what to decide.

I think you should relocate. Live near an area where both you and your wife can go to work without having to travel for 3 hours. This way you both can save time and can rest properly too.

You can find a house nearer or find someone who can take care of your children! Another possibility is to look after a better job if you don't what do you do, but this isn't a secure solution!

In this situation, i think you should find a house which is near to your or your wife's working place. As for this, one person between you and your wife can save much time to take care of your kids and do housework. And the other one spend much time on journey as before. However, it's only a temporary approach. 150km is so long. It may be in two different cities. So the best solution is you find a new job which is near to your wife.

you have to search a job the place where your wife is working. She is in govt dept and therefore she cant leave her job. You can leave your job , even though lucrative.

Sometimes you have to sacrafice for awhile. I understand its hard on you. But if the money is good. You need to do it for awhile. maybe something better will open up for her.

Hello friend, I think your wife should find a job nearer in your home. It is impractical that she is working in a very far place and yet her only reason is she has that secured job.We do not know a better job is waiting for her just nearer your place. She should explore your place for your both convenience.

You may want to look for a house that is much nearer to your work so that it could save you time in going to and from the office. I think that is the best solution. But if that would not be possible, maybe going home atleast during the weekend can solve your problem. That is if your wife will approve on that. The only thing is, you have to look for a place to stay near your office alone.

Hi spuliven! We are on the same situation. You know children will grow up eventually and one thing we should consider is to secure their future. For the meantime, you could hire someone to take care of your child while you are at work or you could ask assistance from your relatives so one of you, can stay on the place of work to minimize the expense you incurred for transportation. While the other can do a daily travel. Or you can decide to stay in the middle of both place so you could go home at less time.

Thanks for posting this discussion. Well i know u are very much tensed for the aforesaid situation and who would not be after all at the end of the day u are getting tired and are not able to spend good time with your family. What i can suggest u is to keep continuing your job and once u find that everything is settled and stable then u both can look out for a good job near your place. What say?