I don't know why
By xiaopinggai
@xiaopinggai (483)
China
October 24, 2012 7:32am CST
It's raining outside,i feel a little lonely,sad or lost.
But for what,there is nothing worth to be unhappy,i really do not know what's wrong with me.
It seems my heart is empty,though my friends accompany with me,we don't talk with each other.Because we are all married to computer......
Life looks like a pool of stagnant water,repeated day after day,it's so pale that i almost forget,i am a alive person.
How it could be this?Why i can't strong enough to undertake everything by myself?
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12 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
Maybe you are just having the blues.... but, how often do you feel this way? Why do you think that time seemed to stop around you? You are either having some inner thoughts on something or just utterly bored. Go out! Go to the mall! Eat out! Go to the park! Be around your friends to cheer you up. And, devoid your mind from negative thing.
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@xiaopinggai (483)
• China
27 Oct 12
It seems you are a strong person,whom i want to be.
I didn't have this feeling often,it occured for i gave it a chance.
Now,it is gone.And i am talking with my heart,i think this is a good way when i feel not good.
Anyway,thank you ,and have a nice day.O(n_n)O
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
I sure hope you could make your time more productive by doing things that needs your attention. It is okay to be "daydreaming" or just simply stop for a few minutes to think but that should never be a reason for you to hinder all the important things that needs to be done immediately. I wish you well!
@xiaopinggai (483)
• China
17 Nov 12
Wow,wow,wow,is it too late to reply ?Time is flying,and i was lag behind for a long time,haha,pls accept my apology.
So how is everything going recently?What are you busy in?
As for me,the frist thing and the most important thing is looking for a job.
O(n_n)O
@fashionfever (2200)
• Indonesia
25 Oct 12
Maybe because during rainy day your activity is lesser than during sunny day, that's why it affect your mood. I found out myself always in a happy mood whenever I have more activity and going out is also one of my favorite activities to refresh my mind.
During rainy day, the weather is cold and we cannot go out as much as we can in sunny day. Staying at home all the time could be boring and make you in a sad mood, so maybe you can find activity which you can enjoy inside your home, maybe drawing or cooking. When your body is moving, I think the sad mood wont dare to come near you and drained your heart to fell emptiness. Listen to happy song and dance following the rhythm, it might cheer you up.
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@fashionfever (2200)
• Indonesia
27 Oct 12
Yes, that's right. We control our mood, not the mood controls us. If we are bored of staying in a dark room doing a boring routine, let's do something to kill the boredom. There are many activities we can do inside our home. Dont listen to sad song during rainy day, it will only make your day so gloomy. Talking about computer, you can talk to us on mylot and discuss many things so you dont feel bored and lonely anymore. You have a new friend who lives in other part of the world, don't you think its fun?
@xiaopinggai (483)
• China
17 Nov 12
Ye,when i remembered that there are so many new friends who live in other part of the world,though we all didn't meet each other,didn't know very well about each other,we still can spend some time talking out feelings and sharing with each other.Sometimes,i even felt it's unbelievable,how amazing the life is.
@xiaopinggai (483)
• China
27 Oct 12
Haha,you are right.I do want to go out ,to feel the warm of the sun,to watch the people played in a public garden etc.
But if i stay too long in my room,with the dark light,and do the same thing all day,i will be crazy.
We can't be a slave of our moods or whatever it is.Do something different to change the bad feeling is necessary,well,thank you very much.
Best wishes....O(n_n)O
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@challs12 (548)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 12
You are very sensitive person. I don't have such a feeling though I've been active online for quite sometimes. But, it's a good feeling that you have and I'm just unlucky not to have such a feeling. I think it's melancholic right. I will have this feelings when I walk in the rain. But not in front of my pc. I'm so busy and has no way to think of other thing when I'm in front of my pc.
@challs12 (548)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 12
I think when we busy we will use most of our heart and brain to think on what we doing and that's why we never think of useless stuff. So, I keep on doing and thinking of something when I awake. Maybe that's the reason I don't think anything about feelings or something like that.
@xiaopinggai (483)
• China
17 Nov 12
Hi,there,on the contrary,i think you are the lucky person who doesn't need time to solve mawkishness feelings.You know,that will waste much time and sometimes it makes you lost yourself if you can't find a appropriate way to console yourself.
I prefer to be busy ,at least,my heart feel staid.
@xiaopinggai (483)
• China
25 Nov 12
Ye,you are right.But now i need to think about my future,or the career.
I choose to watch movie all the time,however,insteds ot thinking anything about it.
Maybe,i am afraid .It's sad.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Oct 12
THe main reason is you are not in good mood. Sometimes we felt that way, nothing to worries and nothing to be sad but your feelings is different. Maybe you are sick and need medical attention. Be sure to take some vitamins and sleep more hours
@xiaopinggai (483)
• China
27 Oct 12
Hi,i am not under the weather,and on the contrary,i think i sleep too much everyday.
Haha,sometimes,it just a feeling,and if we want to know why,we will find the answer.
