A true apology has 3 parts

This is so much like I've heard from one of the retreats that I had attended. It is a retreat from our church called Encounter God retreat. (EGR) I think this is important. Because of our pride, it is so hard to say sorry. The best part is doing what we think is right.

hi, i could say that i will agree on that,because when we know or even not our mistakes,we should always say sorry and we should learn and make it right,sometimes we can only say sorry but we are not sincere,so to become sincere i would rather make it right.

This is so true. This is what I do! Whenever I make a mistake with a friend or my boyfriend, I want to cool down first when I'm angry and when I'm ready, I will just admit my mistake and will tell them I will make up for it. This is the sincerest way to apologize.

You are right, Bhuwar. Still, I would like to add that we must pledge in our hearts to make it right. Sometimes people just say they will, but there`s no real commitment. A big hug

I could not agree more with your statement. Making mistake is what everybody does in their lives. The most important thing about mistake is that it should be able to teach us something and make us a better person in the future. Of course one have to realize his or her mistake and sincerely want to change for the better. That is the most important part after admitting one has done wrong. Not many would be able to judge and accept their mistakes. People are generally good at spotting others' mistakes.

Hi, You are right. Apology has three parts. We should say sorry from the bottom of the heart. we should accept our mistake and try to make it right. Only saying sorry is not fair. we should try to improve from our mistakes and should not continue doing mistakes again and again.

You're right when you say that you have to make sure that you're not just saying sorry to somebody, because this is something that isn't enough in a lot of situations. I know that whenever I make a mistake I will try to do everything that it takes to make things a little bit better again. If I hurt somebody I will make sure that I make it up to them over the course of a few weeks, and I won't stop until I am happy that I have done so. I don't think that there are enough people who make an effort to correct their own mistakes, and this is a shame.

I never thought of an apology as having 3 parts. That is very interesting. usually i just say i'm sorry or it's my fault or the third part but i never say them all together in on apology. I will start doing this because it seems the right way to apologize and i would like for someone to do this with me when apologizing.

You know, I honestly have never thought about an apology in this way. I mean I kow that you have to say that you are sorry and you will admit that it is your fault. Then there is the part about making things right. However, it is the third part of an apology that I think isn't always the case. You know there are some times that a simple apology is all that is necessary. However, I do think that there are other times that you do have to offer to do something to make the mistake right.

namaskar sir This is so very right. I have seen people who are in habit of saying Sorry and they dont mean anything, they say it just for the sake of it. These are the ignorant people. I guess these are quite common and there are many large number of people. The other category is the set of people who would imply that they are sorry, and even accept their fault (okay, sometimes they have to be shown that they were wrong) but this set of people is large in number too. The third category which also tries to identify where the reason to be sorry was and even rectify it or try to correct them are the rarest. Personally, I have tried to be in this third stage of people.

Nice discussion and yes third part is important not only 3rd but all part is important but we miss the 3rd part. We dont try to make something for better situation.

I like the people who accepts their mistake. Accepting alone never yield fruits but restoring the mistake can do magic

I really do like your concept of true apology. It not only open my eyes but teach me to learn how to be humble. I am not use to asking for an apology. Honestly, I rarely do it. And those rare times I always miss the number 2 and 3 parts. Thanks for sharing. Have a lucky day ahead too. Ciao!

I've never thought about it but you're right. Also I tend to ask all three of those questions however I don't believe that most people do. I'm just a little more sensitive towards other peoples feelings then most. If one is truly they should want to make it up. People probably often spit out the words I'm sorry too casually just to appease someone else and don't really mean them at all.

One gift I wish I had received earlier in life is knowledge of apology. It is difficult to match forward when we carry bitterness inside. I am slowly learning how to forgive and let go of any grudges I have so i be free off all bitterness.

Hi Professor, I agree on all counts, including the part that says "most of us miss this part", referring to no. 3. Maybe because it's the most difficult to do, because doing it means taking another step forward or exerting more effort. Not everyone is willing to get to that part.

I agree, professor. I am also guilty of that, because i don't ask the 3rd question. Although i act on it to repair the damage. But saying that third one seems a bit difficult indeed. I remembered the seminar we had on this concern; H - hear what they have to say E - emphatize A - apologize T - take the responsibility of repairing what has been damaged , like the hurt feeling.

Yes, you are right. I also noticed that. I said sorry after I did my mistake but then I did not utter that words"What can I do to make it right?". You gave me an idea professor. Thanks a lot for the reminder.Sometimes we said sorry and then we are doing that mistake all over again.

some say "i'm sorry" but don't really mean it. they don't take time to understand the other person's situation and what they want corrected so they end up repeating the same thing and the other person gives up on them eventually.