a boy leaves you for other girl. then he wants you back.. what you do?
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
Portugal
October 19, 2012 12:56pm CST
hi guys
imagine that your lover leaves you for someone else. and then things go wrong between them and he wants you back. would you accept him?
about me i wouldnt. because if he really loved me he wouldnt leave me for other girl. then wanting me back after things are over between them could mean that he took me as granted. i wouldnt want a guy that was in doubt of his love for me and came back when lost the girl he left me for.
what about you guys? would you accept your lover back?
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
19 Oct 12
The answer is no. A big NO. That right off the bat is a trust issue. If someone leaves you and then wants you back, well, thats not good at all. That goes to show you that the person is a sneaky liar and will do it again when the opportunity comes up. So stay away from anyone who leave and then says they want you back.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
20 Oct 12
thanks so much for your advice^^ yes you are right if he wanted me back after leaving me for someone else then he wasnt someone i could trust. because if she wanted him back he might leave me again because of her. i wouldnt risk myself to get hurt once again for a guy that didnt love me in the first place. because if he did he wouldnt leave me.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
23 Oct 12
those words are wise for sure. your father was a smart man. thanks for sharing those words with me. yes for now i will be more careful when it comes to trust a guy. i used to believe in everything a guy told me and then got hurt. thats why people say that we shouldnt go on sweet words. but on actions only. so i will follow your advice. i dont want to get hurt anymore. thanks ![](/Content/images/emotes/hugs.gif)
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
21 Oct 12
Exactly. You have to stand up for yourself and be your own person. Learn how to read people. That does come with experience. And remember these words, these are words my father always said. "Believe half of what you see and none of what you hear." I live by those words.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
20 Oct 12
yes i guess the most part wouldnt accept him back. but i heard stories about girls who accepted guys that cheated on them a lot. i wouldnt be happy with a guy that cheated even once. because i wouldnt know if he would do that again. unless he gave me a chance that proved that he really love me. but i guess those proves are hard to be found.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
27 Oct 12
i know that. i just mean that if a guy cheats you once maybe you can give him a second chance. but when he cheats you over and over again how can you still be with him? no one needs a disrespectful guy in his life. for me if i forgave would be only one time. if there is love there isnt cheating. when you love just that guy matters.
@toniganzon (72277)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
Never. How could i ever trust such a scumbag again. Once is enough, twice is too much. It's something that I could never accept no matter what. LIke you, i share the same opinion. He left me for someone else and just because it didn't work out, he will come back to me again? If i accepted him again, he would never respect me anymore and would still treat me like trash. I value myself more and i don't like being treated like a trash. I'm too precious to accept someone like that back in my life again. ![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@pupupd (1515)
• India
31 Dec 12
Yes, absolutely scumbags is the name for such guys. You are right toniganzon when you say the guy will not respect you & treat you like trash if you ever happen to accept a guy back, I completely agree with you. We gals are too precious for such stupid doutche bags!
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
27 Oct 12
im happy you think like that^^ a guy like that would be one that didnt have feelings. if he loved you really he wouldnt leave you in the first place. if he wanted me back out of nowhere is because the girl he switched me for didnt want him anymore right? i would have that doubt always in my head. im happy you think the same way. its good that you have a good boyfriend who values and loves you
like you say, we girls are too precious to scumbags^^
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@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Well, it happened to me before, my ex boyfriend leaves me because he met a new girl and had a relationship with her but when he found out that girl cheating on him he called me and wants me back. I did not accept him because i have no feeling to him anymore and I do not want to waste my love and precious time to him.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
19 Oct 12
im so sorry. just when she cheated on him he remembered to call you. what a selfish guy! no one needs a guy that just sees our value after choose other girl over us and when she cheats him he calls us to be together again. i mean im happy you didnt accept him back. you deserve a guy that chooses you as his number one always and not just after being cheated on.
@pupupd (1515)
• India
31 Dec 12
I completed agree with both of you. Boys cannot play with a girl's heart whenever they wish. We are not toys, we have feelings too.
To every guy in this world who leaves one gal for another & wants to come back - "When were you when I needed you the most? Having fun with the other gal. Now when things have turned bad between the two of you, you want to find solace in me? Damn you, go to hell!!"
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
1 Jan 13
yes pupu ^^ you sent a good message to those stupid guys who are so selfish that dont even understand the bad they do to girls who love them so much. would be good that all girls thought like you. i feel so sad when i see girls forgiving guys who cheat them over and over again. i mean how can they let them humiliate them?
@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
Oh :) Haha I've been to this few months ago :$ My ex who broke up with me, started sending me nice sweet messages again. My heart was happy and wanted to give another chance but my mind disagrees. And yes, my final decision was moving away from him..
Try to listen the song "Jar of Hearts" but the version of Tifanny & Boyce Avenue.
