He drinks too much :(

I think you can not go through this topic with him without having some fits. Just explain to him calmly the situation. Maybe he'll realize that he needs to step up in supporting you with the family expenses.

Morty: First, I would have to question why he has started drinking. Then, you just need to come straight out and tell him how you feel about it. If these are his children, he owes it to them to be supportive financially and emotionally to both the boys and you as their mother. If he can not put his family first, and refuses to seek help (if he can't quit on his own), then, for the sake of your children, and yourself, I think you should let him go. I have been in your shoes. If you allow him to continue to drink, chances are good that it will only get worse. He is already not helping you. I personally believe that no one needs a man that is not carrying his own weight and living up to his responsibilities. You can be poor all by yourself, you don't need him to make it worse. Besides, without him, you may find it easier to get public assistance. I will pray for all of you and hope that things work out for you. You know that the family should be the first priority and if your partner does not do that, save yourself more heartache and grief, just say no and let him go.

Maybe try to find out first as to why he suddenly started drinking. Maybe his going through something that's why he turned to drinking. Then take it from there, try to talk to him about the problem that your having at home as well. Just try talking to him heart to heart, and make sure that his not drank when you do so. Good luck!

I suppose that first you have to think what you want to tell him and what are you going to do if he doesn`t stop drinking. I ask you: if he is a drunkard, if he is not a decent provider, what are his good points? If good and bad points are balanced, then accept that. But if all is negative, maybe it`s time to put a stop to your relation.

Wow he can pays a lot with drinking but can only give $20 for his kids? Sounds of a selfish person though, he might have a lot of problems so probably you can start to open up something but don't pushed towards by saying he need to give a lot as he might explode specially if there's a problem with his finances, probably you can ask if there's a problem that he keep inside and if its alright to share than drink as it might help a lot, then if he will start giving you details then at least you will know the main reason so probably he can start avoiding drinking by showing how important the kids are than the drink like sharing him about your plan for the kids future and other plan for your family's future. But then its up to you on what approached you want, but for me i will start by being friendly to him and understanding for him to realize how precious his family are compare to drinking.

I went through that with my ex. We were married 11-12 years. he drank way to much last 4 years. And never helped with a thing in the home. No money, no work nothing. I got rid of him. I hate people who drink to much. Who needs them??

Maybe bring him to a therpay session or something and you can talk about it then or maybe have a intervention when the kids might be at school or something like that. Might work might not but its a choice if you want to take it or not it is up to you of course. Not sure what else to do on this but if hes only giving you 20 a month then i would take anything at all and do something because you need more than that and 20 dollars isnt enough for gas for a whole week.

You have to be careful that he doesn't take it the wrong way. Has perhaps any of his friends said anything as that might help him deal with it while you approaching him might appear like some "unhappy lady." I don't think someone should be drinking a lot a day(anything more than a day) as that is not a positive sign nevermind the cost implications involved. Good Luck