Ironically, being who you are makes people hate you.
By sharksfin
@sharksfin (1091)
Philippines
October 27, 2012 1:28pm CST
How often will you hear people suggest "be who you are" and yet when you're being you, they start either staying away or saying things behind your back? I wonder why they say this and yet unprepared to accept the truth of another? It's so funny people just judge another for being plastic and all but when they show who they really are, they are being mocked and ridiculed...worse hated.
It's hard to position yourself where to really stand at times because of the varying opinion of people. So many are simply too opinionated that they make life hard for many. Why don't we just live and let live?
Guess, we all have our perspective, expectations, etc which makes life a lot more complicated. Like, I started complaining so much about certain people who joined my circle not considering that they're simply being them. I didn't ask them to be them, ok. But, what am saying is, I better just let them be and not resent them for who they really are and for showing that without hesitation. Because being plastic is another thing. And, it's just as annoying.
It's too much for me to expect that people will have sound judgment how to conduct themselves in every given situation. It's too much a hard work to always be conscious how you should behave, right? Esp when you're too emotional because of some situation. I mean, there are times when I get to be a little loose in guarding how I react to a person or situation and I need people to be forgiving when I am not in my best self. If I have this expectation, then, I better be the first one to do it.
I am making it an aim to just let people be. Not to manipulate how they should be according to my liking or convenience. I need to be a little more tolerant because all of us are work-in-progress. We are all still improving in certain areas.
I just hope that love and compassion will sprout in the hearts of every individual so we can all stop dictating, be this or be that... So we can quit saying, "be who you are" then when they act a certain way we can't take them as they are.
Just a reflection... Share yours.
5 responses
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
28 Oct 12
I'm a Christian, so I very much believe in honesty; and I think a person should aim towards this quality, especially in terms of telling the truth. That said, I don't think there's anything wrong with being discreet: we don't have to say everything that is on our mind. I think we should exercise self-control in social situations, in terms of losing our temper; and if we feel anger, it should be controlled. So while we should always tell the truth, I see nothing wrong with such qualities as reserve and politeness: I do not see these as dishonest. They are necessary for the healthy functioning of society. Sad to say, we are living in an imperfect world, and that sometimes makes it hard for us to get on with one another. When we are young this can be very hurtful, especially if we are sensitive. Sadly though it's simply part of life. As I've grown older, I've become more withdrawn from society, perhaps this is my way of coping. Social problems have existed for millenia; and always will. Although the Bible speaks of a world to come, when all these issues will exist in the past. Until that comes, life will be a struggle for all of is, reflected in nature. The good news being that there is much to be treasured in life: people can be unexpectedly kind. And most strangers expect little of us...it's a joy to see the trust in their face. It seems they think the best of us: they are potential friends, one could say. They see us as friends: we are clean slates to them. It never ceases to amaze me the capacity ordinary people have for joy, for trust. When all seems hopeless, there is always someone, somewhere, who doesn't judge us, who is willing to give us an even break. And then there are those who work tirelessly for others, doctors, nurses, ambulance workers, fire fighters, people like that. As I say, there's still so much treasure in our world.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
I think that if a person do not know how to be considerate with other people's feelings, there's no way he can apply that saying. Unless he is living in a far away island and he doesn't have to deal with other people, he can do everything that pleases him. If he is a type of person that would just sleep whenever he likes, I think that no employer would want him. Or if he is this type of person that do not want to follow rules, I think that no school would accept him.
@GemmaR (8517)
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27 Oct 12
I think that it is a shame when people don't like you for who you are, but at the same time I really don't agree with pretending to be somebody you're not just to suit other people. I would never do this, because I just think that if people don't appreciate you for the way you are then they're probably not worth knowing at all. I love my friends very much, but if they ever said to me that they didn't like something about me then I would simply say to them that either they accept me for who I am, or I don't want them to be my friends anymore.
@Gretchen522 (715)
• China
28 Oct 12
"To be who you are" is an popular sentence, but that it right. No matter who you are there's alway different sounds behind you, so in order not to be much tired to satisfy others to be who you are, and that is a good choice in any circumstance.
@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
28 Oct 12
Sadly, it is the truth. And if ever we want to succeed in our wpcareers, for example, we must be a bit cautious in making sure that we don't show or give in much of our true selves. But atleast, I can still find comfort in knowing that when I come home, my husband and my family loves me for who I am. And I have a couple of true friends who would take me as I am with open arms. That might also be the reason why I never mix business with pleasure.
