Love or Decision?

Decision itself makes love last longer. Marriage can stand by decision but marriage cannot last by just "LOVE" alone. Some marriages stand by a good decision without the presence of love.It can be a responsibility. Happy mylotting!

You know when I read your post, I was thinking to myself what really are the secrets to a long marriage? I searched the internet and found this site: www.aish.com/f/m/3_Secrets_to_a_Long_and_Happy_Marriage.html. It is really a good read. I realized that simply love or decision is not enough to keep marriage going.

It is always easier to maintain something if it's really coming from the heart. Therefore, I'd say, it's better if marriage or any relationship/friendship for that matter is based and maintained through love. But, because many mistake love as a feeling and we all know that feelings fade, we all need to make a decision to stay in love. Not to be dictated by what we currently feel. Many couples end up overwhelmed by how different they are from each other after a couple of years of being together. And this is usually the cause of breakup or separation. They won't make the decision to stick with each other because it's inconvenient to put up with someone whose mindset, beliefs and convictions are different from yours. So, they take the easy way out. Love becomes a thing of the past. But, what love really is isn't what most people believe it is. Love is a verb. Love is not a noun. Love is a decision. The feeling may not be felt maybe for some time because of misunderstanding or whatever but if one will decide to love even there's no feeling of love, love will stay. Love is doing not expecting. So, it's a daily decision to do something for someone even to the point of sacrificing self-interest. I can't pick which one is more important because I believe both are. The absence or lack of love will be covered by the decision to stay and keep on. And the absence of having to make a decision means love abounds. Hope I made sense to you. ^_^

I think that there are many different reasons that people might choose to remain married, but I always feel sorry for those couples who are still together when they don't love each other anymore, and when that fact is completely obvious. I love my partner and if I married him then I think that I would have to finish the marriage if I found that the love had gone between us, because I feel that strongly about the fact that people should be in love if they want to be married. If they're not in love then I don't think that they should be married at all.

I think both. Well, I don't have any husband yet but if ever I am married with my boyfriend right now, I can say that it's really love and the decision follows. I love him too much so I decided to stay with him forever. Something like that.

You have to love someone to want to make it work. Marriages that are based on decisions and no feelings tend to end badly. A friend of mine married a women after dating her for two months and knocking her up. They fought daily and she stabbed him with a knife. He never loved her but made the decision he wanted to be married for the child. Granted its always wonderful when families are together but you cannot fake love of fake your way through a marriage the rest of your life. I've also unfortunately known quite a few people who have made similar mistakes. They either get married for the wrong reasons and move to fast. Fortunately none of them were playing with knives though.

To keep going marriage life strong I can say it the faith, trust, confidence and love between two (husband and wife) plays the major role. When both partner knows their duties towards their family then surely they will have the good family life.

You could be in a marriage for varied reasons. But for a real marriage to last long, there should be love between them. Deciding to stay in a marriage would be the reason for a couple who have fallen out of love but chose to be together for the sake of their children.

For a lot of people it's both. For our relationship it is a decision. To make a marriage work it requires love and so many other things. Our marriage isn't at it's best in fact it's at it's worst. But for now the DECISION is to try and hang in there through these tough times.

For me, love and decision should go along with each other. Each should decide what is the right thing to do. And having love with each other will bind them. I guess the important core of marriage is trust. Both should have that. Without that, I am sure with whatever you decide and how much your love with each other, it will surely slowly crumbles. Spread the love my friend.

First and foremost, why we want to marry someone? Maybe we love that someone that we want to spend our lifetime with them, maybe for security purposes either financially, or emotionally and so on and so forth. Marriage for me is very sacred, its what I want to experience with someone I love but as we all know changes do happened every time.. Feelings aren't constant, some times we get confused about some thing that we mistakenly understood into some thing its not. DECISION maybe yes.. but I believe that respect and holdin on to what two people vowed in front of HIM is what makes marriage last..