Following Your Friends Discussions
By KrauseHome
@KrauseHome (36448)
United States
October 9, 2012 2:27am CST
I often wonder, especially with some of the newer people here if they take time to do this? I know time is limited and many of us here are often busier than others but sometimes I think we continue to see those who never respond back to their friends and are always just only starting new discussions instead. And then you find them never responding back.
Personally when you have as many friends as I do in here, it is hard for me to keep up with everyone's discussions when they start a new one, but I do the best I can. I am even many times responding back to older discussioi as well. I once made a comment I would pick some of my friends and go thru just their first 10 discussions listed on their profile page of discussions started and respond back to the ones I might have missed and am interested in responding too. At least then I would know I have done at least 10? Maybe a good idea?
How do you keep up especially when your time is limited on how often you can be here?
~~TINA~~
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40 responses
@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
9 Oct 12
I find that I'm more likely to respond to people that start fewer discussions than to those who just start discussion after discussion, many times those frequent discussion starters will also have a lot of them taken down, but also I feel that I should "reward" my friends who only start a few by giving a quality response.
I have even turned off a few friends because they either filled up my inbox with discussions or I wasn't interested in any of the discussions they started. This is also why I no longer accept a certain type of friend, because I've discovered they are only interested in certain topics that I have no interest in.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 12
hi elicbxn I tried to help one young fellow who always made ten or a dozen interesting discussion but never returned to them. and for awhile he w as really trying to make comments on all the responses he got then something happened and hes just gone with the Wind.I get upset when people say they just comment back to a few well how does that make us who were by passed feel? It makes me remember that name and not respond again as my response and time and effort were sadly wasted.I do not accept those with only one or none posts. when they show they are really here to mylot I may accept them .
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
9 Oct 12
I go through my emails and answer discussions that interest me. That way I respond to my friends first, then I go to my interests. I don't get to spend a lot of time here, so I find it is my best option.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
12 Apr 13
Well, I am so behind with the Emails coming in, that I just have to do what I can do as I have time. I am here when I can, and always trying to play catch up when I can as well getting some of my discussions I have started here responded back too as well.
@BarBaraPrz (47274)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
9 Oct 12
I used to do that, back when I was getting notices in my email.
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@GardenGerty (160626)
• United States
9 Oct 12
Tina, I just respond from my e mail. I only choose to respond to those I can make a decent response to, and let the rest go. I really am not worried if I get a comment back. If I do, that is good, but if not, then that ends my participation in that discussion, even if I could have added more.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
30 Mar 13
Well, that is one of the main reasons I take time to respond back to everyone who responds back in all the discussions I have started even when I am behind. And also try and respond back mostly to the ones taking time to respond back to mine. I often wonder why have someone as your friend if you are never going to take time to come back and respond back to them??
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 12
hi GG yes why work and respond to one we thought was a fri end only tol never get a comment so now I have a roster in mymind and he who never gives me a comment will not ever get another response freom me. I have lots of friends who do comment on my responses
so who needs rude people?
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
9 Oct 12
I was not so active in mylot recently, when I get time to participate; I select those topics from friends which are running currently. Definitely I select those topics which are come under my knowledge. Earlier when I was very active here, I was very particular on friend’s topics. Now, as you said, all are busy with offline things and can’t find time to all even if we really wish for the same. I think many of friends are too not active in mylot at the moment.
Hope your health is improved.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
3 Apr 13
Well, it is true that it is hard to keep up when you have a lot of friends here, and having to do other things in life as well. All I can say, is thereis never enough time in my day.
