In Love with my Cousin

I don't think that it is illegal to marry your cousin, so I doubt that you would have anything against you from the point of view of the law. However your family might think that it is a little bit strange so it might put some pressure on them. They would most likely get used to it without a worry so you just need to give them a little bit of time. It could be quite awkward if you break up as you wouldn't really want to be together at family gatherings, but there is every chance that you could be happy together so it seems silly not to try it if you have the chance to.

Oh , man . Don't you worry . I mean you should follow your heart . BTW , does your cousin love you as well ? Don't put yourself in the one-side love? I know a Chinese couple (as you know ,Chinese people against it very much too) , they are also cousin . But they got married , now living a very happy life in Germany . I guess if you guys love each other , nothing is impossible . If you have got one faith , just go for that . Wish you good luck then .

Even myself have a good feeling of my cousin, however my conscious tell me that I should not do this, I might get neglected by my families, moreover I have many male friends thus I feel not only focus on him, you know. However if you still can't forget about her, I am not sure you will feel satisfied with the outcome.

Well, I can not believe you feel love for your cousin, but I do not think you can one day marry her. Although I have read many sections of the Bible, I do not know exactly if there is written that it possible or not be accompanied by a relative. Also because you are the first to make a statement like that. In fact, until now, at least here on Mylot, I had never heard anything like this!

Only marriages between 1st cousins are against the law. If you're not first cousins then follows what both of you feel.

Loving is never wrong. But the subject maybe wrong. I don't mean to discourage you, but, are you really sure you love her more than a sister? Maybe you care a lot for her but it doesn't mean you are in-love with her. I can't say that's immoral either, only God can tell which is unacceptable. However, some people say, if relatives become couples and they will have babies, there will be some genetic problems that may occur with the child. I don't know if it's true but just be very careful.

wow...you have to keep it yourself my friend or else, people will definitely condemn you! Our country is not yet open to such kind of relationship which I think will definitely not! Because Science will not even support you because what will happen to your children if ever? Same genes will result in abnormality, how pity they are if ever it will happen. I hope you will think about this...

hello leon, in our country, older generations do not agree to marriages with cousins because of the "facts" and beliefs of having genetically defective children in the future. in fact, this kind of marriage is "taboo". cousins who fall in love and get married usually are disowned by the families. to my experience though, i have known two families very close to me who are married to their first cousins. the marriage has now reached the third generation and i have not seen any defects to the offsprings. in fact, they are parents very proud of their children because the latter are all in the honors list in the school they are in. have a nice day. ann

I don't think it's wrong and if you keep pulling your self down you'll feel horrible, you know why? We CANNOT control to whom we fall in love to so you are not bad. Now being with a cousin? Who knows? The bad thing I think in this is that your family could be upset, but it's really against spiritual laws? Just know that this might pass and go away, my crush did.

Hi there. Well, if you are a Christian, I think a cousin to cousin relationship is wrong. It states in the Bible that one should marry someone who is not an immediate family member. Although we are all 'family' with each other, being married with a relative is not accepted in the Christian world. However, there is also an argument that is accepted by the Church: feelings are neither right nor wrong. It is what you do that makes it wrong in their view. I believe in that, so I think being inlove with your cousin is not wrong. I mean, it is not your fault if that is what you feel, right? There are countries were it is accepted. I think it would be hard if your family is not open to that idea.

It is not wrong but a lot has been saying that if you intend to marry your cousin and somehow you had children with her, then the problem might arise in your children. If you're lucky they may appear to be normal but most of the time, there will be something in them that might have some effects or deformation. I guess it is better for you to look for some other girls. You may find your cousin attractive but I am sure there are many others out there that is as pretty as your cousin.

I don't think fall in love with your cousin is a good idea,not only in legal but also in physical,further more your relationship may do harm to two families even though they are relatives. But from another point of view,the law and the genetical stuff do not taboo relative between cousins clearly,it still can make it happen,so my thinking is,you two should get apart for a few days then think your relative in a cool mind,if you two still love each other too much after those days,so why not?there are nothing can stop a true love,everyone should fight for their happiness but there are must have a cool mind.

It is definitely a big NO, unless if you are third cousin. But still, it is not acceptable in the eyes of people especially God.

I have heard of this kind of feeling but I have never experience it. It is biblicaly wrong, but it is a challenge that you must try overcome. What you have to do is basically try to reverse that feeling and move on. If it means going away for a while, just go ahead and do it. No one can judge you for having that kind of feeling, because it just happened.

Well by law I think they allow such kind of marriage if the level of consanguinity is far already. If you are third cousins and beyond (I am just not sure about it) the law allows your to be married already. But biologically you may have some kind of problems with it as well since biologically you might be incompatible since your genes are coming from the same descendant so as many are saying it may show up in your future siblings if you pursue each other in the future.

Hello leon, Oh that is a different thing. Well, I can't tell you if it's biblically wrong but since you already mentioned that your country is against it, then you should not be surprised that your Church will not let that happen too. I am not going to say anything about having a normal child because I don't have any idea of what and how it happens but all I can tell you is to try to find someone else, I also believe it is considered morally wrong.

even science is basically againts it. In a certain country siblings are allowed to marry but the man must undergo castration. Dont pursue it unless you are willing to undergo castration. children of cousin marriages suffers lots of diseases. Thats why I prefer dating outside my race and nationality, I am guaranteed I am not dating a cousin. I have a cousin who marries a cousin and their children have genetic disorders.

That was really a tough thing. But I guess all you can do is to forget your feelings for him. Because you will really have a big problem if you continue this one. An you know many people will be against on it. :)

it happens. they say love is blind.. so does he love the back the same way. If he loves you the same way then don't worry cos he will do something about it. i hope you get the approval from the families. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

Hair on the reason,consanguineous marriage is cause genetic diseases,and to think you do not want a mormal child?There you biblical myth of the myth a bit similar.