Do you feel you are rewarded for your effort and hard work in the family?

Thanks a ton for posting this discussion. Well who on earth would not like to be rewarded when he does hard work and efforts but we should always have this thought that if we are doing hard work and working effortlessly then our results will always reap good rewards of its own. We should not always expect rewards and appraisals from people as if we do not get those then we would be disappointed and would loose our heart to work again. What say?

My family members just used to support or reward me when I do something good. For the last time it was myself who had cleaned the garden. The work was quite easy and I had done it quite easily with a good mood. When my parents saw me doing it they was well planned to give something for me. After my works, while I was watching TV I was surprised with a new good pen drive. I was my parents to get them for me but they told was telling me that the time has not yet arrived. Anyway I am quite happy with the surprise

sometimes i enjoy the reaps and benefits of hard work ,other times its really annoying me always

Yeah things like this make me very upset. I could probably write a book about how upset this makes me. My husband is like this. So much so that I would like a divorce but since I do everything for him and HIS life is great because of me he will not sign the divorce papers. For awhile now I have been trying to make things work and now I'm tired. I cook,clean, work part time, and take care of the home. Never do I get a thank you or acknowledgement for the things that I do. Once when I talked about working and our daughter going to daycare you know what my husband basically said, that I will have to pay for childcare and that it will be expensive. He basically said it like she isn't even his daughter, like I had her from a previous marriage or something.It is awful all of the stuff I have to put up. Right now though I'm working on getting a full time job so that I can save and be in a position to better support myself when the time comes.

I must say, I have been fortunate enough to receive acknowledgement for the smallest of my effort I have ever put in. I don't remember being taken for granted ever. My family has been my biggest supporter and have always appreciated my work.

maybe some of the familymembers are busy so some of us could not notice how grateful they are. Some people are not that showy on their feelings, they tend to hide what they feel but the most important part is that you can be of help to them, you are blessed, and you know how to deal with it. Never expect in return for whatever you've done, never compute, always be of good attitude with them, coz they are your family, nonetheless there will come a time that they will realize the importance of you and your doings.

I knew this feeling. Actually we do not expect to be rewarded for our deeds or any help extended to every members in the family. All we want is- acknowledgment or even a simple 'thank you" is enough to compensate all the things, effort and time we are giving to our family. But sometimes, it's really sad when we feel rejected/neglected , the worse is- taken for granted by our own family.

When it comes to family, I cannot blame anyone for not giving me due credit. They still will be my family as I do believe every child must love and respect the parents, grandparents and siblings. For the extended family... I dont give a damn thought about them and neither their appreciation nor ignorance or anything else has ever played any role on me. However, they appreciate, I do act polite and say thanks and same when they ignore me... I know neither I have any importance for them nor do they have any for me... so why to fuss and create a scene... let them be happy the way they want to be.

I really have never thought about it. its just my son and I. And ive never really cared what any other family member cared. I only look out for my son, and he looks out for his mom.