A worried friend!

If she doesn't want to have a stable job then it's up to her. Try to convinced her once more, but she don't want to listen it's not your fault anymore. At least you have done your part as a friend- but sometimes we cannot decide for our friends.

I think your friend has just got the jitters about starting a new job. Lots of us are scared to move on and forward. She just needs to keep getting that reassurance from you. Tell her she's worth more than a fish and chip shop that's going to close down anyway. The owners of the chippie are being very selfish - tell her that too.

She already knows her old job and she know how to do to the work, and she is probably afraid of giving up the things that she already knows in exchange for something new and unknown even if she new job is a better job. The fact that she was chosen among 2000 people could boost her self confidence...but it could also have the opposite effect. She might feel that it as a pressure to perform really well and she might be afraid that her employer will get disappointed in her when she starts because she feels that they expect a lot from her. In your situation I would talk to her about her previous work experience and find examples from the past where she has done something she was afraid of and succeeded despite her worries.

May be you should let her really know that she is excellent,otherwise,she will not be the only one who pass the interview among so many competitors. Her old job is no longer deserve to linger on.i guess she is not really wanna do that job.she is just afraid of new job,specifically,her competence.maybe your friend are not enough confident.but it doesn't matter.tell her,nobody knows how to work innately.especially for a new job,axiety,suspecious of competence,and so on ,are common,vast majority of us ever experience it.the constructive way is go ahead,don't worry too much,what she needs is to do right now,rather than stay there to think around. More encouragement to her.let her know,she is not as qualified as she deem. list the evidances of both competence and incompetence that she think of herself to the new job.examine them,look at how many of them are true or not true.

You have done a good job and this is a let down for you, your friend should be ashamed of herself. There is of course no comparison between a job in a Inn hotel and a local chip shop and she needs every encouragement to take the new job. If she were my friend I might be a little cruel and talk about the benefits of the new job and point out that she could dress up for it and not go home smelling of fish and chips. After that bombshell perhaps a cup of coffee and a long chat reminding her of how capable she is, using past examples. Good luck, you are a good friend to her.

Between 2000 people she got selected. That means she have that talent what the other 1999 people don't have. If the job would be unsure, then they would select any other person between 1999 people, not her.

The shop she is at now is about to close, she won't have a job after they do close and will regret not taking the one she has gotten now. She will start to like the job and be happy she made that choice, and should just go with the new job. Sometimes you have to take jobs your unsure of, but a lot of times it turns out to be awesome, and beyone what you expected.

She is afraid this job is too much for her. Without self esteem, believing in her own powers it will be hard to get her that far to accept the job. For her it's easier to stay where she is, since she is already accepted there and knows how it all runs. The only thing you can do is to make, together with her, a list of all her (worst) fears. Call it by name, ask her what is the worst thing that might happen, how she can handle it and tell her that no matter how specialized people are in a certain area, each job and situation is new. We all have to get used to a new situation and as long as we keep our eyes wide open, are willing to do our best and know where we can find or ask for answers/help everything will be fine. Fact is: no matter if you helped her or not, she did that interview on her own. It was her who was choosen out of all those people so she can be proud of herself and this can only mean this job is ment for her.

If you're able to coach her very effectively to help her get the job, I'm sure you can also talk to her into having the confidence that she can do the challenges of her new job. She's just probably a bit scared because her new job is way bigger than her curent one and that might be already outside her comfort zone. Just be the usual good friend to her and lend her support, explain to her the pros and cons of staying in her old job, and the pros and cons of taking the new job. From there, I'm sure the choice will be obvious and she will be able to make the right decision.