Nagger nags...nagging!

Oh yes I heard that word before...nag...nag...nag....mothers nag,children nag,husbands nag,wife nag...we all nag at the end of the day...and why we do all this nagging? because someone is not doing the right thing! that's why!

Interesting question. :) I do nag at times. However, I dont consider myself habitual nagger. Actually, I have a problem with this. When I ask dad, he forgets or ignores. So I have to remind him again, and then he flares. It then becomes difficult for me to get the thing moving. If it is something that needs to be attended because without it, there can be problems, I repeat it till it is resolved, or try bringing up the topic at times even fighting about it. To me those issues seem important. For example, dad does not give account of others monies and gets involved in others monies more often than not. This forces me to keep track of things as far as possible because dad is 78 and tends to forget things. Nobody likes their monies forgotten and I hate being treated as if I am the daughter of a cheat. Intention to cheat is not there. It is laziness to keep accounts, and lack of proper knowledge of accounts. So at present he has to give an account on this 13th. He has forgotten to note the opening balance. It is an odd situation. So I told him to first give what he has received on behalf of that party in their absence. I am of the opinion he has forgotten almost 500 dollars equivalent. He says no. He has loaned some monies out of others funds to a few others. It is very very difficult not to nag such a person. As to my maid, she is old as well, but my age. She tries avoiding tasks at times. I am particular about a few things and I have told her several times that some chores should not be avoided at any cost. She now waits till I remind her. If on the same day I tell her three things she starts self pity program. And if I tell her somethings on two consecutive days it also amounts as nagging. So I have to wait give a gap of 3 days between first follow up and the next. In the process she gets to bluff that she made the mistake only today. Dont know how to tackle this. Since I have realized how it is, I have told her, if you make me tell you once more, I am going to delay your salary increment by three months. Lets see who wins. I cant be loser, can I?

Put yourself in the other persons position.

My hubby claims that I nag to much. I don't nag on the little things at all. What I nag about is his health problems. He is a diabetic and does not always take care of himself. He is constantly eating sweets that he shouldn't be having. He does not exercise enough and it makes me so upset. I know he could get it under control if he tried but its like he doesn't care too. All because he loves his cakes and cookies to much. If he didn't have this problem I wouldn't be labeled a "nag!"

Well, even though I arrived at the age of 37 years and have never been involved in a romantic relationship, I can only express my opinion, emphasizing that, probably before they marry, the Catholic rite and the civil ceremony,  have to know each other well. It takes many years for this, because in reality as it will be our future husband or wife (depending on the case) is not something that can be done in short time. This is just my personal opinion. I do not know, however, the meaning of the word "NAGS", you explain it? regards

When I was in high school, my older brother and I would always have arguments usually in our household errands. He told me that when I become a mom, I will be a nagger. I haven't forgotten what he said so I learned not to nag. I think about things first before saying something or I'll just act on it. I don't like naggers. I don't like to be nagged too. It's very irritating so I don't want myself to be like that. Some people just don't realize that they're nagging and someone has to tell them that they are doing just that.

Most of the men would say that women nag them and most of the women will complaint that it men who nag them.

I'm not a nagger but I do nag too when someone ignore me when I'm asking. Normally person who loves to nag don't satisfies their self when they have wants to a certain person. In a relationship it depends on each party who is the nagger if they avoid some questions to answer.

I do try my best not to nag at people, but there are certain times that I just can't help it. I have a partner who I have been for almost four years now and I have to nag at him a lot of the time. If I don't do so, then he will never do any work around the flat or anything like that, and he forgets that he is supposed to be looking for a job. I don't think that he means to upset me or do it maliciously, but it is just something that slips his mind when he is busy with other things. I think he actually appreciates me nagging because it is the only way that he can remember to do things.

Nagging.. It can be sooo annoying.. We all at one time or another do it.. When my other half was still alive; we both nagged each other... Sometimes it was the only way certain things would get do... procrastion was the main cause of the nagging... Granted there were a couple other things that we would nag about... but we got it all out and discuss the situation and figure out a way to get things done.. Nagging was more like a kick in the pants to keep going.. or Hello?? whats going on here?? Man I wish I could he him nag... I surely miss him....

