My friend lost her baby...
By aejey322
@aejey322 (1004)
Philippines
October 9, 2012 9:28pm CST
I have mentioned in my previous post that my friend was admitted in the hospital due to miscarriage. She was trying to contact me but she haven't because my cellphone was under repair. It really made me feel guilty knowing that she needed me that time.
But yesterday, I got the chance to visit her and talk to her. She got sad, of course... But the good thing is, she learned to accept it. She just said that maybe the baby was not for them yet. And she was thankful that it happened in the early stage. She only have known that she was pregnant last Friday. and she had the miscarriage last Sunday. Her baby was already 6 weeks old. And she also said maybe it's just in the wrong timing... She is still studying some masters degree, so she wished she could finish it first because she gets pregnant again. Because it was one of her suspects that made the baby's hold so weak. She was stressed with their finals. And her classrooms are in the 4th floor so she said maybe I've overworked too much.
But I told her to ask the doctor and ask for some vitamins or sort of that could help her get ready for the second baby. But I know the doctor will give her the right interval when she may conceive again.
It's a sad story... but I am thankful that my friend is okay. Her husband is also very supportive to her. I just hope she will stay composed and not to think of the loss she had...
8 responses
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
Just keep on giving your friend comforting words , aejey.
God allows things to happen because He has some nicer plan for each of us. Perhaps it was one way of telling her that the timing is not good for her to have a baby.
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
Yes Ma'am I will... She will be on a 2-months maternity leave, so I'm planning to visit her often or plan some get-together to help her forget about it...
She should also be emotionally strong because her husband is an OFW and is just waiting for the employer's call. So he will be leaving anytime soon. That is what I'm worried about... when she will already be left alone...
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
Tell your friends to be strong, specially that her husband wil be leaving for abroad anytime soon.
However, if she cannot bear it that her husband would be far from her, perhaps they can talk about what would be best for their relationship.
For me, i don't mind if we have to work hard, as long as my husband and i are both just here working. What is important is our family being always together.
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
That is what I am thinking also... But I'm hesitant to meddle with their plans... They just got married last June. Her husband is already an OFW for many years... Maybe he cannot give up the opportunity for now.
But I heard they are planning to put up a business here. Maybe they have plans to save first out of his income, and he's going to stay here for good if they already have enough funds.
I actually have secretly asked her about it if she will hold her husband to postpone his work abroad. But she also said that it will be alright. I just hope it's really alright...
@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
10 Oct 12
I'm so sorry for her, aejey. it's okay, she is right that it might be not the right timing. hopefully she will get better soon and will have pregnant again once she ready and finish her collage
@mortysmadhouse (226)
• Australia
10 Oct 12
That is great that she has support from both her husband and you. Going through a miscarriage is a major thing for the body to go through. It may take quiet awhile for her body to recover again. She may have days where she is feeling very strong both emotionally and physically, while on other days she may feel the complete opposite. It is great, in a way, that she is currently studying for her Masters as this will help keep her mind focused.
I went through a massive miscarriage about 4 years ago. It was pretty bad and it nearly claimed my life. While I didn't really want any more children (have two boys with autism), I found that physically it took SO long for my body to recover. My best advice is for your friend to take a good multi-vitamin that has a lot of vitamin B - it's great for the brain and helps fight off depression. Another great thing to take is chlorophyll, which is essentially all the green stuff inside plants. It is great for the body and will help speed recovery ;-)
The only other advice I can really give is for you and her husband to keep on being as supportive as you have been.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
18 Oct 12
Most all women can get pregnant right away no matter how far along they where in there pregnancy. But every doctor will say something different. If she wants to get pregnant with in the next year prenatal have to be started right away. But it's better to wait a few months so the body can get back to regular periods other wise it's very hard to track the pregnancy and it makes it harder to move on.
@jellsiguenza (147)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
A child is a precious blessing. She had lost it now but for sure she can have not only one but more in the future. Maybe it is not the right time for them to have a baby. Everything that happens to us has reasons. So Im sure there are reason why it happened. Let's just hope and pray that your friend will be able to accept what happened and move on.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
10 Oct 12
A miscarriage is often Mother Natures way of fixing something that isn' quite right.
I think we humans who try so hard to retain a baby are making a mistake. But then I think anytime humans undermine Mother Nature's way it proves to be a mistake even if it take a while for us to find out why. Without our interference our poor world would not be undergoing such struggles to survive. We control sickness but do not control our birth rate, we damage our air and our water and still go happily on with our lives, we ingore the carnage we are leaving behind.
@GemmaR (8517)
•
10 Oct 12
It is very hard to lose a baby, because people don't know how to treat you. You don't really have a person to mourn in the eyes of other people, but you feel as though you have lost a child and the fact that it was only a couple of weeks old doesn't really make it any better for you. The only thing that you can do for her would be to let her know that you are always there to talk to whenever she wants you to listen, and hopefully you will be able to help her through this very tough time by just talking to her as a friend.
