Discipline a Child

How a parent disciplines there children does affect how they act when they are older as well as what they might do as parents themselves. I don't spank my kids because there are other ways to discipline a child. Time out works very well as well as taking things away and then giving them back when they are acting better.Child act not only how they feel but also what they see. If they see you hitting someone even themselves when something is done wrong then they are very likely to think it's okay to hit other people when they have done something wrong.

I don't agree on spanking or beating a child in order to make him or her discipline. I believe if one beats the child, the child listens and not repeat the behavior or action again, that's because the child is afraid of getting punished or making the parents unhappy, but not really learned to be disciplined. Although sometimes talking to the child nicely, he may not listen, I believe he will slowly understand. I have to confess that sometimes I do scold and use "walk away" method. Sometimes when I know I really can't accept what my son did, and after several times talking nicely to him, and he still didn't listen, I'd walk away from him for awhile, or keep him away from me, after I have calmed down, then only I went back and talked to him. I have actually tried several methods when I was angry, but all did not take effect at all. At last, I still think keep talking to the child, keep telling him, and he will understand. My son did understand some that I've told him, he did not listen at the moment is just because he really feels like doing something, and he doesn't understand the consequence of doing it, he is still too young to judge. But, I believe he understands and he will be good disciplined.

I think giving them a warning and distracting them usually works. A slap on the hand when they touch something dangerous like pit a fork into a light socket should be the only spanking necessary and if your country fines you or puts you in jail because you prevented your child from being electrocuted, it is crazy. So a slap on the rear is usually not necessary and after many warnings, but most of the time it works better by time outs or not allowing the child to do something he likes works. If you do multiple spankings, it soon happens that the intensity of the spanking increases and it becomes ineffective.

If your child did wrong and are being bad all you have to do noe a days since you can hit them is to take thinks away, take things away like there tv maybe there cell phone or an ipad or something big that they like so they can learn the lesson and to learn waht they did wrong. I believe its the only thing now a days thats going to work. If they play sports tell them there not going to be at the next game and there playing because he messed up and is going to have respect for what he did.

It is really difficult to discipline kids, lest hold your anger when the kids made something real bad. Psychologists would suggest that constant communication with our child can help them to open up to their parents and are less likely to do wrong things. But not all parents ca be really good parents. So our kids sometimes pick up traits of their peers that leads them to doing things that make their own parents mad. Hitting or spanking to discipline a child really doesn't help. It will only cause your child to stay away from you. It is not fear that they feel, but anger towards you.

I was spanked as a child and I spanked my son when he did something he was not suppose to do. I rarely had to discipline my child because he knew that when I said no, I meant no. I didn't have to worry about my son begging for toys or having a temper tantrum when we went shopping either. He walked along beside me and never wandered off. He was raised to respect his elders and he said yes ma'am and no ma'am. My nieces and nephews, when they were at home, they were very unruly and run amok, when they came to my house it was like they were totally different kids. It was yes ma'am and no ma'am and please and thank you. I won't tolerate unruly behavior. The way some kids are disciplined these days it's not a wonder that they are so many juvenile delinquents on the streets. I've got a little nephew, he's in 1st grade, he did something wrong at school one day and was put in time out. When the teacher turned her back he ran out of the class and they had to chase him across the playground to catch him. He was running away from school. He was expelled. His mom brought him over that evening and was telling us about it. I asked my nephew did I need to go to that school. He said no ma'am. He told his mom not to send me to send his granny. Kids need to be taught that they will be punished if they do something bad. When they get out on the street and do something wrong, they're not going to be put in time out.

Every child is different so something that works for one child will not work with another one. Sometime the surprise of a swat on the behind will work a lot better than a weeks worth of time outs. I raised four kids with a few spanking and they didn't turn into the violent hitting kids that spanking is said to cause. It depends on how often and for what a spanking is give for. I gave a spanking for things that they were told many time about that could cause them, real harm. Spanking was always the last resort.

Well I Am not a child abuser[I have 4 children all grown up now] and I have to say I did smack them every now and then! when nothing worked I found a good whack on their bum did work wonders! once they were in the teens years we learnt to discuss and have arguments which could go on for days some times until we all agree to compromise somehow...but I had the upper hand and they knew it. We can't let them forget we are the parent I believe a child who respect his/her parent at home will have respect for another human been in any situation where ever they are in life.

I think that the law and school systems should stay out of childrearing practices except in cases of abuse and neglect. They all want to tell parents how we can dscipline our kids but also want to blame us when our kids no longer listen to us and get into trouble. Outside interference from "authorities" does have a negative impact on the attitudes of children. Kids now think that they don't have to do as they are told and if they are spanked for misbehaving, then all they have to do is go tell the school counselor and cause trouble for mom and dad. I always let my kids know if they pulled that sort of thing, they would definitely need the authorities to come rescue them. When we were being raised, my siblings and I would not have dreamed of talking back or disobeying our parents because we knew that dad would tear our behinds up. I am now 44 years old and have not forgotten from whence I came. I still make sure I am respectful to my father when I speak to him and I make every effort to accomodate the requests that he makes of me.

in our India, parents can beat the children as much as they want. so much freedom is there here. but now a days every thing is becoming globalizing, so they are saying instead of beating.

I would talk to my kids on a calm fashion, in that way, those sentiments will not be miscontrued as a violent thing which is not acceptable to them. I hope I can be a good disciplinarian to my kids in the future. For I would not spoil them, too much is not good. Thanks