@Ghajini (776)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
When I was new here, especially on my old account, I tend to join discussions that some of my mylot friends have started, however like you said since most of us are busy with other things as well, this maybe be a bit difficult. What I just do usually is just browse discussions with no responses or any from my interests and try my best to join the discussion.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
13 Mar 13
Well, it is hard to keep up with friends especially when time is limited, and I am always way behind when it comes to keeping up with my friends here. I am trying to keep up when I can but have emails from like 3 years ago still to answer
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
I wish to join all friend's discussion here but sometimes because of time constraints i can not. So many work and task to fulfill yet so little time we got. But am trying my best joined if not all then few like 10 will do.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
3 Apr 13
Well, when I have extra time, I do go thru my friends list and see if their is a discussion in their top 10 I have not responded back too I will respond especially when they are taking time to be active and responding back in mine. But time is limited so I'm always way behind.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
9 Oct 12
I certainly don't get as many notifications from friends as I used to, not sure whether it's a flaw in the system or that a lot of my friends have departed, but I do endeavour to respond to as many as I can, obviously some topics I have nothing to share or I know nothing of the subject matter. I can easily catch up on a Tuesday or Thursday when I like to spend a good proportionate time on the computer.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 12
From time to time I would go back to my old discussions and run through the pages to see whether I have missed out on any responses. I know I can't sweep clean in replying to all more so now that i am handicapped having no proper computer to use. I rely solely on my tiny galaxy to type which is not convenient at all. All along I took good care of my responses and ensure that i reply to all. Neglecting our responses will only discourage them to support our future discussions.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
5 Apr 13
That is so true. I know even though I am behind when it comes to responding back to all my discussions, I do what I can when I can. It is always interesting to come in and post back and see how others think.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
I admit that there are some friends in my list here that I would like to get myself involve in with their discussions most of the time, but lately, since I am not as active as before I just make sure I get into the ones I'm interested in, regardless of who started the discussion. I like to contribute something and I feel that the best way for that is to respond to those that I really find interesting. Well, of course there are times that I just join in for the fun of it, nothing wrong there, I guess.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
13 Mar 13
That is true, as how will you meet the new people coming in here if you do not post back to everyone's discussions here from time to time.
@celticeagle (166761)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Oct 12
I have just started getting notifications back in my email. I try to atleast answer all of those in a day and get more on the site if time allows. I pretty much know my friends and what they are into. I have quit responding to Mylotter's on my friend's list who don't respond back. I have cut several completely out of my daily answering because of this. They post alot of discussions but I refuse to answer them. I think it is rude not to answer people.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
19 Apr 13
True ... I know there are people here who know it might take me a while, but I do respond back but I do. And yes why respond back to people who never respond back, or you might not always see eye to eye on. There are way too many discussions here to respond back too without responding back to all.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
26 Apr 13
Stuff going on ... Right now I have little free time to be in here. I am really working on getting something going right now with my business more than just doing shows by trying to find a more permanent space as well as working full time, and planning a vacation to Minneapolis area in July. Life is busy but going good even if it leaves little time to post in here.
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@celticeagle (166761)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Apr 13
I certainly have a priority list of friends that I answer first. Sometimes, such as today, I just haven't had much time with all the stuff I have had going on.
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
I admit it is very hard to keep track of friend's discussions here i have lots too, i would just often rely on my notifications in the email or look into the friend's tab..
but lately i do have a lot work of offline work that i do really forgot to track things here..so i just pop in once in a while..
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
28 Mar 13
Well, if you are like me, I just do what I can when I can and never have enough time in a day or my life to keep up with all my friends here. I have notifications coming to my email but I am over 2 yrs behind with them.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
hello Tina,
I always try to respond to my friends topic.
I scan through "friends started" and try to respond to discussions that I can relate with.
Therefore, I admit that, I don't respond to every topic that my friends start or post because I only choose those subject that I can easily relate with.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
19 Mar 13
Yes I hear you, and there are times that I am hardly online here so I fall way behind. But it seems like I always have something I can find worth responding back too that a friend has started here.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
I still have a year old notification on my email stating my friend started a new discussion. I get to read some of it if I have the time and sometimes if I could still respond, I still do even if it's that long. I try to keep up as much as possible. It's better late than never. It's my way of saying I am not adding them on my friends list just because I wanted to have many friends to respond on my discussions but because I value them and I wanted to help them earn as much as possible It's hard to catch up though because there are so many discussions from my friends in a day, so I don't post discussions that much so I will be able to read their discussions and at least I will be able to do 1 week's discussions in a day just so I could catch up.