Thank you Julyteen,have a nice day.O(n_n)O
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
This feeling is just normal and once in awhile it visits us. But don't dwell too much with it. Pray and trust God about all His plans. Stay positive. Maybe the rain just brought the feeling but remember that there's always sunshine after the rain.
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@xiaopinggai (483)
• China
27 Oct 12
Ye,whenever it is,we should be positive all the time.
Even if some bad things happened to us,we still need to be strong enough to believe,we can undertake it,and we can move on with hope.
@romzee (937)
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
Boredom once in a while visit us to remind up that we need something to spice up our life. Our monotonous habits plus the weather must have triggered this lonesome feeling. Better get up, gear up and do something new today. Set those adrenalin pumping...
Cheers and happy mylotting!
@xiaopinggai (483)
• China
27 Oct 12
Hum,that's a heart-stirring advice,and it sounds well reasonable,i like it.
Thank you very much.
By the way,i wanna to learn more from you,would you like to share your thoughts with me?
O(n_n)O,HAVE A NICE DAY
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@xiaopinggai (483)
• China
17 Nov 12
Oh,it has been three weeks since i post on this topic,i am so sorry that i didn't respond you until now.
Because i am busy in looking for job,unfortunately,it will last a long time .
Best wishes to you
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Oct 12
xiaopinggai look just think do you have a job? are you broke? homeless? stuck in a retirement center? have no house and are in the rain and hungry and homeless?
you are not ? then thank God and start counting all you do have. think about what you could do like donating some time to a nursing home or a h hospital or a library volunteering is fun and makes you happy so try it. also think about someone shut in whom you know would love a visit from you.the idea is to get your mind off how bad you feel and onto something different that makes you feel alive again. I know what being in the doldrums feels like but to get out of it you have to do something unselfish for someone else so you feel good again about yourself.
@xiaopinggai (483)
• China
27 Oct 12
I do need to cherish what i owned,i can eat what i liked,i have a heathy body.......
Yes,i should thank god,and be positive.The most bad feelings are on account of i keep my eyes on what i can't do,what i don't own,and i like to compare with those people who live better than me,then my heart feel sorrow.
I believe you can understand this immature thought,though i said thousands of times that i must change this habbit,i still the person who is coward,negative and lazy.I hate myself like this.
Again and again,i become numb and whatever it is.
How can i stop it?When can i accept myself?
BTW,thank you very much.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
24 Oct 12
These feelings are very familiar to many of us. Some have it just once in a while without a reason. Others have it when the weather is changing, there is less sun or it runs into the family (the older you get the more it will catch you). It also can be a hormonal thing. The most important thing is to know that you are not the only one plus those feelings will be gone too. So pamper yourself these days, try to see the good things you have (even if they don't seem to count at the moment) and if necessary take vit. D3! this will make you feel better if there is a lack of sun. It's also good for your skin, bones and nerves plus you need it to be able to take calcium out of food.
@xiaopinggai (483)
• China
27 Oct 12
Thank you so much.It is still a rainy day,but i feel much better now.
I am a sensitive person,and easy to think too much about whatever i met.Or,i have to admit that negative mood overcome me,well,it won't succeed anymore.
As for the reason,maybe i worried so much about my future that i am afraid to do something to change.
@xiaopinggai (483)
• China
27 Oct 12
Yep,i can't agree with you more.
When i wanted to escape a bad feeling,computer will be the frist choice.
However,though the time past ,the problem still ,then the heart become more and more sensitive.
@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
24 Oct 12
I think the dreary weather triggers your melancholic mood. I mean you could be already thinking about your frined's and your relationship with them and getting sad about this. But now that the scenery right in front of you is far from cheering you up, it all rushes in and makes you feel down. It is quite normal to have these feelings once in a while. We are afterall not without our human emotions. But always remember that after the rains, the sun will also shine. That after the busy sked, you and your friends will also have time to spend together.
@xiaopinggai (483)
• China
27 Oct 12
Hey,thank you,but i agree with you more or less,for it's not all about my friends.
In fact,because i dislike sharing with others the unhappy things,so with the time flies,the negative mood seems like a volcano,it will explode at anytime.
Well,now,i am fine,O(n_n)O.
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
25 Oct 12
Sometimes we will feel lonely and be in bad mood, but I believe you will feel happy again soon. Maybe you play computer so much, it's not good for our health. Invite your friend to go out once in a while, maybe you will feel better.
@xiaopinggai (483)
• China
27 Oct 12
Ye,I feel much better now.
Thank you for your advice,and have a nice day.
O(n_n)O
@eagle2lie (54)
• China
24 Oct 12
I think you got wrong one to be married,he is old and ugly ,no warm and no whispering just hard and smelly.Why are you going out to find some new which maybe smell fresh ,taste sweet and touch softly?
@xiaopinggai (483)
• China
27 Oct 12
Wow,amazing,haha,i like your words.
Thank you very much,and i wanna to find a new one instead of it.
O(n_n)O