Do you agree that being single woman is miserable?

Oh, do you think so bembzee? I'm in my mid 30s, married but I have lots of single friends. Hmmmm, let me think. I don't know if they're miserable. Maybe they just focused much on their careers and in their own lives that they hardly mingle/socialize. Maybe they had forgotten what life is really all about. They hardly smile, yes and I think so -- they choose their friends that makes them snob.

I think it depends, but if they're single by choice, then they're happy about their decision. I have a lot of married friends (and relatives) who would always advise me not to get married, instead go enjoy life because marriage is full of responsibilities. But I guess it depends on each person. One can be married and be irritated with kids too. There are a lot of people who are married who look and act grumpy too. It's all about the perspective of a person. Have a great mylot experience ahead!

I am moody, not strict always, a bit of man hater but not because I have been ditched but because of problems from childhood. Privacy..yes..I love it. Honestly, I may not like anybody visiting me..lol I DONT GET IRRITATED BY THE PRESENCE OF KIDS..under the age of 6. :) I adore them. I am sure I dont like noisy crowd. But I am not pissed off by the presence of male gender. I smile a lot..but rarely greet people. I dont like too many close friends yes. I am not miserable sweetie..not now. :) I am very happy and content with my life. :) I have enough to eat. I have enough clothes to wear. I get to wear what I want. I get to eat what I want. I get to watch television program and laze. I get to sleep as late as I want. I dont have to worry about budgets because I am the only one whom I have to control. I wish I had some man who would manage most of things for me..unobtrusively..

hi bembzee, I am single at 27 there are times I am a moody one but I don't hate males I am the one who even take charge to take care of my cousin's children they all grew up in my custody, I always smile infact my best friend said I had the cutest rabbit smile ever I have group of friends. I am strict if needed I only snob people I don't know or don't like. In short I don't believe in this. Being miserable is a choice even couples have miserable life. happy mylotting

I'm afraid I don't believe in this, its all in the person's personality and not in her status. I have single friends who are very warm, who likes kids and are very outgoing. And I am also acquainted, even related, to married women who are snob, hate crowds and don't want to have kids. Its just not right to tag single women that way. While marriage and children can bring about a big change in a woman, I still believe that you can't put a good person down.

Being single may be lonely, but it's not miserable, for me at least!

This is stereotyping single ladies who are very happy. I think the 1900's was over a hundred years ago where it was a social stigma if you were single. It was as if your parents had failed to set you up with the proper husband. I have a single friend who is very successful and happy with being single. When I wasn't married yet, I do get irritated with the question as to why I was still single and I was in my thirties. So, no, I don't agree that being single makes you miserable.

Some single women are that way because either their husband has passed or they have not found the right one. I used to believe that most single women were that way because they were not blondes. Because the blondes got married earlier because they were so pretty and looked innocent while us brunettes looked like evil women. And of course we did not have as many children or children when we got married. Big difference between being married at 18 and married at 29. So it is not because the single women or girls are grouches and man haters. Sometimes circumstances determine their status. And I really miss my husband.

Who says that? Not all. There are married women who are miserable. A person chooses what he/she want people to see her. I had been single for 33 years and each year wasn't miserable. I choose not to be. I live each day with a purpose and if there are times I am in misery, I divert not to be miserable.

hi there bembzee, with regard to what you have posted, perhaps that is a general saying or thought hence for every general rule, there is always an exception. as i don't find being single a miserable one. maybe, God has another plan to those woman who are still single even they are already old.

I have two aunties who remained single and unmarried and the way I've seen how they live their life i believe they are not miserable. I think this is only the popular belief for people who choose to remain single. Being single does not necessarily mean living alone as there are also members of the family who would love single siblings to live with them and thus enjoy being a part of the family too.

I beg to disagree. I have friends who are single and a sister who is also single. We call my sister "para gasto" meaning "for expense" because my brother who is not well-off and me go to her for help. She willingly lend us money whenever we go to her for financial help. She's not irritated with children. One thing is that she is a loner.

