Why do people put very personal things like relationship problems on Facebook??
By Sindelle
@Sindelle (824)
United States
October 30, 2012 4:52pm CST
Personally I'd be very angry if I logged onto Facebook one day and I saw my boyfriend complaining about me to his 300 person friend list. I would think that this would bother most people but it seems to be becoming the social norm. I've seen public break ups, nasty arguments, affairs exposed, and one person using graphic language describing how she cheated on her man. I don't understand why people do this. Do any of you do this? Do you have a friend that does this? What is the craziest thing that you've ever seen pop up on your Facebook? For me I'd have to say the guy who got caught cheating when I went online last night.
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@jobfindonline (1744)
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31 Oct 12
probably because they want attention, has no one to talk to, hungry for popularity, seeking for the sympathy of others, a way to take revenge... there are so many reasons behind it. When personal things are put in public, often small things get bigger and more people are involved.
I don't do this thing coz I care for my privacy.
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@Sindelle (824)
• United States
31 Oct 12
Its funny but I've seen a lot of relationships end over Facebook but in the cases I've seen (not talking about your situation)one was cheating on the other then got caught through wall posts. If it were me and I caught someone betraying me on Facebook while it would probably hurt my feelings I'd be glad I found out.
@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
31 Oct 12
I dont know why people do this but i think keep your perosnall relationships to yourself and its your life you dont need everyone involved in your life in the first place and just keep it to yourself at the end of your day. Posting your life on facebook is crazy and silly and your showing your life to the world almost im glad i have a facebook account but i rarely ever post anything on it because i see others posting and i just dont need to see the point of posting that much at all.
@Sindelle (824)
• United States
31 Oct 12
One of the things I've also noticed is that many of these people also complain that everyone is in their business.....In fact I saw one of them post a comment to this effect. Of course there were like 50 responses saying something along the lines of don't post personal stuff on your Facebook and it will stop.....Did she listen? Nope lol
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
I do believe that most of this people are really depressed and do not have any person that they can count on in terms of their problems. These are people who are usually emotionally unfit in facing life's problems. However, some are just that expressive enough that they want the world to know that they exist and achieving such would be posting those kind of things.
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
31 Oct 12
Thats a good reason why I dont have a facebook acct. To much info. is posted there for everyone to see.
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@Sindelle (824)
• United States
31 Oct 12
I have a Facebook account obviously. I only tell funny stories, share photos, and experiences which are remotely interesting. As for what other people have to say I just sit back and enjoy the ride. I think of it as my own personal Jerry Springer Show.
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@charmx143 (5)
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31 Oct 12
peopke put their relationship problems on facebook, i think because they find it easy to express on facebook and they want to find people who can relate with their problems and feel like they are not alone.. and probably someone might comfort them.. :)
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
Oh my , you mean some are looking for public comfort ? It is true, so very easy to express and deliver anything in Facebook and in single second one will get a response. It is a beautiful thing , if only what is being express are all in positive side but mostly , what is being shouted there are negative. That is why , one must take some strict precautions since we all know , honor is life and honor is fragile , once it is broken , it can no longer be restored perfectly .
@charmx143 (5)
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2 Nov 12
yeahhh.. somehow like that.. you might be shouted by negative comments and feedbacks if your friends in facebook are not your friends really.. so choose who will be your friend in facebook and make sure they know you and you know them.. :) facebook is very useful site to communicate with friends who are far from you :)
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
31 Oct 12
I think some people wants to share their feelings in facebook to others. I think it is not good to put lots of personal things in Facebook. I think now a days lots of people use Facebook. ![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@redredrose (1105)
• United States
31 Oct 12
Yes i have seen things like this on Facebook, but u don't post things like this on there. My husband and i separated for 3 months back in 2008 and i was on Facebook but didn't post a thing about it to anyone. What i did is talk to people close to me like my brother in law and a really close friend in private chat about it but that was all. I think some of the people that do this are depressed i agree with who said that, but mostly people just do things on Facebook like that for attention. I would never post something like on Facebook because it is sucha private matter and the whole world doesn't need to know. Plus it makes you look kind of mean and or foolish when you do things like that and why would someone tell everyone on Facebook that they cheated and why.
@Sindelle (824)
• United States
31 Oct 12
I'm not sure I just read that post and thought to myself I hope her mother isn't on her friends list. She even went as far to say how she cheated graphically. Then for some reason called him a hoe which obviously made absolutely no sense. I know sometimes people do things out of anger but come on.
@deedee328 (1122)
• United States
31 Oct 12
I will never understand why some people feel the need to make personal information public. I think that it is best to keep private matters private. I think people who do post relationship problems and such fail to realize how ignorant they come across to other people.
@Sindelle (824)
• United States
31 Oct 12
I could see why they might want to talk to some close friends but not 300 lol. Some of the personal information I've seen broadcasted I'd find down right embarrassing too. Just the other day I read a post and thought to myself I hope her family isn't reading this. I think you're right they probably don't know how ignorant they sound.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
31 Oct 12
Ugh. Some people just don't know their manners. They are cheap and trashy, jut it's more obvious on facebook. They can't distinguish between stuff that is pivate matter and stuff that could be posted to Facebook. I don't wanna read about ppl fighting pettily and calling each other bad names after a break-up, someone having seriously awful diarrhoea or how drunk somebody is. It's just not elegant, people.
What I hate the most... well, I have some ex-classmates and their friends (whom I know as well), who are really crazy about football/soccer/whatever your dialect calls it... but they don't root for the same clubs and teams... you just can't imagine how filthily and dirtily they talk to each other, their own friends!!!, after a match, when it was between their fave teams... they call each other d.cks, b.st.rds, .ssholes and tell each other to s.ck their c.cks and to f.ck off... and they are supposed to be friends... and when I see such filthy language a page long on my wall... that's just sad for me.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
Some people are too emotional that they can no longer think of what is desirable and good because of the reason that they are overflowed with their emotions. They forget , Facebook is a public place therefore must protect themselves , they must not display their emotions there for no one buys an emotions and absolutely , it has no market. Why not stay in private forum , express there , start a rage , fight until to the last drop of your sweat. See , nothing happens after a heavy fight , like nothing happened, integrity still in the highest level.
@BlackoutWorm (54)
• Norway
31 Oct 12
Personal problems may be easier to talk about when you are a bit more anonymous.
Things that can be difficult to talk about, can very often be easy and even a relief to write about.
It's easier to open up over the internet.
@Sindelle (824)
• United States
31 Oct 12
I know a lot of people who are more talkative online then they are in real life. I think a better way for them to handle their problems if they really need to talk about them online would be a site like this. You're still getting the advice you need and a place to vent without broadcasting your personal life to the whole neighborhood.
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