It's a song for people who broke someone, then wanting to return. lol=)
miss ya dear!
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
23 Oct 12
im sorry for that. i guess your ex saw that he lost an amazing girl and thats why he wanted you back. cause you loved him truly. and is always hard to be sure that someone loves us. and he was sure that you loved him cause you showed him that through your actions. i will listen to the song you said^^ must be lovely. i miss you too
by the way how is everything? how is that guy you will maybe marry in the future? ahah ![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
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@gowtham728 (232)
• India
16 Mar 13
i wont accept because she may go again if she find a better guy than me.she is not a trusted person in that situation and she may turn again as she done before.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
16 Mar 13
im happy that you wouldnt let her hurt you again. we should also care about our own feelings. and not just about our love. im happy that you would wait for the right girl. one that would respect your feelings. and love you a lot.
@pupupd (1515)
• India
31 Dec 12
I will never ever accept him. I will not even think about it. It is impossible to have such thought. For me, love is a serious matter and I am very possessive of my guy. If he leaves for another gal, my love for him will turn into hatred. I will always consider him a betrayer. If he comes back to me, I will give him a tight slap & say get lost. Also, the lines I had mentioned earlier in a comment to the first response to your discussion. I am a strong lady & not so emotional when it comes to practical matters. Guys can play around with emotional gals but not with me. Sorry, Dude! ![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbdown.gif)
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
1 Jan 13
pupu i wish i was as strong as you. till now, all guys i liked always hurt me. i get too attached to guys when i love them so when they leave i be like a broken doll. i feel so bad even about myself. for now, i will try to value myself more and dont give them much importance unless they give it to me. i used to give all of me to guys and never received that much back. i will fight for my happiness and a guy who doesnt value me even if i like him, i will not be close to him. im tired of getting hurt.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
21 Oct 12
Hi sweet love forever: I don't think so not only because I will feel hurt if that happens but because a person who do this to me don't even know what she wants and I can't think about a person who will leave me and go back when she needs me as someone serious.
ALVARO
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
23 Oct 12
im happy to know that. we deserve to be someone's first choice. and not the second. if a guy leaves and then wanted me back it would be because the other girl didnt want him. so he wanted me cause he knew i cared for him right? i like when you say that in your case if that happened the girl wouldnt know what she wanted and she was like playing with you so you wouldnt accept her. thats wise. i wish that you find a good girl who loves you truly.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
No, I wouldn't. I'd say, he'll only do it again and will only hurt me again. I'd say enough. I want a man who will love me and me alone. I want a man who will not make me as his second option if the first one won't work. I want to be the first and and only option.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
20 Oct 12
yes gaiza^^ first and only option is what we girls deserve to be. why would we humiliate ourselves in accepting a guy that lefts us and now that the other girl is away he wants us back? for sure he was taking me as granted. so i wouldnt accept him back even if it hurt me so much. i think we need to love ourselves too. if i allowed him into my life again he might hurt me if the girl changed her mind and wanted him back. and then i would be left again.
@Inderjeetkaur (944)
• India
20 Oct 12
When somebody leaves you for someone else it means the person didn't love you truly, therefore, the person fell for another partner. If someone would do this with me, I would never take him back in my life again. The person who can leave me once can certainly leave me again. Someone who has lost trust in my eyes can never earn it back.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
20 Oct 12
you are right. if he loved me truly he wouldnt leave me for someone else. so for sure i wouldnt accept him back. cause i would always wonder if he really saw he loved me or if wanted me because the girl didnt want him anymore. like you say if someone loses our trust once is hard to gain it back. i think the bad thing would always haunt our relation if i accepted him.
@CODYMAC (1356)
• San Diego, California
26 Oct 12
I am glad that my fiancee did not do this or she would not be my fiancee. This happened to her and she told the guy that she will not be someone's second choice. He left her and she was hurt by it, deeply.
It was hard for her to trust me, and the reason is because she believed that all foreign men were the same. She even told me that she was not sure if she even wanted to be in a foreign relationship...
So, all in all, I am VERY happy that she didnt go back to him... ![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
27 Oct 12
im very happy for you too cody^^ i see that you really love your gf very much. all guys should be serious like you. its sad that many guys just want to play around. and after your fiancee get cheated she was afraid the same happened again. so im happy that you understood her and stood by her supporting her. i wish that soon you can be together near each other ![](/Content/images/emotes/hugs.gif)
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@toxic_lifestyle (1213)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
Just don't bother to accept that kind of person again. Because he's just making you an option. :)
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
20 Oct 12
great advice you gave me^^ you are right i would be only an option to me. he would choose me because the girl he liked left him. and he knew i still like him. dont worry even though it happened and i got hurt in saying no, if this happened i would be strong and say no to him. i deserve to be a first option in a guy's life. and not his second or third.
