My Heart Is In Jail, Help Me Go Out!

I would interpret it as people who are afraid of doing what their hearts want , they are too afraid to take the leap . Sometimes we hold back our true self because we care about what people have to say , so we are never care free enough to just have fun . Also can be interpret as a teenager who parents will to allow them to follow their dream but to rather live the life the parents chooses rather than their own . Parents can be very strict and hard so we sometime feel we are in jail , we just wish someone will help us get away .

I have not yet experienced this because I have not yet introduced a bf to my parents. When I had bf's I was living at my brother's place (3 hours away from my hometown). So I did not have the chance to let them know. I don't feel that they are strict, but yes my mom have few requests about the my future guy and for me those aren't that hard to follow. Those were just reminders. I don't feel being tied on the neck ^^

It is so good you have learned from your mistake(s). Do you know how many people go through life making the same mistakes over and over? People split and get divorced thinking they will find someone better.. will have better luck.. but all the time, they still have their own self in the relationship and they live through the same types of things over and over.. Good for you! Now if you don't forget in the heat of moments..

I am glad that you learned a lesson from your previous relationship. I think some things happen for a reason. Sometimes we need to feel pain to really appreciate how things are. That is why failure should not be taken for granted nor be ignored because somwhere behind it there is a lesson to be learned. I guess that is how we learn to be strong and face the world a better person. I am happy that you found your lesson!

To me it means a person's feelings or emotions are trapped or are shut out, and they have no way of expressing it, and are in need of escape. I have witnessed a lot of abusive (verbally and physically) horrible relationships when I was younger. I even witnessed one of my close friends depend on her abusive boyfriends as we were growing up, and even become abusive herself. Back then I wish I spoke up more, so I could tell them to snap out of it or at least do something to stop them from becoming victims in their relationships. But since I grew up around it I didn't quite understand, and kept everything to myself, so in the end no one really knew what I what I was feeling. The first time my boyfriend tried to verbally abuse me, I snapped. I didn't take any of it. I was tired of everyone I knew playing the victim role, and I wasn't going to start. Though I saw what I did wrong that day. That I should have just said it's over, and walked away instead of stooping down to his level and letting my life from then on go in the wrong direction. I soon realized that during my early teenage years I was different,and angrier from how I used to be.I was no longer my nice quiet self. Every time my boyfriends got into a heated argument with me by the end of it they'd asked me how come I always had some time of venom laced into my voice whenever we got into a fight--even at the little things. It got even worse when I saw that I was getting an attitude with my sister, my aunts, my friends, my teachers, and even my mother. I was slowly changing as I wanted to hurt people as badly as they have hurt me, my friends, my aunts, my grandmother,etc. I just wanted them (the evil people I dated) to feel the pain I felt as I was growing up. I've changed somewhat now--even though I still have that venom-laced sarcastic wit in me--and am still--very slowly--in the process of changing. I guess keeping my feelings bottled up for so long caused me to distance myself with people through using cruel speech.

I am a strict and authoritative partner too.What I say is what I said. And I don't immediately believe whenever he explains that causes us to argue even the little issues in our relationship. But what I like with my current partner is that whenever he's getting too much strings in his neck he knows how to shut me up and when I see his eyes that he's too serious I will let down my flag and I will shut my self. Especially when it's way too much I'll loosen my grip. I think that's the nature of a being a woman we tend to hold our man even if we know that it will cause them imprisonment maybe we are just afraid that one day they will leave us for somebody or someone, it is just a self defense.

I am not a jealous person. I always give freedom to all my partners. That is the reason they lost me after few years because I refuse to their offer. Wanted to get married which I wasn't ready yet. I did it because I don't have plan to be tied up to anybody.

it's all about control. The subject of control ruins more relationships than any other thing. If you can truly love someone then you can acceptthem worts and all. Remember each adult leads their own life and if they are ready to let you into that life you must honor that gift with total acceeptance of them includeing all the faults. Things you should never say to each other are, should do, must do, don't do. A clue is that if you hear something you don't like or can't accept than it's a pretty good guess they don't want to hear anything like that from you either. Love, but accept as is, don't try to change. Blessings

Hello rberon1985, I didn't want to comment but I truly believed you did your best to make the relationship work. I remember one time how you discussed about getting at her for at least not telling you were she was going and you got one hell of a splat for that. sad to know that she didnt feel the same way with you anymore. but the good thing there is that your single now and can find some one better.

You are into in a relationship that you're not happy anymore and you can't go out of it.It sometimes the phrase of some mistress who really truly fall in love at the end.

Well, i'm on the type on only one boyfriend ....he is my first and my last...well i am not really chain in our relationship for ours is going smoothly...my problems are on his responsibilities on his family...it is not i am jealous of it but it is to much...for our decision is bounded by his family thoughts and i don't like it...we are chain to his family that's why i tried to talk to him and said" We are creating our family why always consult you parents? please have a backbone....! That what i said and with follow ups" If you can stand alone we must separate ...i cannot take this kind of relationship, maybe you should marry your parents not me...be with them....and hoping he understand....huhuhuhuhuh...till now no result