I hate to see my friend suffering..:-(
By eiram23
@eiram23 (421)
Philippines
October 18, 2012 3:14am CST
Have you been in a situation wherein today you're happy and tommorrow you are wasted?
It's horrible!. I have a friend. Something bad happened to her just few days ago. For a couple of days she was not responding to our messages, she is not answering to our calls, she is not showing up. The last time we know she is sick.. Just today, she broke her silence. All of us are shocked with her horrible story. I can see how terrible she is. sHe shared us what happened. I couldn't believe it. If it happens to me I won't be able to know what to do as well. But I admire her so much. She is so strong and brave to tell us all those things. Revealing a very sensitive information is not that easy especially that not all people can understand you. But she did..she did.. I am just hoping she can recover. It might take somew time but hopefully she will as soon as possible. It pains me seeing my friend suffering. It hurts me even more because I can't do anything to alleviate the pain.. :(
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@mhypie03 (683)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
Sometime no words can ease the pain but by simply making yourself available whenever they needed someone to listen to is enough to make them feel better. So that's what I can suggest as well. A lot of people come to me to ask for prayers since most of the time this is the best that I could offer as help. I hope & pray your friend gets through that. It may not be that easy for now but life must go on.
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@41CombedaleRoad (5955)
• Greece
18 Oct 12
It is natural for animals who get hurt to hide themselves away and I think humans are inclined to do the same thing. We need time to adjust to bad situations, it is something internal and sharing it can only make the situation vivid again. I would hide away too but like your friend I would eventually come out and share my troubles. If we don't do that then our friends may get the wrong idea and think we have some kind of a problem with them. It helps too if there is someone who has walked the same path, I know people who have had children die are the only ones who can help abother couple in that situation.
Now your friend has shared with you it is the beginning of the healing process for her and she knows that she has friends who understand something of what has happened to her.
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Thank you guys.. she actually admitted, she wants to be alone those past couple of days. she doent know what to do but like what you said maybe she needed a friend to listen to her. Good thing she made up her mind and told us about her situation. Atleast now we understand her better. We were not really expecting the revelation. We thought its just something lighter than what she have told. But again of course we are her friends and we are here to support her. And again of course prayer is still the best thing we can do. Your right, it is the start of her healling process. She already accepted the fact that she need not to be alone because she has friends she can run to.
@khhhaaaat (112)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
I also hate seeing my friend suffer.
Nobody does actually.
Sometimes, when there are hardships and sufferings, sometimes we just want someone to lean on or someone to listen. Be that person. even without talking so much, just listen and stay beside her. Assist her in what she's been going through. and never let her stray dark on her life.
No matter what problems she may have and no matter what she may reveal to yo. be that one friend that will never leave her.
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@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
That's right. That is really what she need right now, a friend who can assist her and will always there for her to listen to. Good thing, we have a lot in the group and she can turn to us like her own family. She feels a lil better now because she already spoken out her mind. she already shared to us her burden so atleast she can feel better now.
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
20 Oct 12
yes you are right, we do not hesitate to help our friends when they are suffering.
Hope everything will be alright soon. 
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Thank you for that. It's very sensitive. I cannot share it here. I just hope she will be okay soon. She is strong and brave though so I know she can do it. Definitely we are praying for her. Hope she really can recover soon.. She is very much affected and its been a week since the last time she report to work. But we understand him though..
Sorry for questioning those private things to you. 
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
18 Oct 12
I hate to see anyone suffering. We always wish we could help. or do more.
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
It really does, especially if you can't do anything about it aside from being there for her and help her out of the situation. You would like to confront those people who hurt your friends but you know it will not help either. Worst it will jjust aggravate the situation..:(
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
18 Oct 12
Yes it is hard to see a friend or a family member in pain or suffering. The best thing you can do for this person is to be there. Be supportive, regardless of the situation and your own opinions on what happen.. Just being there will help this person out.. It may not seem like you are doing much.. Allowing this person to talk about what is going on freely without added opinions or judgemental comments is soo supportive.. I have someone like that.. It does really help.. I hope your friend is doing better soon.. God Bless you and your friend
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Thank you for that I am hoping as well. coz all of us are being affected now. Your right, just simply being there as a friend wouyld help a lot. We dont need to talk, we just need to listen. To let them express what they feel, respond to what they asked and offer a shoulder for them to cry on. I hope she can really recover soon. It's really a big trauma for her..:(
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@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
hi eiram,
I feel the same way to and we have the same situation right now my friends is not doing good cause something is bothering her I am sad that she choose to be alone at this moment but I should respect that I am just hoping that one day she will able to go back in her normal life and live like no one hurt her.
happy mylotting
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Oh yeah that's so sad. Maybe yes we will gonna respect their decision. in due time i believe your friend will tell you everything. For the meantime lets just make sure our friends can feel our presence and support especially our love for them. This is the time they needed us the most so we really have to be strong for them as well.
@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
18 Oct 12
I am a terrible friend comforter. Whenever I see my friends in sorrow, I would also feel bad and when they cry, I also shed tears for them. I hate feeling helpless around friends, so I do whatever I can to make them feel that they are not alone. Most of the time, this is the best that I can do.
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Right, but at some point they just need our empathy instead of our sympathy.. We can cry with them, share them their burden or sorrow but just make sure not to aggravate the feeling. Maybe we can just sit beside them, listen to them and held a hand for them when needed. especially sometimes are friends doesnt want us to feel pitty about them.
@FarmGirl360 (12)
• United States
18 Oct 12
Sometimes words do more harm than good. Stay silent and near. Just knowing that there are friends close can be a help and comfort. Check in every once in a while. That can mean the world to someone who is hurting.
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
I sure will. I have been in such instances when I feel like I am in a calvary. And I know being there as a friend would be a lil help. Letting her know we are here for her will be more than enough for her to know how much we love and care for her. I just hope she can recover soon..
