Lover or parents

Both are necessary in our life so try to convey the parents for your lover but if they not convey then try to leave their thoughts for some time and co-operate with your lover if your love will be true then defiantly one day God will change the thoughts of your parents.

First, ask your parents what makes your lover icky to them.. Parents always seem to have alarm sets about them that goes off when their children is about to get into trouble, and personally, I do trust these early warning devices. :) When it's because of money, or your lover's economic status, you'll be the judge of that. If s/he is enjoying your company because s/he always gets the stuff s/he wants (expensive dates, gifts, etc.) then listen to your parents. But if they consider him economically deficient just because his/her job earns him/her just enough to get on by everyday, then make them see his/her potential and assure them that s/he is not after your family's wealth. :) For every relationship, nothing beats talking to the important people in your life, whether they're your parents or your lover. Be the bridge between the gap. :)

I'd say, I can't marry my parents but my love also won't pay for all the years my parents has sacrificed for me. So, the end part would be, talk to both parties. I'll ask my parents to understand my decision and I will also ask my bf to understand my parents for they are only trying to make sure I am in the hands of a man who will surely love me for the rest of my life before my parents leaves this world. It will be hard, I know, but, there is definitely no harm if I try.

As for me,I will try my best to get a balance between my parents and my lover,and usually my parents can understand me and let me to make the decision. And as my advice to you guys,I think that you will have many choice for lover but you only have a parents forever,so I think everyone should take it into your desicison.

Well, in my case..i had fight with my love..i had shown to them that i had choose the right man and i know that they will understand me for i know that they love me..now, i am with my love and my parents approved him...so, i i think it was a smooth start for me...

Well, in my case...i had fight my husband to my parents...i had shown to them that i choose the right man for me... I also know that they love me..so i know that they will understand me...now i am with my love and we are happy. My parents accepted him too.

That depends on our situation and age because our parents really gives us some guidance if they observed our lover does not suit their taste.The other thought is that you could also your lover from the eyes of your parents just to show that you really fight for your lover.

When I first got with my partner, I will admit that my family were not all that keen about him for a number of reasons. In fact they said to me that they wished I would split up with him, so this was something that I had to think about for a short while. But when I spent more and more time thinking about it I just realised that if they were the ones making me choose then they were the ones being unfair. I told them that I wasn't going to do it, and they now like him and I am still with him four years after us first getting together.

Without any second thought or a doubt I can definitely say that I will go with my parents. Because I might have known my lover for 5-6 years or the max 8 years. But I know my parents for the past 23 years and they know me well too. At the same time, I also want my girl also want to go with her parents' wish because like my parents she is also well loved by her parents too.I don't want them to be hurted. If we really love each other I am of the opinion that we should obey our parents too and I am sure they won't stand against our wish too.

As an adult, I would have to go with my lover, if I ever find one, but my parents will not like who I bring to them anyway. I have tried this several times, and what they want is different than what I want. They want me to be happy, but let me find someone my way, and I will be happy. They tried to set me up before only to have disastrous results. Unless there is something seriously wrong with the relationship, there is no reason to intervene. I am not going to tell them that they are reason that I am not in a relationship right now, amongst other things, but that's all that I have to say.

I think with this kind of situation, it would be a case to case basis. Some parents may be too interfering with the personal lives of their children, to the point of not letting their children decide on their own even if they are already old enough to decide for themselves. On the other hand, there are also "lovers" who seem to show something that is off that might tick the parents thus meddling with their kids' private affairs.

This is really a good topic and sometimes it makes you really crazy of who to choose.I have fight for my lovers before but I think my parents are right.It is really something that you should think a hundred times.What can I say is that you cannot change your parents.

i would obey my parents. coz i believe in the saying that 'parents knows best'.. they only want the best for us and nothing else.. and parents experienced marriage life and knows what personality fits for us coz they knew us from the start.

Its really really difficult to answer this question. Actually the answer totally depends on the situation. I cannot leave my parents. But i also cannot break the commitment of my girlfriend. But other prospect is i will stand for the truth. If my girlfriend is wrong i will leave her. But if my parents are wrong i will make them realize. I will not leave them but i will not marry anyone. And i will make them realize my pain. But fortunately my parents understands me and they accepted my love..

All I can say is there are many lovers out there to choose from, but only one set of parents.