I really do not believe in this.Not so true.I do not think that all single women are like that.I am single.I love kids.I am not really a man hater.I admit I can be strict and unfriendly or snob but not at all times.The stereotyping thing can sometimes be annoying.I hope some people would open their minds to changes and not judge people. Happy mylotting everyone:)

I don't think all single women are miserable...and if ever some of them are, maybe they have other reasons for being that way, and not just the being single per se. ^_^

Oh I don't believe this at all. I have many single women friends. They have different personalities such like everybody else. I have women friends who are teachers, love kids but have none of their own. They prefer it that way. Some people are friendlier than others. It does not depend on whether they are married or not. Some married couples prfer not to have kids and a lot of friends. Same as single women, some have tons of friends, some have only a few. I don't know any woman who gets irritated by the presence of a male, unless he is obnoxious. In that case a married woman would also get irritated. Please do not beleve in these stereotypes.

I guess not all of them are snob, unfriendly, etc. Some of them are very loving and thoughtful. They are somewhat desperate sometimes but they still manage themselves. I just hope that someday they will still marry and enjoy being wives and mothers. Let's pray for them. Happy mylotting.

In my opinion, It is not true that " being a single woman is miserable" why? because every woman has many choices to take , an option to be single or be married. This realizations of her choice to make is her own freedom to choose what she stands for either maybe from the product of her family background, culture, races and the environment she is attached with she seems comfortable with. Generally, there is this "social norm or stigma" that really gives this notion that woman who are single are miserable. Maybe because, that is how the other people see her life or what that woman wanted others to view her either intentionally or not an intention she wanted to reflect in her behavior or social interactions. Women who are being single does not mean generally or literally they are miserable. IT is in them if they opted to have what their lives wanted to be. They control their lives and miserable as a word has nothing to do with them unless they do it in actions for themselves and the people around them. I guess there are many factors why these being single women have that choice in their lives, maybe they prefer a full time dedication to career, a trend, a product from family upbringing and the worst is if there are psychological factors that inhibit themselves to be entering the marriage state of life, or if, a fear or traumatic one that happened in their lives that they cannot cope up. If it is true that being single is miserable? then how about the congregated nuns who preferred themselves to be single and fulfill their missions to be in God's servant or in their culture traditions by faith? That being single as their choice makes their life not miserable at all.Because, it is her freedom by choice where she is happy about that choice. Any happenings in life may become or considered be miserable if the person is unhappy, not contented, a failure it may seem for that person either she is a single person or married one, because having a miserable life can come across from any person in related to his/her experiences and that is in the choices and interactions we make either you are a single women, a man , a married person or not...

Hey thanks a ton for this wonderful discussion. i find no logic in saying that single woman are miserable. i do not even think that after marriage a woman would not be miserable by nature. This perception has all been developed by the people themselves and i find funny when people think so. There is no point in arguing about woman marrying at an earlier stage or prefer staying single throughout their lives as it all depends on them and how to live their lives. We have no right in interfering in their personal lives. What say?

The single women I know are single by choice. They are women who know what they want in a man and they have no intention of settling for less. As girls grow older then become more picky I have noticed, and why not? By the time they are in their middle to late twenties single girls have seen some of their friends' marriages come to grief, they are wise to married men who try it on and they want something different for themselves. If their friendships seem limited it may be because they have less girlsfriends around to be friends with, the list shortens as they marry, sometimes they don't want a close female friend after that, or maybe the single girl does not want to be part of a threesome. Or is could be that once babies arrive she feels uneasy. I don't think that single women are unhappy if this is their choice. They have a career, independance, they choose to watch whatever they fancy on the TV, by and large they have better deal than some of their married friends.

I've had two teachers (one in elementary and one in college) who are both single. They were strict, yes. They barely smile, looks snobbish and unfriendly. But I can't say they're man haters. So, no, I don't agree or believe in it completely. I'm single but I'm happy. Then again, I'm only in my 20s so...