How do you control yourself from vices?

@leateagee (3667)
China
October 20, 2012 9:46am CST
Being greedy to what we love and make us comfortable and happy. Who cares? It's my life. "It is my life, but the problem is I am indulge with bad practices that affects my career, relationships, health and the whole life." So, how do you control yourself if you love sweets so much? How do you control yourself if you are a big spender? How do you control yourself from any vices that are harmful to your health? When to start controlling? Why should we control anyway? It's our life, not theirs. Should we also control our addiction to mylot?
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@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
20 Oct 12
Well, we should control ourselves for the reasons that you mentioned...because bad habits affect our health, our career, and relationships, our whole life!! So, if something is affecting your whole life in a bad way, that is reason enough to change it. Now, that being said, do I control my bad habits? No, I don't, but I really need to. You are making me feel so bad about myself right now. I have a few bad habits that I need to rid myself of in order to live my best life. Addiction to myLot...I'm not there yet, but I think I'm getting close How do we control ourselves? Well, one has to get control of their mind, because our mind controls the body. We have to get our minds right, tell ourselves to do the right things. I guess one will not change their behavior until they are really ready, so the key to controlling one's self is being ready and willing to change.
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
21 Oct 12
I couldn't agree more. The willingness and readiness for a big change is what we need. The willingness to sacrifice all the comfortable and fun vices. The readiness to live a clean and dull life must also be set to our minds. The question now is ... when will you be ready? When is this willingness going to take effect? Do you need people to push you? Do you need drastic realization to wake you up from the negative effects of vices? I am thankful you were reminded of it. We need each other to be able to realize we are doing something bad. I do have too.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
2 Nov 12
You were effected! So it's working then. The conscience in you is working ... not my fault. I just started and discussed more about it. Thanks! Hoping that we all live a healthy life.
@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
21 Oct 12
See,that's the thing, the vices are comfortable and "fun." That is what makes them hard to let go of. So, the question is...when will I be ready? Don't pressure me leateagee!! I need to ease into this! Uuuugghhh, you are making me feel terrible!! There are some things that I really need to change and you are bringing them to the forefront of my thoughts. I'm not going to let you ruin my weekend! Seriously though, it is good to be reminded of certain things. This is a great discussion you started.
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@GemmaR (8517)
20 Oct 12
I have had to lose a lot of weight recently, and because of this I think that I can talk a little bit about this subject. One of the things that I have to make sure is that I stay busy. If I do this then I am able to get through the day without eating unhealthy snacks, however if it gets to the point where I have nothing to do it means that I actually snack because I'm bored rather than any other reason. If you are addicted to something then the best thing that you could do would be to ease yourself away from them slowly as you will find it harder if you just try to stop them altogether.
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
21 Oct 12
You are right. We can always plan but the action will take osme time. But as long as little by little we do something about it, there is a progress. Good job!
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@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
While I do drink once in a while, it is just to socialize. I don't consider it a vice and I actually dislike the taste. I also don't smoke because it makes me feel sick when I try it.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
21 Oct 12
Good for you! That's great you can still socialize without being hooked to it.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Oct 12
hi leateagee we must use our conscienses to be our g uides. for instance you know you like sweets but no.one you are diabetic, and nu. 2 all that sugar can just make you fat so you heed your conscience and do not gorge on candy. portion control one or two pieces.In re. to career you know that if you do not do your best it will go against your record and if you take a lot of days off you could get fired so you heed your conscience and do not play around but really do your best at work.re relationships you again heed your conscience and do the little things that make relationships work,. you c an control yourself if you have a good conscience and listen to it.
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
21 Oct 12
I agree. Conscience should always guide us. But temptation is everywhere. Friends would tempt you, the occassions, the opportunities and even though there are good people who would remind you, people are hard headed that will just reason out "It's my life!"
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
Start from self discipline, then determination. It's not easy to avoid things that we love so much, it's like an addiction that we can hardly live without. But if we are determined enough to get away from things that may harm us, our health/career/family and our life- there is no impossible if we really want to change for a better us.
