When someone you considered as a friend...

I want a friend to be frank to me. If he don't want some of my attitude he should open up that to myself and not the way like biting me at the back. I like a person who are transparent to all the things. If he consider me as his friend he should not lie to me. I have a friend whom we are very close before but because he always lied and hide so many things specially related to our friendship, I keep away myself to him and stop our communication.

When someone you considered a friend stabbed you from the back .. I would say leave that 'friend' alone. You can observe if you can still consider the relation friendship. Most friendhip are superficial. A true friend is not easy to find.

you learned from this experience that this person is Not really your friend. a friend has your best interests in mind. they want only good for you. they don't tell others false things about you. i would move on. those people who really like and know you, will stay with you. the best to you

If you indeed consider her as a friend, you can prove her.. How? If you felt betrayed of her she talks about you behind your back, then do the other way around. It's either you confront her (well in a nice manner) or text her and begin with a line like this: I consider you as a friend, and matters about us- I would rather ask and tell you directly that telling it to others (as what you've done to me).. etc etc.. I've done this a lot of times.. If that person really considers you as a friend, she will immediately ask forgiveness if she's guilty and if not true, she will assure you. Friends must be true to each other, if not- they are not real friends at all. ;) Good luck dear!

Then better avoid her if necessary if that was the case.A true or real friend will not stab you at your back.She must tell what is her opinion straight with you not to other people.

You should really talk to her about this. Its important to get her side of the story. But until that happens, continue being her friend. If it really bothers you that much, talk to her and tell her how you felt. If she's really your friend, she would apologize. If she's not, better keep her on your acquaintance list.

I have seen such person in my life too. I am totally fine if someone does not like me and tell that face to face rather than people being with me without liking me and then finding chance to spread ill news about me. One of my closest friend had been doing this to me since 3 or 4 years, without my knowledge. The moment I knew her character, I started returning back the same behaviour to her. I started talking truth about her! That was more than enough to spoil her name.

this discussion is 1 month ago... chiyosa, how are you now? have you move on?

Sorry to hear about that chiyosan. I also have a colleague who behave like that. We're actually good friends, I considered her as a friend because we usually eat together, go to office activities and gatherings together, and we are practically always together. But there was this incident where I was judged unfairly for having a different opinion with other. I have had an argument with one of my colleagues. I felt very humiliated that time so I needed to explain myself. But this colleague of mine is older than mine, and I have to admit that I did raised my voice that time because he told me I was only after the money which I felt very unfair. He was saying that I shouldn't be receiving 13th month pay because I do not celebrate Christmas??? He and the rest of them thought that I would just keep mum with everything they say but I spoke. Then they started saying that I was disrespectful for answering back. I was very disappoitment with what has happened but after a while I went to him and apologized but I told him I was really hurt that is why my reaction was like that. He also said sorry and we have settled our differences. But this friend of mine I have mentioned above, keep telling every people in the office about what happened. And from what I have learned, she talks about how rude I am for raising my voice and talk like that with someone older than me. I was more disappointed after knowing it. She was the first person in the office whom I expect to understand why I acted that way. I did not confront her about it but I started to move away from her after that. I believe that a true friend will never be afraid to tell you directly if you did something wrong and they will definitely not talk about it to other people. I have a friend way back in College, she a very dear friend of mine but we always argue and fight because she is very vocal in her opinions. She will tell you right in your face if you did something unacceptable. She maybe too harsh in expressing herself but I like it better than a so called friend who would stab you in the back.

Well... you can never please everyone. i have long ago accepted that some people would not be who you think they are. Sad to say, that's how things are. You need to learn though from the experience. Since you experienced this and you know that it definitely hurts when someone backstabbed you, then just remember not to do it to anyone.

Hi, Group of people - all are different from each other. What is that considering as a friend? If she/he is your friend, accept their opinions as constructive criticism and you can tell him/her that they can share what they feel about you directly with you rather than discussing with others. This might help you imrove that particular 'minus' point of yours. If he/she accepts this offer, then i bet, he/she is a true friend of yours who actually wants you to improve/prosper. Ofcourse few girls love gossip. I think i have crossed this stage and thankfully my friends know how to handle me. LOL.

I will also be hurt. Whenever someone whom I consider as friend hurt me, I expect him or her to have a good reason for doing so. I would give them a chance to redeem themselves to me, or just to even set the records straight. But if I see no effor on ther part to make things right with me, then I guess I just have to say goodbye to our "friendship" and move on.