friends with your EX

I want to be civil,(being civil to me means to say hi to one another if we meet coincidentally anywhere) not really friends with my ex boyfriend. 2 years has passed when our paths crossed, I wanted to say hi but he just walked straight as if he didn't see me. We had many great times when we were together. I was hoping that that at least will be the basis of our civil relationship but unfortunately I think he doesn't think that way. We both have our own families now so I was kinda hoping that he had moved on already and forgotten about our past. In your case I think you both should act civilly together because you have a daughter. You can't talk properly if both of you are still quarreling. You must resolve your issues soon for the sake of your daughter.

I am in the same situation! All my relationships ended very bad and I am a bit sorry that I can't make my ex my friend! But since you had a relationship, friendship isn't possible anymore because you will always remember what happened between you and him!

This month it's been 5 years since I last saw my ex and I hope I never ever see them for the rest of my life, I am not bitter, and I don't hold a grudge any longer, it took a long time for me to get over them, because it was an abusive relationship my ex was a control freak, a total manipulator and had violent mood swings, I actually 'vanished' to get out of the relationship, and fortunately I got away with it, they don't know where I live and that's the way I want it to stay. In fact it has put me off relationships for life.

i cant even tolerate it ,i will just go to him and ask things straight out,its untolerable

This happens all over the world with seperations. I went through this with my ex husband for many years. Now, my son lives with him in the usa and goes to school there. Before I couldnt even talk to my ex. All is good now, as best for my son.

Of course, my ex is also my friend this time.Pure acceptance of both of you not really are meant to be together is the key for friendship.Only time heals to accept the fact that we really need to separate to be a better person without each others presence.

That is quite true to my ex wife also.We are communicating,about our children,but our new life were sometimes discussed just to have some updates,that whoever find their right partner should discussed it with the former mate,so that they would know their was some recognition from both sides.We are still very closed with my former wife.

this will shock you.....my ex lives with me and my family. that's how much of a friendship we have. it started off bad, but after a while, we reconciled our differences for the sake of the children. then, he needed help when he gained custody of his son and moved into my house. he has his own room. his son shares a room with our son. our daughter has her own room. my husband and i have the master bedroom. in a way it works as parents, we are all on the same page with discipline and chores. there's a list of who does what and we support each other. the children get to be with me and their father and stepfather. most importantly, we worked out our differences in order to have the relationship that the children needed us to have.