What have you learned about yourself?
By GemmaR
@GemmaR (8517)
October 21, 2012 2:36pm CST
Over the course of your life, you should be learning things about yourself all of the time. Over the past three years, while I have been doing my degree, I have learned a lot of things about myself that I never thought I would. One of things that I know now is that I am capable of running my own life and being in control of it, and this is something that I am very proud of indeed because of the fact that I was so insecure before.
What are the things that you have learned about yourself? Did something happen to make you realise this do you think?
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14 responses
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
22 Oct 12
I'm quite a complicated person, with a penetrating, perhaps too penetrating intelligence: there's a fiery side to my nature: I'm not sure how long I've known this, but today, I'm pre-eminently aware of it, and sometimes it disturbs me somewhat. But I try and be aware of the need to control this side of me; I don't like being hard on people, I like to see the best in others, I like to keep my mind, thoughts, feelings positive at all times, I hate to give in to negativity. I can also be very tender-hearted, especially with regard to human suffering; as a Christian, I pray for people a lot, I can be very caring. I've always been aware of this: this is a side to me that makes me feel good, although it can also be painful sometimes: empathy can be painful. I've become a constructive person; that I've learned about myself. When I was young, I liked to play the wild one...I feel I almost ruined my health...I may be lucky to be alive. I've learned to value health; life; people.
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
22 Oct 12
I mean...I value people as never before: I pray for people a lot.
@GemmaR (8517)
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23 Oct 12
As long as you know that you're lucky to be alive then I think that this is a good thing because it means that you've managed to learn a lot from when you were younger, and you should be able to use these lessons to shape your life for the better in the future. Praying for other people shows that you are a good person and that you always want to do the things that are best for others not just yourself, and I think that being able to learn that other people are important as well is a brilliant lesson that a lot of people never manage to learn.
@babyeve (1048)
• Seychelles
22 Oct 12
I have learned that I have a lot of talents. I have found out that I am an energetic person and I have music talents. I am a sensitive person and that I am very friendly. I fall in love easily whenever I found the right partner.
@GemmaR (8517)
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23 Oct 12
Music is one of the best things in the world and if you are able to be musical then this gives you a lot of a chance to shine in life. It is good because I have always used music to be able to calm myself down and cheer myself up when things are going a little bad, so other people who are able to do the same thing really do inspire me. Falling in love easily isn't always a bad thing, as long as you know how to look after yourself if things get bad. As long as you're good to yourself then you should be able to protect yourself from being hurt.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Oct 12
There are a lot of different things that I've learned about my life. However, I have to say that the greatest lesson that I've learned about myself in the last couple of years is that I am a much stronger person than I thought that I was.
You see, last year when my husband was diagnosed with cancer, I honestly felt like I was just going to fall apart. However, this wasn't something that happened to me. Instead, through everything that he went through I was able to remain strong for him and for the children as well.
@GemmaR (8517)
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24 Oct 12
I am sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis, but I do think that you're quite right when you say that you never know quite how strong you are until you're forced to be strong for reasons that are completely beyond your control. I am sure that both your husband and children were very grateful for you for being as strong as you were during that time, and you should be proud of yourself that you managed to stay strong when so many others in your situation probably wouldn't have been able to do the same.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
I have learned that I have increased my tolerance over pain. At an early age, I have been through a lot. And I guess having gone through a lot trials has made me a lot stronger today. Some would think I am just a naive or stupid. But I know myself better.
@GemmaR (8517)
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23 Oct 12
It is a shame that you had to go through so much when you were younger, but if that means that you are stronger as a result of that then I think that this has to be a positive thing in the long term. It is always a shame when you have to deal with the hard times in your life, but sometimes it is well worth it because of the fact that you are able to grow so much with you personality and therefore be able to learn things about yourself that you would never have been given the chance to otherwise, so make the most of every opportunity.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
In all honesty, I never felt a bit of shame in any of the trials I have been through. I guess it was just how my life had to be in order for me to be what I am today. 
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
I realized that I have the ability to wait and have the patient to have my own time. Luckily, life gave me some of the things I aspire to have. I have my own share of ups and downs, particularly in my career and in my personal relationship with others. So there, I waited for the right opportunity and with several dasy of sleeplessness and tough hindrances, I finally have some of those successes - a nice job, a lovely wife. Currently, I'm working on achieving some more, to help me earn to cover future expenses and have stable and fruitful retirement. Thanks
@GemmaR (8517)
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23 Oct 12
Patience is something that not a lot of people have, and especially in the modern world something that people want is just to be able to get everything that they're working towards right away, and unfortunately this is not something that is possible for everyone. You always need to work towards the things that you want, and you have to be willing to work for the things that you want, and also have the patience to wait for what you want without having to worry about not being able to get it in the amount of time that you would want to.
@GemmaR (8517)
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21 Oct 12
I think that it is good that you have learned to be so comfortable with your religion and your beliefs, and I imagine that this is something that brings you great comfort in your life. I think that it means that you will live your life in a good way because you will always be wanting to live in a way that God would approve of. This means that you are good to other people, and most of all good to yourself and this is fantastic because it means that you are going to be living a life that you can honestly be proud of.
