my mother who is always complaining

Maybe you should talk to her.. That is just bad.. She should stop always looking for better stuff in life and be grateful for what she has.. You should tell her how you feel. Also, while you're at it, you can make her watch those documentaries about poor families living in harsh conditions t open her eyes..

The next time you buy something for the household try to buy the items your mother wanted you to buy,and of course your mother has another complain.Try to explain to her that your earnings are not enough to buy what she wanted you to buy,that you havbe tried your best to make her happy.Give her some importance by asking her what she wanted for you to buy next,but advice her that what you can only afford with your salary can be bought.Tell her also that you love her and do your best to make her happy,so that she would know you cared for her and the whole family.I know your problem would be solve the next time you do what I have told you.so that she would never complain the time she have seen what you have bought for her.

I also meet that problem. My mom wanted me to be a teacher, so I tried my best to be a teacher. But after I made it. She said that is meaningless. To say the truth, I wanted to be a traveler not a teacher, I choose to be a teacher just because my mom wanted me to be. For my mom, I have given up all of my interests, even my own future, while she still makes me meaningless. I think just because I am a girl not a boy. In most cases, your mother do that because she can do nothing right, so she tries to find out her own value by scolding you. Forget that and do what you really want, that can make you happy.

fearless: The first thing you need to understand is that if you have truly done the best that you can do, then, you are not at fault for your mother's unhappiness. You will not be able to bring her happiness and peace that is apparently lacking in her life. If you can honestly look inside yourself and declare that you have done what you feel you should, then it should be enough. It just seems to me that your mother is a miserable person. You cannot fix that for her. All you can do is do what you feel is right in regards to helping out in the home and such. Apart from that, all you can do is pray that your mother will find the peace she needs. Other people may have advised you to stop doing so much for her. Some people think that maybe you should do a little less. It may make your mother pause and think when she has to do without the things that you do for her. There is an old saying that says "you don't realize what you have until its gone." Above all, you have to remember that if in your heart and mind you know you have done your best, then your best IS enough!

You have to positive thinking with your mother.At that time maybe she's still has many problems that you don't know.Actually your mother is really love you,maybe she wanna give lesson for you or teach you for some works.In order to in the future you'll be strong person.Don't judge your mother with what you're looking at,i am sure she has a good plan for you.

hi, it happens with many , may be she is too much worried about something.She may be not getting out of that even after trying so much. Try to talk to her .Explain her in calm manner that ,that much of tensions are not good for her health.You need her.

You're not alone. It happens to me as well from time to time and it can be very frustrating. However frustrating it can be, they are still our mothers. We are what we are today because of them. Although I'm not saying that I always understand my mom, because it's just the opposite most of the time, but after some time when I get to come to my senses, I realized that maybe it's just a mother's alibi. Maybe they find it difficult to express how grateful they are of what we bought or did for them. And that maybe they sometimes hate themselves or hate the idea that it is us who are buying or doing something for them instead of them doing those and that it hurts them and makes them think little of themselves. So they just complain, nag, or insult us as a defense mechanism as a way to cope with those feelings. But I know for sure that they love us. And I know your mother loves you. Even though your mom keeps on complaining and everything, just continue what you are doing for them. It's the right thing. I'm sure she will come around.

I think that it can be hard when you are living with somebody who does nothing but complain about you. When I finished my course at University I decided that I was going to work from home online, but she complained that it wasn't a real job even though I got the money for it. Then when I started looking for work she would complain about the types of job that I was looking for, as though they weren't good enough either. I think that parents just want the best for us, but it can certainly be very hard to understand that when they're complaining so much.

That's sad to hear. I myself had wondered why there are parents who do not seem to appreciate the things their children do. It's as if they have this sort of standard, some sort of expectation, that children should meet. I'm not sure about your customs, but if it's allowed to sort of voice out how you feel, I think you should. I'm now a parent, and I've always encouraged my son to tell me if I'm doing something that's making him feel bad. Maybe your mother isn't aware that her 'complaining' is hurting you.

I know it is sad to be coming home only to be thrown with such harsh words instead of being appreciated. I guess, your mother just feels tired of a lot of things and worried at the same time. I am talking based on my own personal experience. Sometimes, unknowingly, I take out my frustrations to my kids coz of a lot of things going through my head. I know that I should not be taking it on my kids, but sometimes I could not control the emotions. Why not give your mom an hug when she starts to be doing her "litany". I am sure it will soften her heart.

Hi! WOW! I hear you as there have been times when I went through something like this myself and had to blow the whistle a few times. I call them 'bolder moments' and sometimes they do work; depends on the person they are directed to and the circumstances involved. Let me ask you something...is it easy for you to approach your mom and tell her that her attitude is bothering you? Is there someone else who knows enough about her that you can talk to; has something happened in her past that has made her act this way? I know this is not always easy to do but you may have to say something so your mom may start catching herself before she says something else that hurts. There is also the chance that your mom may not be able to change and if that's the case, don't let her bad habits become yours. I do hope for your sake she will listen and catch herself.

Sorry but it is not your obligation as a daughter to pay unless you are old enough (adult = 18 years old) to live on your own. If you have a job of your own you should have your own house hold. If you are still goint to school and have some job next to it (like kids over here) you can pay for your own need. If you are an adult and have an income and stay at your parents house (instead of having and paying for your own place) you can pay your parents for that room plus food. Since your mother doesn't like the things you buy you can give her some money for that and let her buy what she needs. If you are a member of the family, still living with her you should eat there also. If not you can give her less. Why some people (dads complain a lot as well) do complain I don't know. Might be it's a way to make them feel better, or a way to make you feel miserable and run harder. But since your mother keeps complaining and no mather what you do is fine with her you should ask yourself if you should give her money or buy things for her at all. No mather if you do or not she will complain about you anyway and make you feel miserable. I think ít's better to feel miserable because you don't help her out and you have money for you to build a future, as to feel miserable because she keeps picking on you and you are broke as well and have no posibilities to build your own future at all. Consider this and tell your mother straight ahead that if she keeps continue complaining (you will not ask her to say thanks) you will quit helping her out! Might be she is not even aware of her complaining day and night since this can be a habbit of her already.

Hi friend, welcome to mylot. Sad to hear about your situation, don't worry for it. Some persons are in your mother's sort and always finding faults and negatives in each and every activities, it is really hard to live with this kind of persons, but what to do? try your maximum to get good name from your mother and do things for it. All the best

Don't feel that way. She is your mother and of course she loves you and admires you. Its just her habit of complainig. Today I helped my mother in drying her washed clothes. But instead of thanking me , she started scolding me because I have not missed out two clothes. So this is very usual and I don't think about it much. But if she never appreciates you, you can confront her . This way you may discover if you are wrong or she doesn't know herself