Does Fighting Strengthen A Relationship?

If in and/or throught the pursuit of an argument, one not only exposes the issues to be dealt with, but one can also derive solutions (and impliment them to solve a problem between you). If that outcome is achieved, then argue as often as you can. In the end your relationship is strengthened, as you suggested (that you both make up the next day) However, I would suggest that the arguments must never escalate to the point that it becomes a quarrel; as that condition or state usually brings moments of abuse! In quarrels, this when the benefits of arguing a point can be lost.

I don't think that the fights themselves are what brings strength to you as couple, but I do believe that it is the way that we choose to deal with our problems that really decides whether we are strong or not. If we are able to talk to our partners about the things that have gone wrong between us then we would be able to sort out a solution, and if it is an argument that would bring that chance to have such a discussion then I think that it is probably a good thing in the long term even though it might not be all that nice at the time.

Stress can cause alot of problems in relationships. Find time to talk about the stress you both have in your lives and find a way to lessen it. Every relationship has its ups and downs. I have never heard of any not having an argument at least once in awhile. Maybe you can find ways together to stop cutting each other down when you argue. When it gets to the point that is going to start maybe you two could say break time and just dont speak to each other til both are calm again. At that point you will be able to continue the discussion calmer and with a clearer head.

It sounds like both of you are under a lot of stress and also sounds like you both explode when angry rather than agree to sit down and mutually discuss things calmly. I'm wondering if, when you say you argue over the smallest detail, these little things would cause less or no arguments if you weren't under pressure? Would some relationship counselling help you, do you think? If you can both get through this phase without destroying one another, chances are fair that, if you have a good basic close relationship, you could come out the other side and it may make you stronger as a couple?

I don't think that any relationship would be normal if there were no disagreements between the couples. It is part of a healthy relationship to disagree on certain things. It is just like saying that there are no two persons that are alike. Differences is good. You just need to see his point and understand as much as he should do the same. However, if the disagreements become more often than having a wonderful day together, then maybe it would be a lot better if you go on separate ways.

Hi friend, fighting is part of a relationship. It's impossible that a couple won't fight at times. It can make the relationship stronger or it can worsen it. It actually depends on how you resolve your differences. If you often fight and doesn't really talk about how you can resolve on it, then that's not a good sign. It's okay to fight as long as you talk about it and resolve your differences.

I felt, in your case the fight is strengthening the relationship. But in many cases, it depends, like Jai said. If the fights are just on words, and clearing out the mind through words, it will work greatly after the storm. But in physical tortures, no one will tolerate.

In my opinion there is nothing bad in fighting among your loved ones. In my view point one can only fight with the other person only if he/she loves the other. Therefore where there is love there will definitely have some small small fights. And also you mentioned that even though you fight among yourselves in late night the next day day you will make it, that itself is clear message that you both love each other very much. Therefore in my opinion small fighta are good for a strong relation.

That depends on how the fights goes. If it is physical, I don't think it will strengthen the relationship. I will never forgive my partner if he ever lift a finger on me. But if it is misunderstanding- I can say, it will strengthen the relationship. Misunderstanding is knowing each differences and that will help each other to know your likes an dislikes.

I don't think it strengthen, when there's love it will also exist the differences so that's why a couple that love each other would fight, for being stubborn, proud or something but with love they can move on. I think it's normal to have fights in the begining, but in time it has to get better or the relationship is just hell. We don't fight much anymore.

It's not the fight that does but the fact you show what you find acceptable and what not. If you are fighting about little things it means you never been that honest at all. At the start you (both) were taking everything for granted (in the name of love), or were hoping it would change in time if you know eachother better. But knowing eachother for real means you both have to know very well what you like or dislike and also be honest about that. Some people know from the very start and will say so too. Others will dicover that in time. Yelling and screaming means you both are not really listening (or understanding) why the other one is making such a "scene out of nothing" suddenly. So you both should ask yourself what is really worth fighting for (no compromise), in which cases you can make a compromise and which cases are not even worth mentioning at all. It can partly be stress (since this is what we all have) but it also can became a habit, started with a bigger issue that could not be "won" or discussed and now is a "fight" about nothing just to "win" at least once.

Some people do have the essence of having their relationship strengthen after the fight, but it is not healthy. It should be a compromise basis instead of fighting all through out the day or night. They need to know how to listen and be sensitive.

Little fights do strengthen relationships. But the reason of your fight should center around love, concern, well being etc. You should never let ego come in between you two. Let you fights be short-lived. Fight in the morning and patch up in the evening.

Well it does sound like you fight an awful lot. Are you both the type that likes to have the last word? I had two friends who were married and they were both the sort that would fight forever. All it takes is one of you to realize its a stupid thing to argue about and let it go but I know for some of us its not always that easy. Stress of your lives could be causing silly arguments however it does sound like you're starting down the wrong path. If you love him or have strong feelings I'd try to make it work. Have you tried talking to him? Maybe the next time you start to argue try pointing it out how silly it is and maybe you'll make up sooner.

I have been married for almost 18 years and I have to say that some times its good to fight. Not all the time and not a physical fight but yelling and screaming is good some times if you can get the problem resolved with your fighting. If your just fighting to fight then that is not good. I feel that sometimes you need to fight its not that you have problems but sometimes when we fight we say things that are true that we would never say other wise but it gets your feelings out there and opens the door for them to be resolved. Like Garth Brooks said "sometimes we fight just so we can make up" I think that the best part of fighting is making up.

I think there has to be a middle ground. I mean that in that you can't hold everything back and fight over nothing. Doing that will lead to mega stress and a grudge against your partner. You also have to kind of pick your battles or you will be fighting over everything which isn't good on a relationship. Relationships are hard, but all in all worth it!

I don't fully know your relationship enough to make judgements, but it seems that stressful situations may bring on arguments for you. It really is a lie when you agree to not fight lol my boyfriend and I do this all the time but something always ends up happening and we'll get in an argument. What we do instead is agree to not call each other rude names and if we are ever unhappy about something we let each other know or if we're having some stress in our lives we tell each other what's going on and we don't take our anger out on each other. That seems to help a little even though we still fight sometimes. I don't think it means your relationship is doomed. Whenever there's 2 people there's always bound to some small conflict. It's normal but just set up so rules with your guy so that when arguments do come up, both of you know how to still respect each other yet get your points across.

I wouldnt think so. Talking about ones problems might. But fighting wouldnt. That to me, just ruins a relationship.