Initiating chat and then will leave you hanging -- annoying or what?!
By sharksfin
@sharksfin (1091)
Philippines
October 27, 2012 10:57am CST
I got really annoyed two nights ago. I went home really late. Twas raining hard and I was all wet. Migraine attack. I simply wanted to go straight to bed. I had to quickly check my computer for important messages. One of my friends who is currently out of the country left a message and wanted to chat. So, I skipped the idea of going to bed early to spend even a few minutes with him. So, I replied and waited for his answer...which came minutes after. He made me wait and wait and wait. I was a bit grumpy already because my head was aching and this is always the same scenario. He would always initiate chat and then leave me waiting. This time I wasn't able to hold my temper anymore and expressed to him how he's always doing it to me. Am just hoping he won't initiate or start chat if he's busy or if he's attention will be divided because with me, I'd set aside everything else to focus on what might need to be discussed (since he's out of the country and rarely do we get to talk). Is it just me or would you also be vexed if the same is done to you over and over? Comments will be much appreciated.
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7 responses
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
21 Nov 12
Ohhh means you not feeling well and your friend wants to chat with your so you feel annoying. I not feel annoy if not want to chat say directly sorry I have work next time we will chat.
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@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
I would be vexed too and I am normally someone who is very patient when I have to stay up late for a friend just for a chat. Don't be guilty of it. You were just exhibiting a normal reaction and being honest to your friend about it.
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@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
Well, maybe he really wasn't expecting it to be the way you do it. I mean for him, he might just be chatting because he is bored or just as a pastime and didn't really care if there was a response immediately or not.
In my experience, I do feel that way when I expect immediate reply or when the topic is interesting or important. However, there are instances where I would already expect a certain person to behave the same way as your friend, reply whenever he/she feels like it, so I just do the same, reply whenever I feel like it.
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
I understand your point because I do the same esp when the person chatting me isn't really someone close to me. But, I don't like utterly make them wait. I never initiate a chat when am not interested in the first place. That's my complain. Never initiate if you yourself aren't convinced you wanna chat with a person. Because it's not only rude but also insulting.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
well, that is true. I normally wouldn't initiate unless I truly want to, but there are times when I do not get the desired effect or information when chatting and I admit that sometimes I just try to end the conversation abruptly, but of course I would have to say so and not leave the other person hanging.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Nov 12
hi sharksfin yes I find it annoying so I just do not chat
nstead I use email and relax and let them do or not the return email. chatting to me is sort of useless unless like you with someone overseas thats different. here people just waste otns of times saying nothing really.I am n ot one for chat rooms thats why I love my lot so mu ch.
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
28 Oct 12
It depends on each person. Some will get annoyed and some will not, but for me, in my own opinion, well, I don't like person who ask me to chat with him and then, leave me hanging for how many hours. I don't like it, especially if he's a friend. We expect something to that person of what we're going to discuss, but then, he just leave. If he ask me again to chat with me, well, I will going to tell him that I'm busy.. he he
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
I also experience the same when chatting with an old friend every week. He is also out of the country so we have just set a certain time and day when we are able to chat. But yes, just like you, he would send messages that he is already online waiting and when I log in and send him a message, I would be like waiting for an hour or so for his message. I feel bad about it,too. Have told him how annoyed I am every time he does that and all he could say was sorry.
@GemmaR (8517)
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27 Oct 12
I chat to a lot of my friends on the internet, and this means that I hate it when they speak to me and then don't have any intention of saying anything after they've said hello. One of the things that I like to do is to have proper discussions with people, and I very much dislike it when people say hello to me and then I will talk back to them and not get any kind of reply. I have learned which of my friends do things like that now, so I will do my best not to be too upset when they end up not replying to me.
