difficult for you to get it back. You'll just hear reasons and excuses. Be wise in lending your money. Just lend it to the person who knows how to pay on time. Happy mylotting.

I had experienced such situation a lot, and I am sickend tired of asking those ungrateful people again and again. A friend of mine, maybe not anymore, I knew that he live alone, and he might not make much money from his part - time job, once he borrowed my money, he never pay me back until now. Even though I asked him a couple of times, and he kept on telling me this and that, all are bull. Sometimes, he bragged about paying this girl from Honduras to U.S. to see him, so he can get lucky. I would like to ask him, what about paying me back first. Next time, he attempted my sympathy for him, I would just hang up my phone. Sometimes, you must be stone - cold against those people.

must say that I will hate the situation so much. i'm kind of shy person to handle that kind of problem, but in case I really need that money I will force my self to keep ask the money ( that's my money, isn't it). may be I will say that I have terrible problem and I don't have money right now but I really need money, may be I will say that my sister is sick and need my help. ok, I will lie because seems like no choice. anyway that's my money, I deserve that. except I don't need that, I will let it go, but won't borrow him anymore

hi, forgetting the money taken from me? no way, though my friend did remind me that he still owe me but some other times. I also told him to retun at his convenience though it is not a big amount. I think you should check with her frankly if she could help you at this moment or you let it go.

When a friend is in need, we provide what he needs to show that we are really his friend indeed. But when we want our money back, our friend may just not be able to repay because he is still not out of his bad situation yet. If that is the case, there is nothing we can do as our friend is not in a position to pay back the money. If we want to prevent this from happening, the next time when our friend asks for help, we had better ask him first when is the time our friend can pay back the money to us if we are going to lend to him. If our friend says that he does not know, will we still lend to him? Are we a friend in need for him?

You need to confront that person. If he or she refuses to pay back the money, then there will be no next time for him or her. Have a great day!

I never loan money unless I can afford it. Once you loan it, get used to the idea they won't pay it back. If they do, you're ahead. If they don't, NEVER loan to them again. Preferably don't let them in your house again either. If you refuse them money, they hold it against you. And they feel perfectly within their rights to take it from you. In their eyes, you are their friend and owe them that money. They don't see it as they did you wrong by not paying you back. Good friends wouldn't do that to you. Loaning someone money is the fastest way to find out if they're really a friend or not.

It is too easy for your friend to put you off when you send a message. If you really need the money, you will have to ask fir it in person. If you friend really ia having a hardship, ask for part of the money now and get the rest later.

Ohhh difficult question if friend is best then politely ask whats the reason you are not return the borrowed money. If friend share the problem and I know the proper reason then I will wait when good time will came of my friend.

hi, actually it is happening to me right now,i have a friend who borrowed money from me and it almost 6 months she still didn't pay it until this time that i really need the money badly,of course i will force her to pay the money she borrowed even i know she experiencing bad condition.

i will ask him again and again ,keep pestering him unless he or she gives me back the money,no other go for sure

Well I don't lend big amount of money to my friends because I really want to avoid that thing to happen to me. But if ever it will happen to me, I'll just try to understand my friend's situation. :)