@offlimits (596)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Good for you that you've gained confidence in yourself as years passed. I'm like that too; I think I'm still in the process of finding myself and I'm still a bit insecure about myself. But within this process I've already come to love myself more and that I now believe that I can do a lot of things in the future. I trust in myself that I'll be able to make it, and I trust in God too and His plans for me. For now I'll have to continue living and striving to be a better person. Good day! :)
@GemmaR (8517)
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23 Oct 12
I think that everybody goes through hard times when they don't feel as though they are good enough, but this is just something that has to happen in life so that we can change the way that we live to make us better. Trusting yourself is a hard thing to do, but once we have done this I think that things often do get a lot better for us. Once you have learned to know yourself you will find that you know what you're capable of and this means that your confidence will grow and you will stop feeling so insecure within yourself.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
22 Oct 12
well i learned that we have to be calm always and play by the rules and care a lot for others
@GemmaR (8517)
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23 Oct 12
Being able to be calm is very good, and this is something that I wish that I was able to do myself at times. I have never been able to stay calm when things in my life were not so good, because I would always get angry at things instead of being able to take a bit of a step back and stay calm. Playing by the rules is great because it means that you're not going to get yourself into trouble, and I honestly think that caring for others is great because this means that they will care for you as well when you need them to.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
21 Oct 12
Yes. I learnt I get disturbed even with small wrong happening. also i always want right things to happen for me. expectation is high.
@GemmaR (8517)
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21 Oct 12
If you know that you always worry about small things when you possibly shouldn't be doing, then this is the first step to being able to move on with your life and being able to change the way that you are to improve your life. One of the things that you could do would be write down when things go right with your life as well as when they go wrong. This means that you would be able to look at things with a much more objective view. There is nothing wrong with wanting good things to happen, as long as you don't get greedy with the things that you're wishing for.
@toxic_lifestyle (1213)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Well, I've learned that I'm not a perfect person and not a good person. I've done so many bad things and by that, I commit sins and mistakes. Aside from that, I've realized that sometimes, I've losing my connection to God. :)
@GemmaR (8517)
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23 Oct 12
I don't think that anybody is a perfect person, but I wouldn't say that you had to be perfect in order to be considered a good person. Sometimes you have to remember that it is perfectly fine to make mistakes, but the trick is to make sure that you deal with your mistakes properly and learn from them, and that means that you would be able to shape your life for the better and make you a better person. Don't forget that mistakes are just another part of human life, and once you remember that I think that you would be a lot better.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
i learned lots of things in my life. i once was being discouraged and down but God is my way and enlightenment. He gave me chances that i needed to have in my life to regain and to form the puzzle again to reform what was being broken and made it whole for one more time. and now, i am in my final years of my studies. i know, i will encounter lots of trials and problems as i go through with life, but as long as God is with me, i will be certain that He will make it lighter and easy.
:)
@GemmaR (8517)
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23 Oct 12
Everybody goes through times that they are hard in life, and we wouldn't be normal if we didn't go through some times where we thought that there was no way that we were going to get through it. Being in your final year of studies must be hard, and I imagine that there is a lot of work that you have to do to get your grades. But like you said, as long as you have God with you then you will be fine, as He can help you through the hard times and help you to see the path that is right for you to take at this time.
@montevilla (550)
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22 Oct 12
I have learned that some people say all the right things but in the wrong way. and while others say the things but in the right way.
Happy mylotting!
@GemmaR (8517)
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23 Oct 12
I am the type of person who always manages to say nice things but not always the way that I meant for them to be said. I always say things to my friends that I think are compliments and then I will find that they're not taking them in the same way that I meant for them to be taken. It is a shame really because I would never want to do anything that would hurt my friends but there just seems to be something about me that means that I can't word things right and they take offence over things that I thought were supposed to sound nice.
@Aitul13 (43)
• Romania
22 Oct 12
Thank you for this subject! Indeed, I'm agree with you that every experience should learn you more things about yourself and I can say that I discovered a lot of things about me and I am still doing this! I found that I'm a good person, very ambitious and sensitive! I also discovered that I'm a bit shy, and I still need to work at selfconfidence! At rest I think I'm ok!
@GemmaR (8517)
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23 Oct 12
Being shy isn't always a bad thing, because I think you often find that the shy people are the ones who are nicest to their friends and the ones who are able to treat other people in the nicest way. But if you want to build your self confidence then this is a good thing. One of the things that you could do would be to try and join a class of something that you enjoy, and then you would be able to meet people who like the same things as you. It is much easier to be confident talking to people who you know you have something to talk to about.
@THISISIT (63)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
for me everyday is a learning process, we must be proud of what we achieve in life and also learn from our mistakes.
@GemmaR (8517)
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23 Oct 12
Learning is certainly something that carries on for every day in our lives. I think that this is one of the most important lessons that people can have, because sometimes we can forget just how much we still have to learn. Many people believe that their learning ends the day they leave the classroom, but really this is only the beginning of the things that we would learn. I think that those people who have the most open minds are the ones who would be the most likely to be able to learn the most about themselves in the future.
