Damage caused by 7 minutes

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Just last night, we had a heated argument with my husband while going home from the office. It was actually just a very petty matter which he started. But it's just that he said it in a wrong tone which made me react negatively. We are working in the same company. Since we are on a compressed work week, our office hours is until 6:36pm, but working only from Monday through Friday. Last night, I attended meeting with our Accounting Department head, clarifying things regarding our Oracle system project (I have mentioned this in my previous posts), which will already be implemented by monthend. We were already pressured with it. We were discussing how to go about the cut-over and we ended up at 6:36. My husband sees me going back and forth from the Accounting Dept. because I can pass by his area before reaching Accounting. So there he was waiting at the car. When I got in, he got mad and exploded and told me that he let me waited for so long. When I looked at the watch, it was only 7 minutes! Me who still felt pressured and fresh from the intense discussion during the meeting, have not controlled myself but to flare up also and told him that as if he also does not go out late. But he never heard me complaining about it! Because I understand that he still has some works to finish. How come he cannot understand my side? I am also a worker same as him. And he even saw me going to the accounting department. He then said why can I not be like the others who can go home at exactly 6:36. I told him I don't care about those people maybe they do not have much load than I am? or maybe they really do not have the same pressures in their responsibilities as I have in mine. Then I told him like he was doubting that I intentionally wasted the 7 minutes for him to react that way. He even can be late which will keep me waiting for 30 minutes or an hour! It is unfair that I was only late for 7 minutes but he already got that mad! Instead of keeping quiet, he still keeps on insisting that still I should have managed my time for me to go out early. I told him you are already matured enough to understand what you are saying, so better answer your questions all by yourself. Then we both became quiet. But I really just can't control my emotion. The only choice I have to release it is to cry. When we got home, our kids were already dressed up and ready because we are attending a birthday dinner of his nephew. But it's not really a party. It's just a simple gathering with the family. Since I already felt upset with 2 red teary eyes, how can I show my face there? So I decided not to go with them. But I did not told him. I just dressed up with my ordinary clothes and told my 2-year-old in front of him that mommy could not come with them. Maybe he got more angry that I didn't go. But I just ignored him... Until now, we still do not talk to each other. I know it is not healthy, but I just still can't get over with it. I feel like I was hurt and insulted with what he did. I can't also say that he was worried that we will be late at the dinner, because we normally do not leave that early. He even was late during her sister's birthday because he finished his reports. And he did not told me that we should leave early. But even so, I could not control the people in the meeting and say hey let's end this because we still have a birthday to attend. How come there are really people who are insensitive and closed minded?