I'm afraid he's going to leave me

Oh my dear, I'm afraid you have become what they call a rebound girl. I'm going to be straight forward with you. This might hurt but this is something you have to learn. Don't be afraid that he will leave you. Though it's a natural feeling, it's not a good idea either. This could mean you have become emotional dependent on this guy that you have been with for only a short time. Learn to be emotionally independent and know that you deserve to be loved. firstly, a guy who comes to you straight off from another relationship is not the best guy to be in a relationship with. It's a bad idea. He might be using you. In this case, it seems that he came to you mostly because he wanted to forget his old girl friend or escape her. I also believe that he likes you, but we don't know how much. A guy should be in a relationship with you for the reason that he loves you alone, not just to escape an ex girlfriend. Besides, he has not healed enough from a break up(given that it took him a short time to between two girlfriends) it would be hard for him to start another relationship. if you don't trust him enough that he would stay in a relationship no matter what happens then you are clearly in an unstable relationship. It's expected though since you two just started the relationship. My advice: Let him go if he is still clinging to his ex gf make him choose. If he goes after his ex then he doesn't deserve you. If he goes after you, then that is very very good. that would prove that he came to you because of you, not because he dislikes his ex. What he is doing to you now is very unfair. he should be able to deal with that ex girlfriend on his own and not let you be bothered by his annoying ex. That's what I would have done. Also you can defend your love and keep him. But you wouldn't really know how much he loves you if he doesn't defend your relationship himself. Confusing? Um anyway, i hope i have been of help

I can understand your feeling. But its your fault. Did you ever asked him that if his ex wants him back what he will do.? Do you feel that he really loves you.? If yes then he will never leave you. And if he understands your feeling then tell him to break every connection with her. If he can't do this for you. Then leave him or else you will get hurt more in future.

I think the timing of your entry was really not a good one. I think the guy has not yet totally move on with the other relationship. I just hope that you and him would stand by what you started. I believe that the guy needs to find some closure with the other party before your relationship becomes official. This is the problem that happens when someone ends relationship then starts a new one just right after the break up. I think the guy is in crisis right now who to follow for now. You can just wait for the final closure and let him decide who is who in his heart. You cannot force yourself in him if he is not yet ready who to let go between the two of you for now. I just hope the favor is in your side.

I think you should talk to your boyfriend as soon as possible. Ask him if he really loves you and if he really mean it then he should not communicate anymore with that girl.Or better he should talk with his ex girlfriend to settle things between them. He should choose between the both of you. If he chooses you, then you are lucky enough, but if not, you should accept it. You would suffer a lot of pain but it will just in the beginning.At least, in the beginning all things will settle well unlike when you already are in relationship together but his heart not really yours totally. It will be more painful with you.

it is a problem,i can feel,but if he really leave you,it is proved that he is not yours,i think,you need to cherish now,it is hard for us to guss other's thought,we can love each other now,it is hard for us to control love,you know.don't worry,do well now,i think the futhure will be not bad,good luck!

yeah,It's exactly a nuisance thing.I feel you should believe him. Even if they have been together foe a long time,you should konw they had ended.From now on,enjoy your time together,you have to believe that nothing can destroy you. I hope you will happy.

I think you should talk to him and let him know how you are feeling. Talk to him about what she has been telling you and see what he tells you. The thing is, the girl could be lying to you, just because she is jealous that you two are now together. Maybe she hasn't gotten over him yet and she may be trying to win him back. No matter how it is done. I would just do that first and go from there and if she is telling you the truth about them hanging out, then maybe you should let him go, just because he may still not be over her either. Plus you don't want to get in the way of him figuring out what he wants to do and you don't want to get hurt.

I agree with subhojit10. You really have to talk to your bf personally. If he really loves you and has moved on his ex-gf, he will respect you and close any connections he has with his ex. Don't be afraid of him leaving you, because you did nothing wrong in your relationship and keep fighting for your love for him.

It's really a tough situation. And I guess you should talk to your boyfriend regarding this matter in order for you to clarify things. And try to ask him if he still have feelings for his ex-girlfriend. :)

Well i can understand your situation very well and i think u should call your boyfriend and confront him personally asking him to choose between u or his past girlfriend very quickly. i think he is simply cheating on u by even going to her place. Had he respected u, then he would never had paid any heed to his past girlfriend. So u try to sort out the things first and hope u take my advise. What say?