It's hard to catch up though because there are so many discussions from my friends in a day, so I don't post discussions that much so I will be able to read their discussions and at least I will be able to do 1 week's discussions in a day just so I could catch up.2 people like this
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
28 Mar 13
I am actually behind with discussions in my email that are 2 yrs old or older. I do add new friends from time to time and do what I can as I have time.
@mrsuniega (786)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
to be honest with you, i couldn't not catch up my friends discussions. I can only respond to a discussions which i like, discussions which I'm interested. I will not respond to a discussion which I know nothing about. For me responding to a discussions which I don't know seems like I'm just annoying myself. You know some members here are saying that quality is best than quantity.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
26 Mar 13
That is true. There are friends of mine on here who start a lot of different discussions, and personally there is no way I could ever keep up. And if a friend starts a discussion here I know little about, or not interested in responding back in I do tend to skip them as well.
@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
9 Oct 12
I feel very much the same in this respect. There is little point in trying to respond to a discussion that a friend has started if you either know very little about the subject or have no interest in the subject. I prefer to limit myself to those where I have a greater chance of making a worthwhile contribution.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
9 Oct 12
If I can't be here for a couple of days I go throught the notifications and pick at least one of each friends to respond to....I don't have alot of time in the first place..my daughter says its because I keep myself too busy...anyway I try to do one of each...then if I have more time I do more then one.
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@chrystalia (1208)
• Tucson, Arizona
9 Oct 12
At the very least, I try to go through all the discussions that hit my email box daily, when I clean out my box at the end of the night. When I can't get to them all, about once a week I sit down and scroll back through and see what my friends are up to. I very seldom start discussions myself, but when I find one of interest, I'll put in my two cents on the issue at hand.
I agree that some people never seem to get back into the discussions they've started, and it can be annoying at times. I have noticed that some of my friends just seem to post for the sake of posting, which I try not to do myself. I think it varies from person to person. When people consistently talk to me, I consistently talk back. There isn't much else I can do.
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@elitess (5070)
• Ipswich, England
9 Oct 12
Hello Tina.
As you may have noticed, I am from the category that only sometimes (not to often) starts a discussion. Seeing how I may take big breaks from posting here at times due to various reasons, I think I would be a bit of a hypocrite to start a posting spree without trying to catch up with my friends first.
In the past, when I had more free time, I used to search my friends down to the oldest discussions and trying to respond to all of them.
Seeing how I deleted my newest (spammiest) friends here, I know that I have responded to my friends at least in the past, and I know I don't have to go back to their beginnings to get involved or to know them again.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
9 Oct 12
My time is really limited now, so I can't contribute to every discussion my friends start. I have had to change notifications to let me know only about the discussions started by friends I normally respond to. Then I have to choose only the few discussions that I'm really interested in and can make an easy contribution to. When I start a discussion, I do it because there's something I want to share, and I always respond to comments if I'm notified of them. I sometimes am not notified and only notice some comments weeks or months later when I'm notified of a newer comment I go to see. I an only do what I can do in my limited time.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
23 Mar 13
I can relate with time being limited. Especially since I work full time and have a successful online offline business and getting ready to expand to something else that I know I can do well with. But anytime,e I can be here, I do try and take some time to respond back in my friends discussions and hope for the best from there.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
9 Oct 12
Hi Tina. Since I am also busy with my work, I would first reply to the responses my friends made to my own discussion. Then after that I would go to my friends discussions. This is a different practice from what I am doing before which I would start making responses to my friends discussions leaving some of my discussions unanswered. I just thought that I should start making a reply to those who responded to my discussions first before anything else. I think this is a better option for me.
Have a nice day!
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
23 Mar 13
Well, my strategy when k find time to come o. Here, is to respond back to the discussions I have started here first, and then find a discussion the persons responding back too started. Especially if they are one of my friends here. Great way to relay in a.l ways here for sure.
@litvillegas (1274)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
Hello Tina
I also have a busy schedule in the office but like you I try my best to response back to some discussions from my friends. I try to go back also to some older discussions and find time to drop a message or hit response. :) I always love to follow discussions from my friends especially those interesting discussions. It gives additional information and one way to stay active in mylot.:)
Thanks fro sharing.:)