I guess women nag more than men. I personally am not a nagger because I get tired easily after I've said my point in an argument. If I get a not so agreeable answer I just make some sarcastic comment and then shut up. My husband usually gets the point that I'm mad when I'm silent after that. He doesn't nag and does not easily get mad. I'm sure thankful I don't nag because I know has a low level of tolerance for nagging women.

hi, i think they need more understanding to each other or sometimes let your partner to be alone sometimes,because in life we also need space in a relationship,a silent place to think more and realize it,and last thing is we need to have a give and take portion.

Thanks for sharing this discussion. Yes u are absolutely right, small nagging on minute details might very much threaten a relationship. Sometimes, nagging does not go well with certain people and if their partner does so, then there are always greater chances of altercations, arguments and misunderstandings. Yes although nagging might come naturally but we have to avoid it as much as possible. What say?

I totally agree with you on that. Partners must not nag each other to avoid extreme arguments.I am not a nagger in any ways. I don't nag. I just stay calm, try to talk, listen to his or her side then talk again. Nagging has no point, I mean it just helps people to released their stress immediately. I don't also want to regret what I just have said. So, nagging is a nono for me. People just have to listen and accept. That's it maybe. But sometimes, it's really hard to avoid arguments. But if there is a way for a couple to avoid it, it's more advisable. :) I also think that women nag more than men. They have too much points and emotions to tell. And sometimes, guys are tired of these. :)

The resolution is to not be with a person you have to nag! If the two of you can't be together Without nagging Everyday about every little thing , break up.I think a woman has no right to nag a man until he marries her. then she Has to nag him 24/7. I never nag. I wouldn't and that is a reason why I would Never marry a man I love. To see love turn into resentment is not pretty. It hurts. I'm so lucky. I fell for a friend and now we are best friends. I don't nag him. He doesn't nag me. We agree 95% of the time and we haven't argued. Strange? Unbelievable? I agree. All I do know is if a guy pushed my buttons daily and Never listened to me I would stop talking to him and one night he would come home to an empty house.why stay if I'm not going to be heard? Why nag a guy to do something he doesn't Want to do?

As I have matured I noticed that nagging in general has little to do with gender. It has something to do with idealism or perfectionism. A lot of relationships has been a casualty of these two types of character. Nagging often times is just a symptom. People can be so idealistic with there spouse. They want their spouse to think and do as they themselves would, but the problem is that all of us are different. So the result would be nagging. Perfectionism on the other hand can be a culprit to nagging. They want things to be clean, and so tidy (now nothing wrong with that) but sometimes you need to mellow things down, to avoid the unnecessary nagging (we call that "rap" at home).

I probably do, my kids would say I do but I feel like I have to remind them of things they need to do. I'm a task person so I focus on what needs to be done, I sometimes lose site of the struggle they have to go through. I don't nag my spouse because I know how good I've got it and nagging just means I want something to change, it should be me that changes to make her better.

Nagging is one of the reasons why couples separate. As we all know, words are like sword, it can hurt you... badly. And much worse than a regular wound, its wound usually deep and is not easily healed. I think that most wives nag because the husband won't listen. The problem starts there and worsen when the husband nag back. When both of them started saying hurtful things to each other, they leave each other deep wounded. So really, we need to think first, no matter how angry we are, before saying things not only to your partner but to all people you deal with.

I can honestly say that my mom's a nagger. As soon as she wakes up and sees something she's not too happy about, she'll start going on and on and on and on about it. There are times when she would bring up old issues and her nags would take longer than expected. From what I commonly see, women have this tendency to nag (FYI, I'm a woman myself) I can take nags as long as it won't happen while I'm eating or when I'm about to sleep or as soon as it wakes up. Those instances would put me in a bad moon for the rest of the day/night. I learned how to let naggers nag all they want and have their nags enter my ear then leave the other one. It's like, I'm totally ignoring the nags. Resolution... Well, one thing for sure is that answering naggers back with another nag won't help. Believe it not, sometimes reasoning out won't help because of the fact that they just won't listen! Normally, if a person nags, I would let him/her talk all their heart's content and stay quiet. If they calm down, that's when I'll try to put in my own opinions and comments. At least that way we won't be talking at the same time. Patience, in these cases, is always a virtue.

Hello shavkat Thank you for sharing this idea. I'm not a nagger and I always try not to be that one. As I observed, woman commonly nags compare to man. When situation goes like this I think both parties should have space and time to calm. They says if your partner is a fire then you should be water. Problems are just normal especially to couples. Marriage is a scared arrangement that worthy to be keep and treasure. So when argument occurs they need to settle it right away and don't wait for tomorrow to come. Have a great day..:)