If he loves you with all his heart then he will not leave you and if he leaves you for the ex then better let go of him because neither of you will be happy if you try to stop him. I wish you good and that you can have your man forever. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

hello good day.. when i was reading your discussion it seems like i can relate the situation...let me explain i had a boyfriend and were 3 years already..one time im shocked because he had another girlfriend and all of the sudden we have no problem but why?.. the girl always chatting at me, text me and said " we love each other and your BF said he had no love for you" i shocked totally shocked because my boyfriend telling me daily that he loves me so much.. he dont want lose me.......ive been in the situation hope you gonna think it thrice...im gonna share it so that everythings gonna be fine... my Advice are this : 1. let your mind prevail over your heart. 2. Balance the situation dont be selfish....try to investigate whats the truth because most of the guy they lied to women just to take thier heart, just to get what they want... 3. do not focus on your self only in this situation.. but try to focus also whats the truth between the two of them. 4. maybe give space to each other and pls..... investigate carefully..do not focus on message or saying of your BF..try to investigate on yourself.. because in my situation maybe i can say i can relate to the girl. Goodluck..

That is a difficult situation to be in. .

well i think all this story is very complex because there is a love triangule between all you and if you want to fix the matter then you would need to set up all thing on the board with that woman and man. It is not seriosness if they want to play then go away and dont make your life more terrible. it is my advice for you.

It's a scary thought for most women, but if he does, then let him. Be the strong one. He left because he wasn't he wasn't meant for that woman, or because he couldn't commit, and that's his problem. If he realizes his mistake, then he will come crawling back, and when he does he'll have to kiss that woman's feet. If he doesn't come back, then find someone else, or find something else. If my boyfriend decides tomorrow that he wants to end it with me, then that's his choice. I will be a little hurt, but I will move on.

hiswissheart YOu liked him but he already had a girlfriend.did you then try to win him as if you did he may feel really confused. I hope you waited till they were quits. sou nds like he has to decide whether he still loves her or is over her. to me hes not being very thoughtful of you be starting this relationship then skedaddling off when she calls him.You have to talk to him and be firm, either you break off with her because you love me or we are through.you cannot keep hanging onto somene who is that divided.so if he leaves you he leaves you as she had him first and truthfully he does not sound like a great prize to me.

I can completely understand where your fear is coming from. And I also have reason to believe that your worries are something that are completely legit. First of all, it is clear to me that his ex-girlfriend is still pining for him. In addition to that, I also think that those relationships that are rebound relationships are basically relationships that are doomed from the start. With all of that said, I hope that your relationship with him works out, but if it doesn't you have to realize that it didn't work out for a reason.

I'm very sorry. It's very possible for him to be going to leave you. Since he has been together with his previous girlfriend for a long period of time, for him it's very hard to forget the relationship with his previous girlfriend totally for a short period of time. He may still loves his previous girlfriend and can't forget her. You say you have liked him for over one year now, but i wonder if you have asked him what is his true feeling for you. Maybe he doesn't like you as his previous girlfriend. He just want you to start a relationship because he has fought with his previous girlfriend and he felt agony that time. But i think he was a honest man since he told you all things and didn't cheated you. So i think now he may be very hesitated to choose you or her girlfriend. So i suppose you should give him more time to consider. And if he made a bad decision for me finally, you should be more strong.

Be strong for what may possibly happen swissheart if the guy were going to leave you because of the girl its okay don't be scared and don't loose hope. Just remember that God will never take anything without the intention of replacing something much better.If God ask you to put something down it is because he want you to pick something great..

I understand what you're going through..I feel as though you may have rushed into this relationship too soon with him..I would have wait a little bit longer..It's suspicious that he has already started a relationship with you as soon as they have broken up..People call it rebounds.. You feel scared because the relationship you have with this guy is unknown and especially if there's still an ex girlfriend involved in his life even though they have broken...He needs to prove that he wants to be with you and only you..For some it's hard to let go of feelings right away after three years of dating, whether or not the relationship ended on bad terms.. I give him credits for telling you the truth the phone call which means it's still possible to have a good relationship with him..He needs to make a decision in his heart who he wants to be with..I would proceed with caution...