Should we always tell our feelings for no regrets?
By sushie93
@sushie93 (1355)
France
October 25, 2012 10:03am CST
The question is in the title. ^^
I know answers will be different: to tell our feelings in risk to lose his friendship and not to tell to keep friendship but having regrets later.
But telling our feelings can make our heart lighter and it's always good to express feelings...
My situation: i met a guy in my university since two years, i sometimes think about him, he attracts me a lot. We are not very close, we are just "school friend". I stopped studies since several months and we talk to each other very rarely, almost never...
I know he doesn't like me and i also know that when we were in the same university, he was in love with his best girl friend (it wasn't reciproq) but something's bugging me and i want to tell him what i think about him. I think that it will help me a lot to forget about my feelings for him.
It's so stupid, we talk together very rarely, we are not even good friends but i can't stop thinking to him since a few months...
And i remember myself when i was a teenager, i loved a man and never tell him about my feelings and some years after, i regretted it so much and i promised to myself: "next time, when you have feelings for someone, just tell him!"
And i fall on this quote:"in our life, we regret only the things we didn't do." (Jean Cocteau) and it gives me a lot of energy to tell him about my feelings!
10 responses
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Oct 12
If you are strong enough, tell him your feeling. Better to tell than to regrets at the end. Be sure you are ready to accept what will be his decision. Don't expect so that you will not be disappointed. Telling the truth is not bad, it help in many ways.
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@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
26 Oct 12
if you have feelings for someone and you're not that persons friend, it would be stupid to tell him. if he doesn't reciprocate you might be feeling hurt when it is uncalled for. better make him your friend first. i used to have a friend that by nonverbal cues told me her feelings for me but because i had my heart for someone else, i wanted just to be friends. years later, i came to regret it. when i wanted to make up for it, she was someone's. i haven't found a woman like her who really loved me for what i was.
happy mylotting.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
26 Oct 12
That is a tough place to be , I had experience something like this , my first high school crush . We talk a lot but I know he like me are maybe in my mind lol ...
I think you should keep the promise you made to yourself , you should tell this guy how you feel . I support you telling him 100 percent , dont hide your feelings anymore and he is single now so its your opportunity .
@GemmaR (8517)
•
25 Oct 12
I think that we should always be honest about our feelings to at least one person, usually this is good if they are a close friend. I know that my best friend will always listen to me, and this feels good because I am always able to feel better once I have spoken to them about the things that have been bothering me. I don't think that you should always be honest about your feelings, because this might upset some people and might get you into trouble sometimes, but I do think that it is definitely important that you talk to somebody about them.
@Roserick (41)
• Philippines
26 Oct 12
In my experience, I always tell what I feel without hesitations. At least they have known exactly what I really feel. I've been hurt, but it's ok. I fought for love and lose, but it is also ok. What's important is that I did everything for my love and I will have no regrets in the future. If I didn't do it, I wouldn't be as happy and contented now for I know, I am who I am right now because of the way I live my life and love.
@sharecuzicare (50)
• United States
25 Oct 12
I believe that we should be honest and tell our feelings. The only way you are going to know if you have a chance is if you tell him how you feel. Of course he may not feel the same way you do, but at least then you will know for sure and not be left wondering about what might have been. You can then move on knowing that you tried and gave it your best shot.
@Ghajini (776)
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
First of all, that's a really a difficult question. Well for me, because just like you said telling the truth, particularly our feelings will make our hearts feel lighter. However, there are also some situations that doing so may not be a good idea as well. I guess, you just really need to be sure of your feelings and be prepared for the consequences of expressing how you really feel. I am a shy guy, that's why I just had only one girlfriend ever since, though that was way back in 2008 and I can't actually say that it was a serious relationship. Now, I am still single and somehow regretting the fact that there were a few women that I met and liked but I wasn't able to express my feelings for them because I was very scared of being rejected. However, I also realized that not only I was scared of being rejected but I was also not totally sure of my feelings for the girl. You see, in my opinion if you really like a person, I think it will come naturally to a point where in you will express it to that person regardless of anything. So if you absolutely feel that's it's time for you to express your feelings, so do so, just be prepared for what may happen after doing so.
@toxic_lifestyle (1213)
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
Not all the time. Because somehow, we should think very carefully before expressing or telling our feelings so to be sure of our actions that we will don't have any regrets after all. :)
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
25 Oct 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i think we should never hesitate or have inhibitions while sharing our feelings because if we do so then we will have a heap of emotions inside us that would be killing us from inside every time. The more we would share with our close near and dear ones the more we will feel relieved. This will give us an assurance that we have shared our feelings and might possibly get some support from them also.
What say?
@Kashidanga1971 (1354)
• Bangladesh
25 Oct 12
If he declines your love you will get humiliated. Love is the worst matter in our life where guys and girls are prone to show reckless irresponsibility. Just finish your study with good credits. Good guys will stand in queue to propose you. We must believe in arrange marriage.
