Forgive me and Forget me...

It would depend on the circumstances. I am a vengeful person and if someone does something that goes against my morals, or my children's welfare I won't forget and forgiveness- I doubt it! Forgive and forget is for fools.

To forgive has always been very difficult for me. But I work on this and I always try to review the situation from the other person's point of view. One thing I do is to drop the person who wronged me. I have little energy to cope with people and can't waste any on someone who I cannot trust. Unless of course it's family, then escape is much more difficult.

I can eventually forgive the person. Although I am not that sure. While it is true that I would never "get even", I usually delete that person from my circle of friends or loved ones. So, I imagine, that is not forgiving really.

Well, I know that there is a saying (at least in Italy), which says: "The best revenge is forgiveness." I am okay with this. I am a person very heart, in the sense that if someone (and I can guarantee that it is already happened!) In the past has made me the wrongs of any kind, I am always willing to forgive. The only condition that I accept this compromise is that the person must ensure that I have truly repented, and never will have such a negative attitude towards me.

I can easily forgive but I can not forget what that person did to me. Good if he will be away from me I can forget everything. But if the person is still around and he commits another mistake to me. All the bad things that he did will flash back in my memory which makes me angrier.

I think it is so hard to forgive and forget everything bad. Always we don't remember such things but we will remember them unconciously.

If I forgive somebody, that does not mean that I forget them, on the contrary, as they probably taught me a lesson!

Hi Shavkat, I would feel at ease and comfortable if forgiving someone who has done something unacceptable to me. It would be a great torture as well if we keep on thinking continuously what someone done unacceptably to us. Of course it would take time to forget everything even if we have forgiven a person, for we are human being but not computer that can delete everything completely at once Have a nice day

Well I am not easily convince so it takes me sometimes to really forgive that easily. I think I might settle down on accepting the sorry but the thing he/she has done will not be forgiven that easily especially if the thing done is a bit unacceptable.

I feel that forgiveness is most important in my life, because if I continue in a state of anger and blame, I will be hurting nobody but myself by causing inner stress. I wouldn't say that I forget, because if that person who wronged me before comes up again, I would prefer to keep my distance from the situation that caused the problem before. When a person blames or is angry or has vengeance in his/her heart, it always turns on the self. The nervous system and the immune system are closely connected, so a person who constantly hates others, is really hating him/herself. _Derek

It's impossible to totally forget. I can forgive but forgetting means that I have overcome the pain that the person inflicted on me and have moved on past the hurtful experience. If I meet the same person who hurt me from the past in the present moment, I would not be able to feel the anger anymore as I once did when the event was still fresh.

its acceptable and there is a need to forgive and move on,everyone can encounter this situation,but i normally forgive easily

I easily forgive others and would forget their mistakes very fast. This has become birth character .

yes i will

I can forgive a lot, but I never forget. That makes even forgiving hard because if it was hurtful enough, every time I think of it, I am hurt again. So, as the saying goes, yes I can forgive "you", but I won't forget, and "YOU" will never hurt me again.

I don't forgive people who have done something to me every easily! I am still carrying around grudges for people that did something to me years ago! I still feel pain and anger! I do with my father,for example, on how he raised me and that will not go away until he passing on. He is the root of my most of my problems. The thorn and grudges will not leave until he is gone for good. Still hold grudges against the man who fathered my son (I gave my son up for adoption) and don't know how I will ever get over that! So as you can see I have my baggage and it is not fun carrying it around!

I forgive for what they have done, but I will place them on my black lists. I'm not cut the connection, just make more limitation on them. I won't banned them, I'll just suspended them.

I usually forgive then forget the person especially if I knew myself that there's a huge possibility that he will commit the same mistake. I do not want to feel the pain twice so for me, it is enough to forgive the person but it does not necessarily mean that you'll accept him again into your life. Once I turn my back, I don't look back. I apply this to all people except my original family.

I won't say it's easy to forgive but "at the right time". Coz for me there's no certain period to be ready to forgive, but when you feel it then it happens. About the forgive then forget- there are some people who asked forgiveness but have chosen to separate ways with you. Means - maybe he/she also wanted to be forgotten by you. But there are people who have done wrong, ask forgiveness but have chosen to stay and keep the broken friendship. And with this, I treasure it more. The fact that he/she has been humiliated for doing something against me, he/she manage to re-build. I appreciate efforts and for me, efforts should be rewarded. The fact she/he stayed means the friendship we had is also treasured by that person. so no forgetting then! :))

I have struggled with the topic of forgiveness for many years. I have never been one to easily forgive in the situation of being hurt. I have recently started looking at this in a different way. I have always thought if someone is asking me for forgiveness i was granting the forgiveness for them. This is not how it is actually you are forgiving them for yourself not them. To me this is confusing but if you don't forgive after someone has asked then you hold the bitter memories and hurt inside yourself which only hurts you in the end more. Now to forgive someone is not the same as agreeing to forget. Forgetting is not possible to do and would not be good. If you was able to forget then you wouldn't be able to learn from the wrong that has been done to you. Forgiving doesn't mean that it make the other person right or correct for what they have done to you. I look at it as i can forgive them but still have the control over how much i will grant them trust in the future.