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
21 Oct 12
I agree with you. It's starts with ourselves. It's easy to say and plan but putting it to action takes sometimes and a lot of sacrifices.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
A lot of self control can be sometimes difficult but if you will think of what less money we have in our pockets, we would rather think of what better things we should buy from it most especially for the needs of the family.
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
21 Oct 12
True. We should not be selfish. Thinking about the people we love will also help us to control or remove our vices.
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@justinus (1104)
• Karawaci, Indonesia
21 Oct 12
Make my self enough first.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
22 Oct 12
irrelevant response
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
29 Oct 12
Lea, since from childhood, i learned a lot through my parents as what is good and bd habit. Firstly, it comes from self discipline. We must know how to control our envy of everything that we saw in our daily life. We must know what is enough is enough. Having more of it is always considered as greedy. Even for food and drink that we take daily, we should always know how much intake is healthy for our body. i only come online and spend time in Mylot when i am free from my offline matters. Have fun posting in here...
@adnileb (5276)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
Well, mylot is the only exception of all the addictions. I don't have much vices, I only indulge myself with liquor twice a month and I think it's not that bad. Yes, I love sweets and I can't control them. My aching tooth can only control my eating. Have a nice weekend!
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
21 Oct 12
MyLot is definitely an exception. We usually stop when we are already hurting.
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@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
If we consider eating sweets as a vice then I could not say something about controlling it because I'm addicted to sweets. Well, if you really focused on what you will do you can really control any vice that you have. However, I can't control doing mylot specially that I already had my first pay out.
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@ardieboi (195)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
First, you have to understand the consequences of your vices. Ingesting too much sugar would be very bad to your health. Not instantly but in the long run. Smoking can definitely kill you someday. You have to understand that you are not the only one affected by these vices. Your family can also be affected since when your health will be failing, they would also be helping in your hospitalization. And you would be a burden to them not just to yourself. And most especially your spending habits will pose a big problem to your finance.
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
Hello Leateagee, true, vices are all over, but it is a matter of choice wether to give in or not, i mean it's up to you if you're going to control yourself for all those vices or not, you are the only person that can say "no" to them. if you say that its already affecting not just you but your relationship to the people around you, then, wouldn't be a time to think to minimmize those addiction? like i've said you are the only person that can say "no" and i believed you already know what are the consequences you might have before going into certain situation, just be responsible for your actions. Happy Mylotting!
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• India
21 Oct 12
Our desire is the reason for our problems in our life. If we have the ability to control our desire and emotions we can avoid a lot of problems and win over them easily. But it is not an easy thing to control our emotions and desires. Since human heart is filled with lot lot of dreams and desires. We have the ability to control our desire and emotion. As we are the boss of our heart and mind and can take decisions which is good for us. Nothing is impossible for us if we have self confidence and self control. First of all we must trust our ability. We all know what is good and what is bad as well as pros and cons of most of the things. As we are learning a lot of things in our life from our own experience or from other persons experience. We must be wise and avoid the unwanted dreams and desires in our life. If we go behind our unwanted dreams and try our maximum to fulfill it surely we are spoiling our life with our own knowledge. There is nothing wrong in addicted with good things. If our addiction will give good things to us and we get benefits from it, we can do it in our life. But if our addiction is wrong and we are getting issues with it, we must try our maximum to come out from it. We can come out from our bad habits with our determination. Human beings only have the sixth sense which is the great difference from us while comparing the animals. We must use the sixth sense and do the things which is good for us and keep distance from the things which is bad for us. Control your emotions with your will power and come out from unwanted thoughts to avoid unwanted problems in your life.
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@THISISIT (63)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
we ourselves can only control our vices. We must be focused and have determination from quitting to our vices. we should be strong enough.
• United States
21 Oct 12
If you have an addiction its best to recognize how and who it effects. If you spend too much money on something it becomes a vice, too much drink and you'll affect parts of your life. We should all use moderation, set limits and stick to them. If its myLot, an hour a day, set a timer and stop when it goes off. Its also about will power, don't over indulge because then you will burn out and not enjoy it anymore. There are too many other things to do than just one thing.