bad tempered person

Many comments here have more or less become a great input. Still, it has to come back to you, your environment, and other factors. Do you have a family member that has a bad temper? Do you always get what you want as you grow up? Did your parents ever told you to do something then you refused to do it? If you don't like to be told what to do, does it have to do with any person at work whether that person is your boss or a certain coworker? Does it have to do with a family member that tends to irritate you? Again, I don't know the big picture. Maybe, talk to a wise friend.

Just think about the things you want to change and start working on it. Is there someone that you look up to who has a better temper? Perhaps you can try asking yourself what that person would do, or how they would react. Change is gradual, so don't beat yourself up. Just try to cultivate good habits.

That is a good thing that you know that the way you're behaving now isn't good for you. It's not easy to change your habit. If you get angry easily and have a short fuse, you need to change the behavior gradually. Perhaps you should stop yourself and count backwards from ten before you get angry. Or maybe you should distance yourself from the source of your anger for awhile until you calm down. I hope these suggestions would help in your anger management.

that is great you want to change and that is the first step..wanting to..there are others that are like that..some cases before riseing to get up out of bed stretch and focus in your mine good things like "I will be in a good thoughts today and I will be happy and can control myself in good behavior" this may sound silly but what you plant in your mind stays there..like a song you heard for some reason it can stick with in yourself...and out of no where it is there and your singing it..so hear good thoughts before going to bed and when you get up..it is like a memory...you got to have the want to and will to do it...Bible verses are great ...I can share more on that if you want just ask..anyway here is a couple..I can do all things through Christ which strenghens me . the joy of the Lord is my strengh..I will rejoyce and be glad in it...you see what you plant in your mind before bedtime and getting up stays with you and your mind is in control of your body so you must control your mine with good things and good things will focus on your body and controls your temper.. if one speaks in a bad way to you focus on closeing your eyes for a second and think it out..think before speaking..control ..it does work just try and see...

It's good that you are trying to ask for help about your attitude. It's really not good to have a bad temper. I think you should try to meditate in the morning so as good vibes comes into your system. Pray as well and try to control that temper when you feel it coming. It will also be best if you have someone to help you with that. At least that someone could see your progress, a friend or a sister will do.

it is only you who could change yourself. Realizing and accepting your fault is a positive sign and good starting point. Next is develop strong self control and hold on to yourself once things and circumstances irritates you. It may not be very easy at first but by conscientiously exerting effort you will be able to break this habit which is not doing you any good. That is "practice makes perfect" hence, if you really want to you can do it.

The first thing that you need to find out is why you are so angry? Life is full of daily upsets that happen.. Once you find out what is making you angry; is there anything that you can do to fix the problem? Is it something that you can actually fix?? The only person that you can control is yourself.. Only thing you can really do for others is the power of suggestion... If you can find the cause you might be able to find a solution to calm your anger... If you do not like something about yourself or your living situation; find a way to change it.. IF you do not like something someone said or is saying; be respectful and listen (unless abusive) take a deep breath, choose your words carefully and say it in a normal voice.. People will be more willing to listen..

It is a natural personality, you can control it, if you always thought of something happy gonna happen. Don't always think that someone who give you command is a bad person, maybe they got a reason for it. Try not to be mad, or clear your mind, be reasonable, and keep the smile on your face. Hopefully that will help.

Hi shellster, You're absolutely right. No normal person likes to be near someone who is grouchy and bad tempered especially in the morning. I'm sure you would hate to be with someone who is foul tempered. Anyway there's help for you since you realised your 'weakness' and you want to correct this undesirable trait of yours. However I think the only person who can help you is yourself. Do some self soul searching and ask yourself what is it that's making you unhappy and ill tempered. Is it due to lack of sleep? Or is it due to stress or a failed relationship? Once you know the cause then you can try to find ways to eliminate these causes. Be honest with yourself and perservere and you'll succeed in your quest to control your temper and thus become a better person. Have a nice day.

I feel you. Sometimes, you just got really irritated on other people throw your temper out of them. But I guess, you should handle your temper very well and have more patience. :)

Are you just a high-tempered person in the mornings? Do you get mad when some one tells you what to do a lot? It seems like you want to get help, but there are things that we don't know about the situation that you are in. Maybe you should keep a journal and try to find out what triggers you to be high-tempered.

You already got the first step, your acceptance of the problem and this get you in the right direction of solving it. You're surely will received lots of advice here in mylot but still the choice to change is still in you and your determination to succeed will depend solely on YOU... Cheers and happy mylotting!

I used to be moody in the morning as well. But over the years I have learned to change my attitude and I am now happy and cheerful in the morning. A friend of mine talked to me and made me realise certain things and it really touched me and gave the urge to try and change. Just when you wake up in the morning think of something positive and smile at everything bad that crosses your path. Don't forget to say a little prayer as well, it surely helps a lot.

Since you know that you are a bad tempered person, then you should learn to be watchful of your response. Learn to be a person of "quick to listen" but "slow to speak" and "slow to anger". Do not be quick to respond in your daily communication. Try to understand why people says so. And do not be mad if someone commands you. Sometimes, it may due to our characters and habits that needs to be changed. So, we must learn to listen. A person who does not like to be commanded is a very "big man" attitude where they feel to be right all the time. Anyhow, it is never too late for you to change as you have realized it yourself. Remember, always "slow to speak" and "slow to anger". God bless! =)

Firstly that is not good for your blood pressure and stress levels, and secondly you need to ask yourself why you get mad, what is the underlining cause? Has someone made you like this, has your past made you feel this way. Something must have snapped within you to make you this person. People will start to avoid you and you will lose friendships if you carry on being the way you are. Maybe talking to someone you can trust will help, or use your pent up energy on something worthwhile. If it's anger which is the cause try thumping a pillow, going for a long walk or a long soak in the bath with relaxing music. You didn't wake up one morning and suddenly become the person who need help changing.

In addition to this being an attitude problem, I wonder if it is a physical problem.Maybe you need to get a small bite to eat before you try to deal with others. I hope you can begin to manage your mood swings.

Well being bad tempered will not help you are any body around you . ow did you get that way because even though people like you it should not have make you bad tempered but more happy . I think whenever you feel your tempered coming on and you start to get irritated , think about the outcome . How do you want to be seen by your family and others ? would you like it if the roles were reverse ?

The first step is realization and I can see that you know your own weakness. After knowing and owning up to it, you can start thinking of ways to minimize or control the problem. Whenever there is something that will upset you, try removing yourself from the situation. Count one to one hundred when you think you are about to be annoyed or angry at something or someone.

I believe people have the power to change their ways and attitude. You can change things gradually, at your own pace, with no pressure. You may see the good things of other people, the bright side of any situation, the silver lining as what they say. You can do it my friend. Just trust yourself. Good luck. Thanks

I can be as well. But only after Ive taken alot from someone. It takes alot to get me going. But once I do- watch out and bar the door. Cause here I come.