This is the real me!

If you feel you have difficulties in looking for real friends, maybe you could adjust a little by relaying a positive attitude. Sometimes, a person that is quiet most of the time is misinterpreted as a snob. I was pretty similar like you when I was younger. What I did was to associate myself more with others and try to lessen the "quietness and solitude". Well, it helps! I didn't totally change, coz there are times that I am also just not in the mood to be around people. But if my friends are with me, I try to be more approachable to them.

Sometimes people immediately associate something negative things to a person they just meet. How do people interpret the new person? By the way she or he talks, walk, smile, laugh or anything he/she does. For me, it is a kind of challenge when someone misinterprets my actions and then conclude that I am really what they think. So what should I do, I just need to keep quiet and show them that I am as unique as anybody else. Why should I be affected by what they say? As long as I am doing the right thing, my life will go normal as usual.

hello there! I guess you don't have to feel that bad after all. You don't need to try so hard just to get close to those people around you. No matter how quiet you are, if you can find good friends, I mean REAL FRIENDS, they'll make you speak up. There is no need for you to be someone else in their eyes just to simply "fit in". It's YOU, right. And there is nothing else you must to but to stay the same and to somehow make a little adjustment IF NEEDED. That is to avoid the CONFLICTS that may arise because of your silence. Friendship is a matter of trust and acceptance. Being a quiet type of person is the total opposite of someone being so tactless and talkative. No matter how openly they say what's in their minds, it is not a guarantee that all the people around them really like them. Stay Cool! Take time to get to know the people around you. You'll see you'll simply get along without so much effort on your part. Good Luck!

You already answered it--because all of us have different opinions. What's right for you might be nasty for them. But that alone shouldn't explain why a person becomes judgmental. We really can't help but encounter people who are narrow and closed-minded that anything out of their definition of ordinary is unacceptable. You are right in seeking better friends; we cannot change everyone for the better even though we try hard to. Sooner or later they will learn their lesson. But that doesn't mean you cannot enjoy your life now in the company of new friends who truly understand you.

There are really people like that, we always say that we are unique individuals but a lot of us can't respect a person's individuality. People talk behind our backs because we can't be what they want us to be. I guess it's how people are.