@adrians (52)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
well, it really depends on why He leaves you. Sometimes we won't know how precious things are until they are gone. If he comes back to you by knowing that he can't live without you, then why not? everything deserves a second chance, why not give our self one right? ^_^
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
23 Oct 12
thanks for your wise advice adrian. you are right. if you leave and he comes after you is because he sees your worth. i will take that as a good advise. like when people say. if you love someone let him go. if he comes back, he is yours. if he doesnt, he never was. and this is really true. thanks so much for reminding me of this saying ![](/Content/images/emotes/hugs.gif)
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
20 Oct 12
yes i agree. if he cheated one time he could do that again. so i wouldnt try to talk to him ever again. i think that when we love we forgive everything. but we also need to take care of our heart. or else we will always be the ones getting hurt. so for now on i will be more careful when i love a guy. cause i dont want to be used by any guy anymore.
@GemmaR (8517)
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20 Oct 12
I think that if I had a partner who left me for somebody else then I would try to cut him out of my life right away. If you love somebody, and you are serious about them, then there is no way that you would treat them in this way and that means that you should never let him back into your life again. Remember that you deserve somebody who treats you well and in a good way, and if this person chose somebody else over you, even once, then at the end of the day you're better off without them and they're not worth knowing.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
20 Oct 12
you are right. if he left me for the first time is because we are not meant for each other. if i let him into my life again i would let myself get hurt again. i dont want that. i want to be happy with a guy that loves me always. and not one guy that loves me, then leaves me, and then loves me again. if he left because of a misunderstanding maybe i could accept him back. but because he chose other girl over me i couldnt ever.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
The initial reaction for that would be, "You're stupid to fall for that crap!". But then again if you truly love the guy, you would readily give him another chance.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
20 Oct 12
i agree with your first reaction^^ for sure i would be too stupid if i believed in him. after leaving me for other girl for sure i wouldnt want to see him even. i would always wonder if he would leave me again. and also if he wanted me back because he understood i was the one for him. or if he wanted me back because the girl left him and he knew i still loved him.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
hi sweet,
I don't want to be a rebound ex girlfriend
I can forgive him but I will never accept him a cheater will always be a cheater
happy mylotting
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
20 Oct 12
yes i understand you^^ for sure you would always doubt if he really loved you or not if accepted him. we should live a clean love without doubts on it. doubts can destroy a relation. so im happy that you would be strong enough to refuse him. even though you would still love him. we girls can be really strong sometimes. i feel sad for those girls that always accept back guys even though they cheated them. they will never feel sure about his love i guess.
@aminul842700 (861)
• Dhaka, Bangladesh
20 Oct 12
Hi, This boy is suffering from psychological disorder. Many men and women are suffering from this problem. In Psychology, it is called "Id". When s/he sees anybody better/smarter/sweeter/tin ager, then s/he wants to get him/her for his/her own. It depends upon personality of an individual. S/He may come back for the time being, but when s/he will get better opportunity, again s/he will do the same thing. He may leave you further and will remain with the person till he gets better service from her. If the new girl cannot satisfy him, then he will come back again.
However, it depends on relation, if he frequently changes his mind, then it would not be wise to accept him again but if it is felt that he has done it whimsically, then he may be given another chance to rectify himself. Have a nice day.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
20 Oct 12
i wouldnt accept him back. i could forgive him for what he did. but i wouldnt want a guy that chose other girl over me once. how would i know if he wouldnt do the same again? i prefer not to be in a relation with him again. or i could love him again and then if he left me i would be very sad again. the best would be for me to start a new relation without bad past things.
@jenjen28 (10)
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20 Oct 12
No you shouldn't accept him because in the first place he was the one who leaves you. So why bother on accepting him again if you know that he just wants you back because you're just his option. Don't try to accept him because you'll never no if his being true to or not.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
20 Oct 12
yes jen thats true. i wouldnt know if he wanted me back because he realized my worth after leaving me. or if it was just because the girl he switched me for left him. so for sure i wouldnt want him back. if he left me once he could do that again in case other girl appeared in his life. i want a guy to whom i will be his first option. not one that just sees my meaning after hurting me so much.
@montevilla (550)
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20 Oct 12
If my partner leaves me for someone else and opt to come back after their break up then that is not really acceptable for me. I cannot accept her again the reason that it seems that she making fun of me.Like trial and error lol. I don't give her any chance for more.
I think she better find someone else.She is just fooling around.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
20 Oct 12
its like she was fooling around if she wanted you back. for me to accept my ex boy again would be a mistake. he would probably not be happy with me. if he left me for the first time is because i wasnt the right girl for him. so to be with him again would be a mistake for both of us. i believe though that if things are meant to happen it will.
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