How do you feel like being in a "secret affair"?

Men and women coomit infidelity and not all of them are cheaters in the sense that the other spouse, for several reasons, accepts the situation. Cheating, on the other hand (with secrecy) is, as I see it, morally wrong because it can cause lot of pain if the other person gets to know about it.

There are a few types of guys, i think the worst kind would those who are too honest to be good to their partner especially when woman cannot handle such things upon hearing it. So end of the day i think "some guys" who cheat actually care about the relationship somehow and those honest one have given up on the relationship. I think having a 3rd party in a relationship really test one love.

I think nobody really wants to be the "second choice" of anyone. But for some circumstances, things happen. As with the person having two men/women in their lives, the reason may not be always be because they have lost their love towards their spouse, or just wanted to add excitement to their lives. Things just happen. It is only up to them on how to make themselves as far as possible to such temptations.

Truth will hurt. But i think it is best to tell the truth. Why indeed they don't want to stick together if they are sincere? I hate thinking to be cheated that way. I think i will have my sweet revenge and i'll make sure that i'll be the last one standing and laughing at the end.

oh gosh! I don't even try to think about it and would never allow myself to get involve in such. I know for sure the horrible feelings of those who are in such situations. I don't think they're happy or what knowing they have to hide their affair and knowing too that they're hurting or fooling someone. Feeling like such could never be called love or anything connecting to it co's in my opinion it is all mere lust, physical attraction that when it gets satisfied your done with it and your done with the person. I pray that such thing won't happen to me and to any member of my family. For sure the feeling of the person who is betrayed is ever painful and of course the person who did it will be forever disgusted with her or his self.

People always made mistakes,some can be forgiven some not.men who have been cheating or found secret love affair would get disgusted.They are not only short in moral but also less human being

When I saw other male attracted my wife, I told to my wife his not good manner.

Cheating is one of those things that ruins all three relationships. It also sets up failure for each relationship that comes from it, sure people can try and make it work but when its based on lies from other person that relationship is doomed from the start. Men cheat because they want to, women cheat because they can. Its a vicious cycle that eventually leads to the destruction of love.

I would like to know why dont they just break up with the current partner , even though a person hurt today join will come again . Instead they rather to hide and sneak around because of their won selfish game . The third party dont care about others feeling and they dont know what goes around comes around . Those people make my skin crawl .

I have a friend who is the "other woman" in a relationship and I think that she seems to find it relatively exciting. However, I know that I would never able to be like this because the only thing that I would be thinking about would be the fact that I was ruining somebody else's relationship, and I would know that I wouldn't like it if it was my partner who was cheating on me. I think that you should always be honest in a relationship. If you want to be with somebody else then that's fine, but you should at least tell your partner first.

I agree with you on that, there are lots of men and women who have secret love affairs. There might be jealousy on the part of the 3rd party but they have no choice, they entered that kind of relationship so they have to bear the consequences. Although that is not correct but I guess they still feel love for each other, or only one loves and the other is just taking advantage.

I have never thought of doing that. It's unacceptable. If one is not satisfied with one partner, best to work it out. If it doesn't then separate and find a better partner. For married people, this does not apply. Both partner already went through the ceremony and made their vows, isn't that supposed to keep the two together and not go look for someone else?

I will never ever do that to myself, be involved with a man who is already committed to someone else. I love myself, and I deserve better than to be someone else's number 2 or secret woman. Besides, I am not the type of person who delights in hurting another, and possibly be the cause of a broken family. My dad used to have affairs when we were young so I know how it is and how it hurts not only the legal wife but the kids as well. I really have no respect for people who do that, be it the other woman or the man himself. There is no justification for any of them to be doing that. There are a lot of ways to legalize everything, that is if they really want to be together. But not to the point that they will hurt and disrespect other people.

People are really complicated creatures. Men and women as well have "secret affairs" for many different reasons. Sometimes they have fallen out of love with the one that they are with but out of duty stay with that person thinking that they have made a commitment and can not break that. Some people won't get a divorce due to religion. Then there are some people who believe that they have something missing in their life and they go behind their partner's back. Sometimes it could be lack of attention, the thrill of the secret, feeling younger (for those older guys/gals with young lovers) or just experimenting with something that their partner would not like. On the rare occasion people don't leave the marriages because of outside forces. I may mean outside forces like how the idea of the "perfect family" helps them in their job, makes them look better for advancement.

hi ggubatina How do I feel or rather h ow wou ld I feel it I w ere idiot enough to be in a secret affair? well being me I wo uld n ot be in one but If I was I wo uld feel dirty as if I were covered in foul slime by hurting the man I was married to. but honestly I wo uld never have done any such thing. I fell in love and married my love and we were true to each other for 33 years of happy marriage.so now I too see it as disgusting and deceitful too.

Hello ggubatina. Today evening I was talking to my teen about love and about selfishness. I think that it is never nice to be in a secret affair if there is true love. The best for each part is to be honest,and we feel very happy when we can show our beloved how much we care for them . And how happy they make us. But there`s people with many inner and deep pain, who needs support, and needs pshycologial support but they don`t look for it because they fear to be called crazy. Many of these people don`t have true love. They have many negative feelings that make them react in unfair ways. And of course they hurt many people around them. I don`t feel happy if someone asks me to have a secret affair. I dialogue with my husband and he supports me with his love and tenderness. Why should someone look outside what he/she can get inside home? Blessings ggubatina... dainy