I am in Online Love.
By swats89
@swats89 (1729)
India
October 16, 2012 3:26am CST
Hi. I love a girl who I meet online on a website. I like her the way she communicates with me and I think she loves me too. We have been friend for around 3 months.But the problem is I haven't seen her photo and I don't know her mobile number too. But she lives in the same country where I live. I know that the virtual online love hardly succeed. So my question is can I tell to her that I love her. What's your view? Cheers.
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20 responses
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
First, you have to be sure that it's really love that you feel there... And before confessing to her, why don't you try to ask for some personal information about her. Because once you know her, see her, then it may be that you will realize that you really love her... or the opposite, you realize that you only enjoyed her company... or the worst, you learn that she is a he...
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
I am just sharing this because I have a friend who experienced that. They were always talking and well he did saw some pictures of the "girl" He was so in love with her, and he really did researched where she lives and all...
One day, he made a surprise visit. Yes he did saw somebody wearing a lady's clothes but he later found out that his girl is a gay. He was really upset, and never engaged in any online relationship again.
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
16 Oct 12
Love has no boundries.. It can come out of no where.. Love can hit you like at ton of bricks or light as a feather.. How do you decifier if it is real or not.. It is hard to tell in the begining if it you are face to face.. So it has to be even harder online.. never seeing her face or hearing the sound of her voice.. Have you asked her for her photo yet? Has she seen yours? There are three main reasons online love doesnt work; someone is lying, distance, and trust..So if she is not ready to give you her photo.. Have the too of you shared personal insite to each other.. likes/dislikes what you want to do with the rest of your lifes.. questions down those lines.. I guess the only way to know without getting more personal with her is to ask a lot of questions.. And if something doesnt add up; hit the nail on the head.. So if this person is just messing with you, its going to hurt but it will stop sooner then later.. Good luck my friend ;-)
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
16 Oct 12
Your welcome.. Yes she could be sincer just taking it extremely slow for one reason or another.. She could be stalling because she has been hurt before; and/or that the people online can be out right scary.. Or shes playing on your emotions.. and trying to see what all she can get out of you..
@swats89 (1729)
• India
16 Oct 12
Hi. I like the way you responded here. I am really careful and stepping each step very carefully. I asked her pic but she said she would show me when she is comfortable with it. I had given my FB profile link to her but she said she didn't view it. I also don't believe in long distance relationship but I don't know why I had such feelings. I think now I have to delay my proposal to her and I should know her first. We have to meet with each other to know in reality who we are. I didn't think about future with her becasue I am playing it slow. Thanks for help. Cheers
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@natliegleb (5175)
• India
17 Oct 12
wow that is a great feel and its so new to hear about and have fun,its one of the best and i surely prefer it
@itsmamanen (423)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
of course you can tell her you love her and see what she has to say about it. if you're lucky, she will say she loves you too and you can go to the next level like giving out her number or showing you her photo. goodluck!
@lioveua_nadakoe (11)
• Indonesia
17 Oct 12
that girl it might be me?lol joke
hey be grateful coz u in same country,,(i had in this situation but more complicated :p)swats89 for a man i adore u coz u has feeling pure from inside ur heart,coz no visual attraction involved,but in case we need to realize we will face 2 face only in real life.need more than patient to get ur love tht u dreaming.i hope everything going smooth as ur wishes.
@swats89 (1729)
• India
17 Oct 12
Hi. Do you know Hindi. No, so you won't be that person,hahahaa. Yeah my feelings are from my heart without seeing her beauty or wealth. I only consider inner beauty of person. I also think that I have to be slow and know her first. Thanks for response. Cheers.
@ellyse2003 (1463)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
First, you have to meet her personally to know more about her. And yes, virtual relationship hardly succeed. Are you really sure about what you feel about her? Maybe you're at the stage of having an infatuation for this girl. The best thing to do is, know her personally, know what she likes, where she hangs out with her friends, go to the place where she usually eat.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
It's very odd that you've been chatting with her for few months already but still you haven't seen her photo.
Maybe you can ask for her photo first and then her contact number.
Then, you may tell yoruself that you really love her.
And if the feeling is mutual, maybe she will give her contact number too.
@ASHUDEEP (1774)
• India
16 Oct 12
Nice to know friend that you are in online love it is really a great feeling and it is little bit risky also but i think that love is really possible and it has no boundaries so friend if you think that you really love her then try to talk with her and tell her all things and i am sure if she also loves you then her answer is yes do not be shy friend if she says yes you got your love and today in newspaper i read a story about online love a girl lived in UP are in love with a foreign guy and that person comes to UP for her and also changes his religion to marry with her so friend i think it is best example for you so friend tell your heat thinking to her .
All the Best .
@swats89 (1729)
• India
16 Oct 12
Thanks my friend for your response. I know love has no boundaries of cast, creed or money. Infact my parents don't oppose me if I had love marriage too. But I think I am playing too fast. First I should see her pic, then meet her up. Then I can decide what she really is. But you know I had urge to tell her but I think I have to sink it into my heart . Cheers.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
Well, I think it would be much better to know the person better than to just let yourself fall in love with her. You have to remember that not everybody who participates on chats can be disclosing their true identity. It is much better if you can persuade her to see each other. But for her safety and peace of mind, tell her that she can bring along a friend with her.
@lengxiaoyu (9)
• China
16 Oct 12
You can ask her to show her photos, then think about whether you love her. Appearance is important, especially for boys.Don't be so rude. It's not good.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
16 Oct 12
I have heard of people falling in love online. And many times these dont work out well. Make sure you know who he-she is before doing anything.
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 12
I would suggest that you start with a small step first. See her photo, meet up and chat to understand each other better. Being online and real could be a huge different as mentioned by other myLotters in similar discussion topic. However, I knew a couple of friends who ended up married and have a wonderful family life together. They knew each other online too. Same country but far apart, one on the north part of the country and the other one at another end ...
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
19 Oct 12
do not make sure whether she is a girl or boy.
if she trusts you then she will reveal her details to you.
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
17 Oct 12
If you are so deep with you love then go for it but make sure that you don't cheat or don't love her for human attractions.
Love her and just present your love in the best way you can.
Good luck
@riyauro (6421)
• India
16 Oct 12
It is risky for you as you have not seen her. If you really love her out of nothing then go ahead and propose but don't regret after that. Life is once and you must take a decision seriously and not blindly. Choice is yours..Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
Oh. I think you should be sure of what kind of feelings you have for her as for the moment. Ask yourself first why you have loved a girl even without seeing her photo or in person. You must be sure about yourself first before confessing your love to someone. I also think that cyber love works for some people. But for others, it isn't. So be careful. I think you should be friends with her first.
@puiuioandaniel (182)
• Romania
16 Oct 12
In this fact is a lot a problem. You must think about pros and cons. What can you loose if you tell here what do you feel? If she loves you too, when do you see each other? You live in same country but no in same town.
I know that you can feel a strange connection, but I think you should see her. Then you must have a good thinking about this situation. I wish you luck and a clear mind